zal is offline zal Post #31  October 6,2009, 5:56pm
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This is CSC, right?

Periodically on this forum there's a thread about chivalry/manners and whether it's customary for a man to pay for 1st date drinks/dinner, or whatever. Some women say they would offer to pay part or all of the bill, but if the man accepts, then there's no 2nd date. Their conclusion is that he's either cheap, lacking in generosity or broke. Many men are usually quick to point out the unfairness of this.

Taking it one step further with regard to sleeping together, if I'm dating with the intention of finding a partner, and I want guy with high moral standards -- I may want a guy who won't sleep with a gal on the first date. Right?

So I show up in a tasteful but slinky black dress, show genuine interest and affection, and entice the (poor unsuspecting) fella into safe sex on our first date. I do this to flush out the guys who are not LTR or marriage material.

What do you think? Problems? Concerns?
I think if more women "tested" men in this way there would be a LOT of HAPPY men, especially those in their 20's. I'm all for it.
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #32  October 6,2009, 6:02pm
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Good point!

To assist this question, we need a photo of LacedWithHope in the slinky black dress.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Wait until you see yourself in the Bachelorette party!
oh honey, I've been in a bachelorette party .... that, in fact, is an excellent bedtime story ...

Unsolicited advice: never wear thin white cotton to a bachelorette party.

Hey ... wait: why am I at this party? Who's party?
 
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zal wrote :
I think if more women "tested" men in this way there would be a LOT of HAPPY men, especially those in their 20's. I'm all for it.
A friend had a tshirt on today that said...

Men are like floor tiles....If you lay them the right way you can walk all over them.
 
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Ciao_eh is offline Ciao_eh Post #35  October 6,2009, 6:04pm
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Save a few for Peg and I, okay?
I am pretty sure I had sex with this frog on a first date... I love butter cookies... He did not call me the next day, though. He was a goner!
 
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More times than I care to admit it was me who did the poofing.
 
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We are equal opportunity poofers here.

party poke and poof!
 
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Ciao_eh wrote :
I am pretty sure I had sex with this frog on a first date... I love butter cookies... He did not call me the next day, though. He was a goner!
Oh dear. I hope it wasn't D_Lion.

*isn't this how rumors get started?*
 
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winn is offline winn Post #40  October 6,2009, 7:31pm

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What first date? What sex?
I haven't had either one for a while.
 
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