TracyBluebird is offline TracyBluebird Post #1  October 21,2009, 5:28pm
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Do any of you have an "old" anniversary that just sticks in your head? I have one coming up tomorrow, 10/22/88 was my wedding anniversary, so now I call it my "anti-versary."

At times it hurts to think about the fact the dream of having that forever with someone didn't work, but, in more ways than one it's for the best it's over.

But the stinking date just bugs me, and I am trying to be creative with giving it a new definition.

I am having a massage and getting my hair done.

What would you do on the unfortunately, unforgettable day?

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BobinFla is offline BobinFla Post #2  October 21,2009, 5:54pm
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I started out trying to get l a i d on that day for me, but found that celebrating the day my divorce was final was a better option. When I divorced, I got put in the position of doing something that I didn't believe was right (but time has shown me it is alright). Try thinking of the day when you were free, could do for yourself without having to answer to someone else. Feel good about yourself and celebrate the fact that you have something very good to offer someone.
 
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BobinFla wrote :
I started out trying to get l a i d on that day for me, but found that celebrating the day my divorce was final was a better option. When I divorced, I got put in the position of doing something that I didn't believe was right (but time has shown me it is alright). Try thinking of the day when you were free, could do for yourself without having to answer to someone else. Feel good about yourself and celebrate the fact that you have something very good to offer someone.
Well, that first line made me laugh, that was nice!

I was thinking through what you said, and getting stuck on this day and even acknowledging it too much is like when someone gets hung up on a death date.

Celebrate the life! Celebrate the fact I don't have to be controlled and worry if I am going to get screamed at for no reason!

Yippee!

By the way, I had a very nice anti versary. I swam 1.5 miles, worked on my Masters Courses, worked with my trainer group for an hour, went to the mall and got Smokie Eyes at the Estee Lauder counter and spent the evening with my kids.

The sunset and the cresent moon over the Severn River were absolutely beautiful tonight! I am so happy to be home where I grew up...we have just been here a year, but it feels like forever.
 
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maybe not funny or Completely Stupid- but a nice relief, nevertheless...

i was asked the other day when my anniversary was. i could not remember the date.

That was nice...
Last edited by notyet; October 23,2009 at 1:46am. Reason: no, i had never forgotten or missed it when i was married.
 
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notyet wrote :
maybe not funny or Completely Stupid- but a nice relief, nevertheless...

i was asked the other day when my anniversary was. i could not remember the date.

That was nice...
Bravo! I look forward to that day I forget! It was just the first actually divorced antiversary yesterday, after 5 ugly years of separation, so it was a bit poignant.

Thanks for sharing! It too made me smile.
 
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TracyBluebird wrote :
Do any of you have an "old" anniversary that just sticks in your head? I have one coming up tomorrow, 10/22/88 was my wedding anniversary, so now I call it my "anti-versary."
10/17/98 was my wedding and 10/17/08 was the day my ex and I signed our divorce papers. Like the day of my divorce a year ago, my wedding anniversary came and went this year without me realizing it, so no anti-versaries for me really. I moved on well before the divorce signing day and I have someone else to think about now instead.
 
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I actually got married on my parents anniversary. They're still married, I am not. I always thought of the day as theirs before I got married, and I certainly do now.

The date of my final divorce decree was on July 13th, 3 years ago...funny how "13" was never unlucky for me! I call the day "celebration day", after the old Led Zep. song.
 
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I don't think about the anti versary much, but coincidentally, the fiance and I were each married on the tenth of the month the first time....and we both decided that, whatever wedding date we picked, it was not going to be the 10th of any month! So, November 28, here we come.....
 
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MelinCali wrote :
Like the day of my divorce a year ago, my wedding anniversary came and went this year without me realizing it, ........ I moved on well before the divorce signing day and I have someone else to think about now instead.
I look forward to that day also, both not realizing the day and having someone else to think about! Thanks for sharing!
 
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I actually got married on my parents anniversary. They're still married, I am not. I always thought of the day as theirs before I got married, and I certainly do now.

The date of my final divorce decree was on July 13th, 3 years ago...funny how "13" was never unlucky for me! I call the day "celebration day", after the old Led Zep. song.
Now your parent have their day all to themselves!

My final divorce decree was March 24th, and I agree, what a day to celebrate.
 
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