landstar59 is offline landstar59 Post #1  March 28,2010, 10:46am
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I have a question I want you to think on before you reply. What is it about attraction that we usually attract the same thing? For instance one of my girlfriends was dating a guy who had been twice divorced. While he clearly loved his second wife, she was very independent, had a lot of guy friends and couldn't put up with his clinging. When my girlfriend told me this I laughed to myself because she was exactly what he was trying to avoid getting involved with. She was his 2nd wife in another woman's body. So what makes us attract the things we are wanting to avoid? Does it mean on another level that we really do like those things but think they are not good for us? Articles I have read regarding attraction say we emit frequency. How can we change our signal?
 
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On another note I read an article that made sense to me about how we choose our partners. Every person has a facet of their personality that they don't like. The author of the article called it "self loathing" and that we tend to not seek these things out in a partner and instead choose things that are the exact opposite of that characteristic. Do you see that in yourself?

I will be the first to admit that some of my best girl friends are scatter brained and can't focus where as I am into detail. Maybe I want my friends to be less rigid?
 
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