JennJenn is offline JennJenn Post #1  March 24,2009, 6:41pm
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How does physical affection such as holding hands, arm around the shoulder, hugging, back/foot rubs, and cheek pecking influence the relationship with someone special? Are the influences of physical affection different between the sexes?


I'm interested on seeing your take on this topic.
 
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I just love it when a man puts his hand on the small of my back when we are walking through a door, or through a crowd. I don't know why they do that (maybe one of the guys will explain) - but it makes me feel special and protected.
 
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Yes, physical touch is different. In general, women react to physical touch quite a bit more than men. Not that we don't -- I love to cuddle, hold hands, all that stuff -- and love being touched. But women are wired to respond to it in an emotional way... I've noticed that women touching a woman's face. She interprets it to mean there are strong feelings behind that action, so I have to be very careful to not do any touches that tell a women something that doesn't match how I really feel.
 
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I don't think you should underestimate physical touch for a man though. Yes, women are often more emotional with physical touch but I have also been in situations where, once you've physically touched a man, he's liable to interpret that as you belong to him now and only him. Men can misinterpret touch as much as women can.
 
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Good points about touch being misinterpreted!

I think it is a good idea to be careful about just how much physical contact takes place until the nature of the relationship is understood - and the level of physical contact match where the relationship is at that point.

As a woman, I would probably interpret touching on the face as being an intimate gesture - though if it were to come from a man too soon, or in a situation where the romantic feelings weren't there - I would not be comfortable with it.
Having said that ACS, I will also say that I can easily see a girl who's fallen for that big, charming smile of yours to get her hopes up if you start caressing her face - so best be keeping your hands to yourself until you've decided you want it to go somewhere.

I've seen men and women both using touching as a "territorial gesture" - again, done too soon this is a major turn off for me.

Now, please allow me to wax romantic -
I just love those early days in a budding relationship where the guy kind of slyly puts his arm on the back of my chair, or casually takes my hand acting like it's the most natural thing in the world, pretending to stare straight ahead all the while he's checking out the corner of his eye to see what I'm going to do
(she says as she sighs and smiles wistfully)
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Facial touch, especially a gentle caress, (oooo laaaa laaa) can be interpreted as very intimate to women. Don't know why, but there's just something about a guys hands exploring a gals face. Possibly because his focus is on her, he's looking at her. That eye contact can really make or break the deal.

I'm with blessed, getting territorial (especially for us independent women) is a major turn-off.

By the way, I'm highly attracted to certain voice qualities. If the guys voice is too nasal, scratchy, or high pitched, I generally pass him over. I like a smooth sounding voice. Oh yeah! I know that's not physical, but I just had to throw it in there! LOL

Ladies, we also need to be aware that when we touch, men are highly physical creatures. Remember to be a woman of grace and take care that you don't cause a gentlemen to stumble on the commandment against lust.
 
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i once was dating a woman who with a kiss or the batting of here eyes could make me melt like butter
 
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I have always hugged and kissed my wife a great deal; after seeing FIREPROOF and reading The Love Dare I hug and kiss her even more.
 
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