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Is it just me, or are any of you finding that some christians are just "acting like a christian" instead of being christian? I'm trying to figure out why a gentleman I went on a date with, who claimed he was"christian" wanted to know if sex was totally out of the question before marriage. He didn't think he should have to wait...DUH! All I could do was look at him and say, "Stop ACTING like a christian...just be christian!"I love being a Jesus-Freak. But I look at being a jesus-follower, as an all or nothing lifestyle. It's right up there with "being kinda preggers"...LOL! You're either pregnant or you're not! there is no gray area. Just as with the following Christ, there is not gray area.... You're either living it or you're not.

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I've met a lot of folks who are conservative with Scriptural interpretation and socially a bit liberal. I prefer them to the alternative. I make it a habit to never make judgements on the state of someone's relationship with Christ using any kind of ruler. I feel it is an intensely personal issue between them and the Lord. I tend to lookmore closely at how someone lives their lives in terms of personal interaction and ethics rather than what rules they follow. I know too many Christianswho are good at the rules but have no love in their hearts - I was raised by one.
 
 
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I know I'm not where I would like my walk to be. But I also know that I have a loving Father and he has excepted me with all my imperfections. Sorry if I spelled that wrong. We cant say what this person should act based on his walk with the Lord This guy could have just got saved, Yes one should walk the staight path. But I know Im far from being that perfect Christain. Being a christian to me is Excepting Jesus Christ as my personal savior and asking forgiveness for all my sins thats done daily.and knowing Jesus died on the cross and rose three days later. And did Jeus not say "For Give Them Father For They Do Not Know What They are doing". It also says we need to love one another As Jesus loved us. Meaning excepting everyone along with their faults.
 
 
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I do my best to live an "all or nothing" life style with being a Christian, but thank God that Jesus died on the cross for my sins, because that is one hard road to walk. I do find it strange that he asked if it was completly out of the quesiton, I hope at least this was not the first date. One thing I try to remember is that everyone is at their own stage in their walk with Christ, that I do my best not to judge.
 
 
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I agree ... it depends where he is in his walk with the Lord. But this was a first date (and a last date for many other reasons). I'm not perfect, nor do I expect the gentlemen I date to be perfect. The Lord teaches me new and wonderful things on a daily basis. This gentleman couldn't tell me his favorite Bible verse. I find that a little strange. Most peoplecanquote you at least one Bible verse or a Commandment, even non-christians. It may not be their favorite but it's verse. I believe that my walk with the Lord is all about "how I live my life?"

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I have had *cough* Christian women overtly suggest and want the same (...no thanks. Next!). But I've also had oneChristianlady during our first date suggest that she badly needed a massage. She later told me (on our second date) that she tests men on the first date to see if they will bite at her bait. Those that do don't get a second date. I passed her test.



I admire her tactics, but I never trusted her after finding out she had been a little deceptive with me. I lost interest.
 
 
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Hmmm...I don't think it is nice or fair to tempt someone like that and then penalize them for jumping at the bait...I don't like those kinds of games/tests. I know a guy that used to do something similar - pushed women to have sex with him right away and then discarded them if they did because they weren't "good." When I pointed out that it took two to tango and asked if that meant that HE wasn't good either - he just looked at me blankly.
 
 
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I should probably not post on this thread as I'm not a Christian - but I usually read Zeke's posts. So...anyway...carry on my Christian friends.
 
 
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Hlyn,102084 wrote :
I should probably not post on this thread as I'm not a Christian - but I usually read Zeke's posts. So...anyway...carry on my Christian friends.
All opinions and/or advice are welcome here. You are always welcome here, whether you're a christian or not.

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Ezekiel,102017 wrote :

I have had *cough* Christian women overtly suggest and want the same (...no thanks. Next!). But I've also had oneChristianlady during our first date suggest that she badly needed a massage. She later told me (on our second date) that she tests men on the first date to see if they will bite at her bait. Those that do don't get a second date. I passed her test.



I admire her tactics, but I never trusted her after finding out she had been a little deceptive with me. I lost interest.
I would have a problem with the "entrapment" part of her game. I was never a big game player although I had loads of girlfriends that loved it. I just never saw much of a point in playing games with a relationship. For some people that all they know or understand. I always preferred being honest and open about where I stand on things within a relationship.... AKA laying my cards on the table and letting the chips fall where they may, so to speak. In that fact, I beieve you build trust and respect for each other by being honest & open from the start.

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