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pinerock is offline pinerock Post #11  August 30,2008, 10:50pm
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All I had to see was the title of this thread and I had to post. If you were ready to date someone, of course, they'd already know about your dog. If they were attacked as a child, or said they'd just never really been around pets or some thing (insane) like that, you would know and understand. Dog people are NOT scared of dogs.


We all know they're usually good judges of character. And yes, it would take quite a fellow to come between me and any dog I've ever had.(And, yes, I know they're not really kids, but just as ifyou had a child, you'relegally and morally responsible for their safety, health, upbringing, training, etc.)


If a man is that intimidated, he's got some issues. I could understand a momentary nervousness, but if you're dog is a natural lover (not a biter, fighter, barker), I'd have to say that you should expect them to relax pretty quickly!


Last month,Ihad a college-guyclearing out stuff from my yard. I'd already asked if he was 'dog-friendly.' We walked in the backyard and my smaller dog was out there(70 pounds). He trotted towards me, tail waving in the air. Then hesaw the boy andhisfur went up from tip to tail and he started barking. I grabbed his collar as he approached andcorrected him whilethe guy,behind me stood still. The dog relaxed, the guy put out his hand and after a quick sniff,Apollo was off lookingfor a cat to chase. (Don'tthink this is some well trained, obedient pooch, either.) Later the guy said, he'd been around dogs all his life, butwas never reallyscaredbefore but my dogdid scare him at first.


My dog was just not used to folks coming into the yard. He usually barks when they're at the door and once I tell them it's OK and the door opens, they're both just trying to find out if the visitorhas apizza or burger stashed intheir pocket.


Trust your instinct and your dog.


I KNOW you wouldn't consider going out with someone who did not like animals...
 
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heatherairforce, wrote :

I have a 80lb german shepherd bitch and as crazy as this sounds, a lot of men I date seem to be intimidated. She's really friendly and loving so I don't understand. Is this strange?
I have a 100 lb mutt, who carries a mean deep bark, but wears her heart on her tail. My dog has been through alot of training, because of her size. I feel confident when guests arrive. I let the guest make the first move... if they want to greet my dog, great. If the guest shows lack of confidence around Shenika, I point her to her safe place. I note how my dog reacts to someone. Dogs are a great judge of character. While dating, my dog is part of the package, and I hope my guest loves long walks, cause we do!
 
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Do I date? Haha that doesn't seem to be happening (more from badly trained people, not dogs) but I'm hopeful.


My dog Zella was given to me by a coworker at 9 mo and has been afraid of men for years. A lot of cowering and running away to bark from a distance. I heard later from another coworker that her original owner was going to take her to the desert outside of Las Vegas and leave her to die. She's 7 now and I make it a regular habit to take her to the park and house parties to socialize her and it has worked beautifully.


She's protective of her turf like pinerock described above but after I welcome someone in the house she usually just gives a woofle or two and then demands attention or watches the goings on.


I think it's probably the image people have of GSD's. They're so smart and eager to please and fantastic companions that I can't imagine not having one after having Zella in my life. So...moral of the story...If a person isn't secure enough to accept that my dog is a part of my family then he's too insecure for me.
 
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I don't know if it's so much intimidated as embarassed by the way my dog behaves...being a 70 lb dog, she's at just the right height to be a crotch hound and is she ever!!! Good grief!!! That's a social skill we need to work on!
 
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I read this entire thread and found all of the comments very interesting and logical. I am dogless now due to a home owner's association BS ruling. However, I have plenty of friends that allow me to come over and get my dog fix. I love dogs and certainly agree they are extremely accurate and quick about character atributes of humans. Historically, I have enjoyed a variety of Labs. Amazing creatures. Here to help us understand "unconditional love."
 
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Wish4Eden,267433 wrote :

I don't know if it's so much intimidated as embarassed by the way my dog behaves...being a 70 lb dog, she's at just the right height to be a crotch hound and is she ever!!! Good grief!!! That's a social skill we need to work on!
Haha you have a very good point! She's so enthusiastic that a friend claims to have been lifted off the floor once.


She's usually so shy of people because of her first owner, and that my ex did nothing with her when I would deploy. She'll protect her territory (that includes me) until I show that the person is ok, but then she does her shy hokey pokey dance.
 
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Hollis is more intimidated by most men then men are of him. As for his being a good judge of character, he usually runs from men he doesn't know but the first time he ever saw my ex he jumped on him and my ex hated dogs. I don't know maybe he was trying to push my ex away.
 
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I don't have a dog right now - rommies won't let me - but I love them. Any guy who wants to be in my life needs to be ok with big dogs - To me a 200 lb. mastiff is a lap dog!
 
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I have a 9-pound chihuahua named Bubba that hates everyone except the immediate family =) Seriously though, I had one man I was corresponding with on-line tell me that he couldn't consider a woman who'd own a tiny dog because "women like that are high maintenance." Talk about jumping to conclusions - !
 
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I know. People make some of the silliest conclusions and judgements based on preconcieved ideas. I happen to be a big dog girl but I have friends with little dogs and they very sensible people. Not high maintenance at all.
 
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