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Lostintranslation is offline Lostintranslation Post #1  June 21,2009, 5:16pm
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HUSSIES AND KEEPERS!

One of US -- it is NOT important WHO -- is down, kicked down hard and is having some problems getting up and finding that still soft voice inside and making it sing a joyous song that a person sings only for themselves -- the joy of solitude and the joy of being whole and happy.

SO... I'm putting out the word. What I need from you is YOUR recipe for healing - your recipe for becoming healthy - your recipe for wholeness.

Mine:

1 part mantra: Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be only an option to them.

1 part silly: Today, my tinfoil hat is Mexican sombrero complete with tinfoil dingleballs.

1 part Comfort food: soup -something hearty like ham and bean

1 part guilty pleasure: reading detective novels or dusty historic non-fiction

1 thing I won't admit except when a friend needs me to: I have been hurt so that I thought I might never recover. I imagine it is a pain that will happen again in the course of my life. I thought I would never recover but I did. I sobbed, I screamed, I wanted to disappear from this earth -- I wrote -- I continued breathing -- my insides were broken and yet that little bit of hope survived and grew -- and I carry it with me always because I know I will need it again. If I could, I would give it to you dear one but you know -- you don't need it, you have your own and it is my wish you find it now and grow it yourself. I trust that YOU won't let yourself down.

NOW... who's next... what's your recipe?

And I swear... the first person that derails this thread or harms it in any way... I will haunt you and not in a good way after my death. Though it won't be so bad because my list of people I will be haunting already has a name or three on it. No worries though, I will have lots of time.
 
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fino4beat is offline fino4beat Post #2  June 21,2009, 5:36pm
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It's impossible to improve on this list. Maybe to emphasize limiting the time you spend listening to "those songs." Overdose on them for a few days, then it's power songs. I've been there too, twice actually. I don't plan on going there again, but we're all here for anyone who's there now. Fer sure. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}
 
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A SHORT RECIPE FOR MY HEALING (by MelinCali)

1 gallon of Haagen-Daz (chocolate)

1 bottle of Cabernet Sauvignon

Marinade in red wine during 2 or 3 miserable movies about people whose lives are worse without any disturbances. Ice cream should be added slowly to avoid brain freeze. Apply tissues liberally during marination procedure then dry off completely once self-pity is complete.

Proceed by adding:

a pinch of family for a reminder that someone loves me no matter how much my life feels like a train wreck

a dash of seeing someone else's happiness to see that there is hope

a friend or two who can put things in perspective (note: any number of additional friends may be added without ruining the recipe)

a heap of analysis and planning for what's next and why I know I will get through this time and be stronger.


Optional: Garnish with a generous pouring of unconditional love from a furry friend who is a bottomless pit of the stuff
 
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Mine is simple. Good conversation with friends usually helps a lot. Going for a long walk. Digging in my garden. Sometimes even cleaning my house....
But friends are the most uplifting for me.
 
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MelinCali wrote :
A SHORT RECIPE FOR MY HEALING (by MelinCali)

1 gallon of Haagen-Daz (chocolate)

1 bottle of Cabernet Sauvignon

Marinade in red wine during 2 or 3 miserable movies about people whose lives are worse without any disturbances. Ice cream should be added slowly to avoid brain freeze. Apply tissues liberally during marination procedure then dry off completely once self-pity is complete.

Proceed by adding:

a pinch of family for a reminder that someone loves me no matter how much my life feels like a train wreck

a dash of seeing someone else's happiness to see that there is hope

a friend or two who can put things in perspective (note: any number of additional friends may be added without ruining the recipe)

a heap of analysis and planning for what's next and why I know I will get through this time and be stronger.


Optional: Garnish with a generous pouring of unconditional love from a furry friend who is a bottomless pit of the stuff
This is why I have so many animals. Unconditional snuggles.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind is offline littlebluemonkeymind Post #6  June 21,2009, 5:39pm
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1. Friends...and when they don't say the right things, I give them the script. Sometimes I just need the reassurance that I'm not as f'd up as I sometimes suspect myself capable of being.

2. I take comfort in my own inconsequentiality in the universe. I know it's an odd way to get back to I RULE but when I stare at a sky full of stars or sit by the ocean, it comforts me to think that nothing I do and nothing that happens to me can really be that masssive.

3. Chocolate.

4. Well, you know there's that whole screaming-at-the-trains thing. It's empowering.

More in a bit...
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Ah yes, some simple indulgences too.
Chocolate and wine.
A pedicure or some other small luxury (for me they are).
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
1. Friends...and when they don't say the right things, I give them the script. Sometimes I need need the reassurance that I'm not as f'd up as I sometimes suspect myself capable of being.

2. I take comfort in my own inconsequentiality in the universe. I know it's an odd way to get back to I RULE but when I stare at a sky full of stars or sit by the ocean, it comforts me to think that nothing I do and nothing that happens to me can really be that masssive.

3. Chocolate.

4. Well, you know there's that whole screaming-at-the-trains thing. It's empowering.

More in a bit...
I'll have to second this recipe with the following additions and substitutions for my personal taste:

- Special attention to LBMM's #2

- Instead of chocolate, a lemon merengue (sp?) pie.

- fino's movie idea (especially tastey is the film Practical Magic. There is a moment when Sandra Bullock's character just breaks free after much brokeness)

- Tears...add to taste but remember, when you are done mixing you don't want to taste too much salt...
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Screaming. Really, really loud. That's the first step.

Crying. Crying is good for many reasons. It tires you out, for one thing. It also clears the sinuses. A good nose blow is always good!

Getting drunk. That's just good for the soul.

Revenge. To be "down", there's always a reason for revenge. Even if nothing is ever actually done, it's always good to "talk" revenge.

I hope whomever is hurting, they get better soon!!
 
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in the first few days when the pain is unbearable....
tears coffee.... tears coffee... tears coffee...
for me when it was my worst heart break...
I had friends on duty in 12 hour shifts...
so I was never alone...
for the first week or so...
sad movies to cry it out...
silly happy movies to laugh it up...
comfort food...
chocolate... good soup ( thai Tom Ka Kai )
long walks... writing in journals...
painting.... creating....
drinking a lot does not work well for me...
but a good glass of wine to relax...
a new hairdo.... and a new outfit....
time to contemplate and recreate myself...
 
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