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After years and years of looking at movies with an eye to what I want to see with my kids, I'm finding it hard to pick "date" movies for early in the relationship (i.e., the first date after the date we met on). I don't want to have anything too suggestive ("The Proposal" is out) or with nudity. I'm just not comfortable with that at this point in dating. I'm not sure I'd want to see some of the adventure movies I'll see this summer with my son, twice.

I'd like something romantically rather neutral, somewhat uplifting...today's version of "The Sound of Music" or "National Velvet". Looking at reviews, it appears that similar story lines right now might be "Up!" or that new movie about the little girl seeking medical emancipation because she was conceived to help cure her sister of cancer.

However, the guy that wants to take me out to dinner and a movie is widowed. His wife died of cancer about a year ago. It seems to me that the widowed guy in Up! or the girl with cancer would not make those good date movies. I don't want to be insensitive.

What do you think? Would movie story lines like those upset you, make you depressed, cause you to think "she doesn't get it!" if I picked one of those movies?
 
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After years and years of looking at movies with an eye to what I want to see with my kids, I'm finding it hard to pick "date" movies for early in the relationship (i.e., the first date after the date we met on). I don't want to have anything too suggestive ("The Proposal" is out) or with nudity. I'm just not comfortable with that at this point in dating. I'm not sure I'd want to see some of the adventure movies I'll see this summer with my son, twice.

I'd like something romantically rather neutral, somewhat uplifting...today's version of "The Sound of Music" or "National Velvet". Looking at reviews, it appears that similar story lines right now might be "Up!" or that new movie about the little girl seeking medical emancipation because she was conceived to help cure her sister of cancer.

However, the guy that wants to take me out to dinner and a movie is widowed. His wife died of cancer about a year ago. It seems to me that the widowed guy in Up! or the girl with cancer would not make those good date movies. I don't want to be insensitive.

What do you think? Would movie story lines like those upset you, make you depressed, cause you to think "she doesn't get it!" if I picked one of those movies?
New to this group. I hope it's not for widows only because I am a new (3 mos) widower. Let me know and I will leave.

I don't date yet but I hope to someday. It's too soon. Need to agree on the movie for the initial period. That's important. There are tons of movies. If not - just go to dinner and nightcap. Forget about him but think of yourself. Explain it (Please don't say "sound of music or black velvet' something more recent). You may have to be flexible because I think some PG movies have some nudity.

(one line about cancer which I did not understand - my wife had cancer did not like to go out in public. Many time we ordered out and ate in the car parking lot in back. I actually enjoyed it because it was like having a private room.)

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I actually just saw The Proposal this week, with girlfriends. It's a romantic comedy, some nudity (not that you saw anything & it was REALLY a funny scene). It was a tear-jerker for me, but I'm a special case these days!

I'd consider it a date movie. Sandra Bullock is the witchy-b....y boss. The nude scene was NOT offensive & the proposal thing was really funny...

Haven't seen the others you mentioned. I did see Night at the Museum, if that's still playing. It was even better than the first!
 
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I'm finding it hard to pick "date" movies for early in the relationship (i.e., the first date after the date we met on).....
I tended to stay away from movies on the 1st or 2nd date because you spend 2 hours with the person and don't have the opportunity to talk. I would suggest saving the movie for a few dates later.

Fortunately for me, my SO doesn't care much for chick flicks so picking movies is easy.
 
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I agree about movies not being the best first date venue.
I love the Starbucks for coffee as a first meeting-Starbucks is a safe neutral ground where one coffee or tea will give you as many hours at a table to talk as you care to take.
I've been dating about 8 months-and been a widow for going on 5 years-and I want to find out more about a person before going to dinner or a movie. At a coffee shop with other people around you can talk and listen and see if there are dead air times that are uncomfortable.
I try for dutch treat lunch dates for a second meet-again in a public place in the daytime. The ciry I live in has a plethora of interesting ethnic food but I try to get the guy to make the suggestion for where to eat.
Last night I had a great 3rd date at the local Bach Festival-well he said he liked music-and we had a good time (he was surprised he liked classical music though) and are going to a Blues Festival on Friday-and that will be the first time I actually ride home with him as I am meeting him there and I go by public transportation.
Movies? Why bother when most cities have live music going on in the summer! Take advantage of the good weather.
I have also gone on hikes for a 3rd date, to a car show, to a kite festival at the coast.
BTW I'm a 60+ year old widow and very active and interested in new things.
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