graceventually is offline graceventually Post #1  August 31,2009, 9:00am
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OK, fellow CSCers, I've got a question for you about my upcoming wedding reception.

The fiance has worked with a restaurant near his office on several occasions over the last few years. He's booked them for both office parties and for holiday dinners for their clients (he's a supervisor at an outpatient program for the mentally ill; many of whom are poor and in some cases no longer in touch with family, and so do not have anywhere else to go for a holiday meal besides a soup kitchen). He's been very favorably impressed with this restaurant on every level: quality, service, and price. We've enjoyed the restaurant several times since we started dating; both alone together and with friends in the area who love it too. So when the fiance suggested we get them to cater the wedding reception (at the church), and that we go there (to the restaurant) for the rehearsal dinner, I thought it was a great idea.

My mother, however, has decided that it is a very odd choice, because it is an Italian restaurant. She's never eaten there, so it isn't that she objects to this restaurant based on a bad experience there; and she has always loved Italian food. It's just that she thinks that Italian is such an unusual choice for a wedding reception that "people will talk". Specifically, she is sure my church members will find it strange and won't like it. I doubt this, since the church holds an annual spaghetti dinner as a fundraiser, and it's always very popular.

I've eaten my share of mediocre reception food (bland gravy, chewy beef, tepid rice pilaf, overcooked green beans, rubbery chicken - you know the type) and I am pleased that I know ours will be very good. We are middle-aged folk who are paying for our own reception, so mom has no veto power here; and while I am listening to her, our plans will not be changing. I'm just wondering if we are really doing anything that unusual, in this day and age? Has anyone else ever been to a reception with ethnic food, and how was it received? FYI and not that it should matter, but neither of us is of Italian heritage.
 
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I think it's a great idea!!!! You're right, unless you're at somebody's wedding who's ultra rich (and um, I never have been, lol), the food usually IS blah. What a great gift to your friends and family to actually feed them a GOOD meal at a wedding! I love it.
 
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Grace, I think it sounds like a fun idea. I also like the idea that the food comes from a place to go back to on a date, possibly every anniversary.

I also like the idea of having really good food rather than blah ho hum food that no one can remember. Yours will be memorable!

I have never thought about it but Thai (being my favorite cuisine) might be fun at a reception/wedding. HMMMM!

How many days is it, by the way?
 
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Ohhhh Grace! I found you a wedding singer!!!!

 
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I ate at an Italian restaurant once and now I say Yo Vinny every day. I also drink wine at everymeal and I live in clothing that is white, green and red. No, nothing bad will happen to you.....
 
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I wonder what the poor Italians eat at their wedding receptions if Italian is out. Chinese?
 
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Beautiful, Lovely, Pre-wedding Jittery Grace -- you've made a sound choice and, I think, a beautiful and balanced one. People will ALWAYS talk -- and I hope they say things like ' yummy and *burp*'. You've enough to worry over without the choice of a restaurant being one of them.

You are perfect and so is your spoose to be.

Let the joy be the thing, not the doubt.

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Ok IMHO I think Italian Sounds GREAT!
Of course I love Itailan food every day of the week!

My self I think its classy an will add pazzaz to the gathering.
I mean of all the weddings people will go to, they'll remember your's
for having Great Food an wonderful people!
The church folk might talk but it'd be more along the lines of, Oh that
reception was Great! What about that Great Food they had!
An Wasnt the bride beautiful?!?!

I mean why stress it? Its your wedding an though mothers mean the
best an want the best for their children, Its ya'll choice, besides aint
a wedding supposed to reflect the individuals gettin hitched?

You have my vote!
 
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ksd is offline ksd Post #9  August 31,2009, 10:41am
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I have just one question.....WHOS WEDDING IS IT ANYWAYS??? and so what if people talk, if they don't like it they can do this
 
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Thank you all . I think you are right about the church folks, once everybody gets over the fact that it may be a little different (different for us, but you raised a fair point, RebornInFire). Loved the o-mazing video, and ksd....I am so not inviting the guy in your picture to my wedding! And as for the cow.....only if she's in the bolognese sauce.

And to answer your question: Nov. 28, so a little less than 3 months away!
 
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