faith_2share is offline faith_2share Post #1  January 12,2010, 6:37pm
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Are there any "rules" for a girl to follow when it comes to waiting for a guy to write back? I had been communicating with a guy for a while, everything seemed to be going fine. We had interesting and meaningful emails, sharing our thoughts and being open about our feelings. Then for some reason, he stopped writing. Since I am the one who sent the last e-mail I don't want to bug him by sending him another one, especially if he doesn't want to continue persuing a relationship. Yet, at the same time, I don't want to appear uninterested. What should I do? Please is there anyone out there who could shed some light on the subject? Do I write? Do I wait? It has been over a week, should I be puzzled or is not hearing something back from a guy for a while a normal thing? I don't expect to hear from him everyday, but it just seems like I should have heard something back by now. Am I wrong?
 
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Speaking as a guy, if a guy likes you, and you haven't told him to get lost, he'll be in touch. If he's not, then that's your answer. That is, unless he's been out of the country, on a UFO, or involved in a natural disaster (Earthquake, flood, tornado). Otherwise, "over a week" is a long time not to be in touch. Of course, some of it depends on the normal pattern of your communication. If it was normal for the two of you to communicate daily, then a long break is that much more unusual. On the other hand, if every few days or once a week was normal, then it would take longer for it to be a concern. Still, if I were interested in a woman, and had reason to believe she was interested in me, I'd be in touch. And if there was going to be a break, I'd find a way to let her know, if at all possible.

Not sure if that's what you want to hear, but that's how I see it.
 
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Thanks you for your insight, PreacherSon. It is always helpful to get a glimpse of a guys perspective on communication. Some of what you said are things I gathered to be the case, but it is good to know that I am not jumping to conclusions. I have not always been cautious (as you yourself know) about the rules of communication, but I do strive to have intregrity and to likewise, afford the other person the breathing room he may need to make wise decisons as to who he talks/writes and how often he chooses to do so. It is not always an easy thing to pace one's heart though, which is where trusting the Lord and prayer make all the difference! Thanks again for your reply.
 
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