choiceweb0pen0 is offline choiceweb0pen0 Post #1  May 27,2009, 7:45am
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So I'm going on a second date this weekend at a brewery about two hours away from where I live, mainly because it's a halfway point for me and my date, but also it's a place I've been meaning to go for several years now.

My well meaning friends (both male and female) suggested I should plan ahead and rent a hotel room. The reasoning is the slight distance, alcohol, and I suppose hopeful optimism for “something” to happen. I have to admit, it never occurred to me until they suggested it. We had a long first date, at a Mardi Gras parade (the non flashing part of it) and it went fairly well.

So what you do think? I'm not going to mention it ahead of time and will likely end up canceling the reservation by the cut off date, but am still conflicted about it.
 
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It depends on what you want from this woman.

I don't understand why people use negative terms when it comes to sex... If you think that it would be sleezy - which is negative - then I wouldn't do it. Why would you do something that would be negative?

A more positive way to look at it:
If you don't want to drive after drinking a hotel is a good idea. Get the hotel and tell her ahead of time that you have it for that very reason...
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choiceweb0pen0 wrote :
So I'm going on a second date this weekend at a brewery about two hours away from where I live, mainly because it's a halfway point for me and my date, but also it's a place I've been meaning to go for several years now.

My well meaning friends (both male and female) suggested I should plan ahead and rent a hotel room. The reasoning is the slight distance, alcohol, and I suppose hopeful optimism for “something” to happen. I have to admit, it never occurred to me until they suggested it. We had a long first date, at a Mardi Gras parade (the non flashing part of it) and it went fairly well.

So what you do think? I'm not going to mention it ahead of time and will likely end up canceling the reservation by the cut off date, but am still conflicted about it.
You realize, of course, that by posting this here you're likely to get all manner of stoopid answers, right? Not to mention the fact that since most of us (except for those lucky dawgs who have honeys) haven't been in a date in so long we'd be stuck on "What should I wear?"
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I agree with Dennis. If you think you might do some drinking and you shouldn't be driving afterwards, book the hotel and tell her. If she knows that is why, it doesn't look sleezy.

If you secretly book a room and spring it on her later, it sounds like you might be a little presumptuous. I would not be impressed if someone did that on a second date, but I totally respect responsible drinking.
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DennisWisconsin wrote :
It depends on what you want from this woman.

I don't understand why people use negative terms when it comes to sex... If you think that it would be sleezy - which is negative - then I wouldn't do it. Why would you do something that would be negative?

A more positive way to look at it:
If you don't want to drive after drinking a hotel is a good idea. Get the hotel and tell her ahead of time that you have it for that very reason...
good point. Sleezy might be a rather harsh word choice on my part. I definitely plan on having a few drinks.
 
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Book two rooms. Tell her ahead of time. Give her the option to stay or not stay over without the pressure of sex or negotiating sex for a safe place to stay. Drinking/driving...not cool. Showing you care about her safety and her comfort...very cool. If she knocks on your door after a little nap and a shower...lucky you and lucky girl.

Have fun.
 
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fino4beat wrote :
You realize, of course, that by posting this here you're likely to get all manner of stoopid answers, right? Not to mention the fact that since most of us (except for those lucky dawgs who have honeys) haven't been in a date in so long we'd be stuck on "What should I wear?"
And how does that different from posting it elsewhere on EHA? Well I might recognize more of the names here...

I haven't been on that many dates either in the past few years or I wouldn't even have to ask this question.
 
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choiceweb0pen0 wrote :
And how does that different from posting it elsewhere on EHA? Well I might recognize more of the names here...

I haven't been on that many dates either in the past few years or I wouldn't even have to ask this question.
Preachin' to the choir, Hon.
 
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MelinCali wrote :
I agree with Dennis. If you think you might do some drinking and you shouldn't be driving afterwards, book the hotel and tell her. If she knows that is why, it doesn't look sleezy.

If you secretly book a room and spring it on her later, it sounds like you might be a little presumptuous. I would not be impressed if someone did that on a second date, but I totally respect responsible drinking.
Okay, you and Dennis make a useful point to mention ahead of time booking a room to avoid Driving home drunk. The idea of mentioning it ahead of time does sound much more honest.

Sadly in Louisiana, they announce DUI checkpoints ahead of time in the newspapers and based on one friends experience going through one at least a little tanked, they praised him for having a couple beers and being able to drive..
 
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So what you do think? I'm not going to mention it ahead of time and will likely end up canceling the reservation by the cut off date, but am still conflicted about it.[/quote]


I would go for booking a room in advance as well. You can both have a few drinks without having to think about driving. Have a great time!

(Now we know about this date, we'll want to know how it went. )
 
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