p5cents is offline p5cents Post #1  June 21,2009, 4:05pm
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Several of us have posted notes about our kids and the struggles they have and we have with them.

I have one to add.

I (finally!) talked to my younger daughter. I think this is the first time in months--certainly since my move--that she initiated a phone call.

As usual, she is on the outs with mom and seems to be staying with friends. These friends are generally people who have raised themselves or been raised by each other. Morals and emotional development are quite lacking. Bekah is right there like them, too.

For 2 months I've been trying to get her to commit to come down for a weekend. Now she is not working. (She had said she was about to quit. Her sister said later that she was fired.) She was happy to come for a full week.

My deepest desire is to get her to visit and decide to stay (or move back). Then maybe I can have the influence on her that I did not have in the last 5 or 6 years. I think she first needs a stable emotional environment. Then she needs someone to help her stick to her plans and move toward her goals. She also needs to learn to set boundaries--many how to say "no" when she needs to.

So, tonight I will check the Southwest Air schedule and make reservations for about 7/15. I've got a few days off accrued, so I can take her to see what SD is like. ... And try to convince her to settle on a plan to get ahead in life and to then move here with me to work on that plan.

So any prayers to that end would be appreciated.

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my prayers are with you,

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waltercl is offline waltercl Post #3  June 21,2009, 8:45pm
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Definitely will be praying for you as well. My daughter is going into 8th grade, and I've noticed changes with her (not for the good) since about the last year and a half. She's gravitated toward friends that I don't consider to be positive influences. She's my only girl, and I seem to struggle more with how to talk with her than I do my boys.
 
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Add my prayers as well, Phil. I know how concerned you have been for her and I do hope that you can persuade her to come join you. It does sound that she could benefit tremendously from a structured and supportive environment to help give her some focus and direction. Be blessed!

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Phil, I'm praying for you that you can convince Bekah to open up to you so you can be there for her. It's tough business when you see your children struggle and you feel pretty helpless to be there for them, especially when they don't live near you. Remember that God is the ultimate Dad and can be there when you can't and even when you are. Also, don't forget that even when we think we're in control, we really aren't...but for the grace of God go we and our children. We may act, but God does, so lean on Him to show you what you can do best for Bekah.
 
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Phil - I pray for you and for Bekah.
 
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Thanks for all the support.

Bekah is now scheduled to fly down on 7/9 and leave on 7/21. Until she is on the plan I can't be certain she will follow through. However, she keeps telling me how excited she is to come and how much she is looking toward it. I just expect that Satan will try to use her 'friends' to get her to bail out.
 
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Phil, please trust God. Remember He is greater than Satan and is in control of your daughter. In the meantime we'll keep praying for her that she gets on that plane.
 
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Please do keep us updated.
 
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waltercl wrote :
Please do keep us updated.
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