When_I_See_You_Smile is offline When_I_See_You_Smile Post #1  May 10,2009, 9:08pm
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Hmmm, is it just me, or do you guys find it a tad bit annoying when you take the time to offer advice to someone (I'm talking about the main boards here), and then no one responds to what you've said?





Right now, I have a couple of posts, from the last two days, that the OP has not acknowledged yet. I think it's quite interesting that someone would start a thread, and then forget about it. I mean, they're the ones who are asking for advice!


And yes, I know it's a holiday weekend, but it only takes a minute to check your thread. Oh, and before anyone says it, I know it's safer and less stressful in CSC. It's just that, on occasion, I feel the need to help a fellow human being -- silly me!
 
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I have never had any expectation that the OP would respond to each person's advice posted in the thread and have seen many that do not respond at all. It seems pretty standard, so it is not something that I regard with a second thought.


Does that mean they are forgetting about their thread? Maybe. I think more likely, they are reading and waiting to see what else others have to say--maybe they are waiting for a post from the person who will validate their point of view, which is not what the majority of (sane) people would suggest.


Also, a lot of people don't really know the etiquette of using on-line forums. I sure as heck don't and I'm sure I ignore people's posts all the time, as much as I am ignored, but fortunately my mother still loves me.
 
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When_I_See_You_Smile, wrote :


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Hmmm, is it just me, or do you guys find it a tad bit annoying when you take the time to offer advice to someone (I'm talking about the main boards here), and then no one responds to what you've said?





Right now, I have a couple of posts, from the last two days, that the OP has not acknowledged yet. I think it's quite interesting that someone would start a thread, and then forget about it. I mean, they're the ones who are asking for advice!


And yes, I know it's a holiday weekend, but it only takes a minute to check your thread. Oh, and before anyone says it, I know it's safer and less stressful in CSC. It's just that, on occasion, I feel the need to help a fellow human being -- silly me!


WISYS...


One of the things that has always been clear about you is your compassion and tenderness. I too love to offer help and I always check my posts in case I have to follow up or offer anything additionally, but I really don't get offended when there is no response no matter how much effort or time I've spent composing my thoughts. The reason is that there maybe someone else who benefits. That isn't to say that what I have to offer is all that bright, but I do like to think that someone may at least find a different perspective if nothing else.


Try not to take it personally.... I'm with Mel... it doesn't take too much effort to check in on posts you've created when you've asked for advice, but we do lead busy lives, or maybe something simply came up that made it difficult to acknowledge the effort you put forth.


In any event, that you took the time to show care, concern, consideration and made the effort to lift up the person in the post you mention is a blessing in itself. It reveals you as the person that I've come to call friend... you are very sweet... don't you forget it!





Happy Mothers Day,


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MelinCali,612873 wrote :

I have never had any expectation that the OP would respond to each person's advice posted in the thread and have seen many that do not respond at all. It seems pretty standard, so it is not something that I regard with a second thought.


Does that mean they are forgetting about their thread? Maybe. I think more likely, they are reading and waiting to see what else others have to say--maybe they are waiting for a post from the person who will validate their point of view, which is not what the majority of (sane) people would suggest.


Also, a lot of people don't really know the etiquette of using on-line forums. I sure as heck don't and I'm sure I ignore people's posts all the time, as much as I am ignored, but fortunately my mother still loves me.



MelinCali,


You are right on all counts. I don't expect the OP to comment on all responses, especially in a large thread. I'm mostly talking about the people who start a thread, and then don't come back to it. Several times, I have been the only one to respond to someone's thread, only to have them disappear. Oh, well. I guess they didn't like what I had to say, or they no longer needed advice!


Anyway, I was just venting. I think it's rude to ask for advice, and then fail to acknowledge it, even if it's not what you want to hear. Ah, and it's probably the English teacher in me, expecting people to actually complete what they start!
 
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Tyym,612889 wrote :


WISYS...


One of the things that has always been clear about you is your compassion and tenderness. I too love to offer help and I always check my posts in case I have to follow up or offer anything additionally, but I really don't get offended when there is no response no matter how much effort or time I've spent composing my thoughts. The reason is that there maybe someone else who benefits. That isn't to say that what I have to offer is all that bright, but I do like to think that someone may at least find a different perspective if nothing else.


Try not to take it personally.... I'm with Mel... it doesn't take too much effort to check in on posts you've created when you've asked for advice, but we do lead busy lives, or maybe something simply came up that made it difficult to acknowledge the effort you put forth.


In any event, that you took the time to show care, concern, consideration and made the effort to lift up the person in the post you mention is a blessing in itself. It reveals you as the person that I've come to call friend... you are very sweet... don't you forget it!





Happy Mothers Day,


Tim


Awww, Tim,


Thanks for the kind words!


I'm not offended, just a little annoyed. And you're right, other people do benefit from what you've said, whether the OP responds or not.


I guess I just want the OP to know that his/her concern was heard. It takes guts to reveal your situation, and to ask for help. I naturally take care of everyone around me, so it's hard for me to forget that someone was worried enough to start a thread.


Anyway, thanks for the Mother's Day wishes, but I'm not a mommy...yet!


Heather


P.S. We've missed you around here!
 
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Hey, does this mean you will have to acknowledge any post in this thread now, WISYS? I foresee a whole lot of nonsense.
 
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Hey, does this mean you will have to acknowledge any post in this thread now, WISYS? I foresee a whole lot of nonsense.
Yep, it looks like I walked into that one!!! LOL!
 
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It's kind of late, so you might be safe....for now.


Good night!
 
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I wrote a story 1st May that happened where I live and which I thought was pretty funny. I got one single response to it - thanks Corky44. Am I disappointed? Not at all. I don't read everything either.
 
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Posting a nonsense response because cracker crumbs are itchy and don't mix well with cat hair and that's why I don't allow cats in my bed, but I DO allow crackers because I figure the ants will eventually clean them up without biting me in the process.
 
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