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ben_burgess9987 is offline ben_burgess9987 Post #1  December 16,2009, 4:30pm
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I lost my best friend about five weeks ago. he was my pal, friend, companion, yellow lab, and now I am lost on what to do. Please help.


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jazzmansmomforever is offline jazzmansmomforever Post #2  December 17,2009, 6:48am
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I feel sorry for you. there is no time defined to heal from such a loss. Our animals are just as much human to us and the loss of our pets can be more severe than the loss of a person.
There are pet grieving councilors, and I believe u may find some websites or groups?? Yahoo groups? etc?
In the mean time consider going to shelters and walk dogs. Spend dog time with other dogs that need a days loving.? Take the pain of loss to the joy of giving.
Look on Pet finders to see what is up for adoption?
I am a suck, my border collie who has been my best friend for years now, is coming to a close in her years. I bought a different breed of dog 3 years ago. And because I know that Terra won't handle the border collie leaving us, I am keeping a pup from Terra.
I insulate my loss with another younger animal. It doesn't diminish my feelings of love, it just pads the heart.
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zionsinger78 is offline zionsinger78 Post #3  December 17,2009, 11:26am
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I know how you feel. My Samoyed is my BEST and most loyal friend. I have a friend who breeds show quality black and yellow labs. if you are interested in a pup, reply to the post and let me know so I can send you the info. The best thing is to get a new dog to focus on, knowing they are going to be a unique individual. I will have another Samoyed, but I will not have another Little Bear. He is unique, as is the next dog .
I'd love to help you find a new best friend.
 
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Ben - the loss of a loved one on 2 legs or four is hard no matter what the circumstances. The worst comment but most true is time will heal the pain, I've found though - a memorial can ease the pain whether it be a toy, collar, etc of your best friend or something to tribute to him like a stepping stone outside by your favorite place to sit. I know alot of people run out and get a new puppy but how can anything compare to what the best friend gave you. Mourn your best friend - then when you are ready - find a new buddy. But for now maybe spend time with friends and family... maybe take a trip or two.

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k9force is offline k9force Post #5  December 18,2009, 7:28pm
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Everyone is different in their healing process. Some people want to wait a while before moving on; others want to add another pet immediately. It just depends on how you feel.

Someone mentioned Petfinder.com. I highly recommend adopting a shelter dog. This website is very easy to navigate and will assist you in finding the pet of your choice in your area. You select the breed, age, gender and location.

I am so sorry for your loss. Some people don't understand the relationship some of us have with our pets. I have lost many pets through the years (the last one a little over a year ago) and it never gets any easier.
 
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I lost my Yorkie 5 yrs ago. Boy - doesn't seem that long. It was very hard for a while. About 4 months later my daughter convinced me to get another Yorkie. She has not replaced our pup that passed, but she has her own place in our lives and has made it so much richer and I can't imagine life without her or my other pup right now.

Now when I think about my first Yorkie, I get sad, but it's not gut wrenching anymore.

I agree with K9Force. Please look at shelters or rescues. There are so many healthy dogs (AND puppies) that are needlessly euthanized each year. There are breed specific ones, and also ones that specialize in big or little dogs.
 
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You will know when you are ready for another dog. A new friend wll not ever replace the one you lost- they are truly individual persoalities, and no 2 are alike- but you will eventually be ready to make new memories.

I believe you get the ones you are meant to have and you will know when the "right" one comes along.
Take care of yourself.

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Aww, I am so sorry about your loss. I lost my Jack Russel, Jessica, last spring and had a really rough time. My mom kind of pushed me into adopting a new pup about a month later. I felt horrible about getting another dog for weeks.. but Bayley filled that void in my life and actually I think I needed to adopt her just as much as she needed to be adopted! Even though its not that same, Bayley has now become truly my baby.
I hope you are having a better time with your loss now. Let us know how you are doing.
 
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I love Huskies and have had many of them. You don't think about losing them when they're around, but when they're gone, boy, it's heart wrenching. I've loved them all and still think of them as part of me. I've learned much from each one. If you have a close relationship with your pet, the memory will always be there and the next one will appreciate all that you can give it, making both your lives joyful.
 
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I know I have a cat avatar, but I am more of a dog person. Ben it's ok to grieve. Dogs become part of us. Like family and sometimes more. It is just so sad that they don't live longer.
 
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