JustSomeDude is offline JustSomeDude Post #1  February 2,2009, 6:44pm
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It doesn’t have to be perfect but if all you are writing is a few short statements and a paragraph, take the time to go back and look at what you wrote, it is all that is there to speak for you.
 
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I speak and write in 4 languages and surely making spelling mistakes. Does that put me in the red flag category?


Amazing...
 
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Malgos,471802 wrote :


I speak and write in 4 languages and surely making spelling mistakes. Does that put me in the red flag category?


Amazing...


I personally wouldn't write someone off just for spelling errors but if there's just a few sentences then using a spellcheck is pretty easy. Four languages is amazing. Usually if its a little language translation issue in the text its obvious. And that kind of thing is definately acceptable. But don't take me too litterally here, I'm just trying to get people to respond in this forum. I present some of my views as one-sided just to get people to start responding, but nothing is black and white and right or wrong here.
 
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Taiwriter is offline Taiwriter Post #4  February 5,2009, 6:22pm
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I have closed a number of matches because of too many grammar and spelling errors... I feel a little snobby about it. You know what else makes me close the profile - if a guy can't answer about the last book he read. Even snobbier right? But I am such a bookworm and my past experiences have taught me that if a man doesn't read we end up having very little in common.
 
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Taiwriter,473361 wrote :

I have closed a number of matches because of too many grammar and spelling errors... I feel a little snobby about it. You know what else makes me close the profile - if a guy can't answer about the last book he read. Even snobbier right? But I am such a bookworm and my past experiences have taught me that if a man doesn't read we end up having very little in common.
I agree with you, Taiwriter,and also feel just like you sometimes. I do not like spelling or grammatical errors either and also feel snobby about itsometimes. My first ex was intelligent but could not spell worth a darn and one of my three children is the same way, so I wonder if that isn't inherited like dislexia is, so I "try" to be forgiving about the occasional spelling error, but then again, there IS spell check. I think a profile should be written to put your best foot forward much like a resume! Some people might not like this comparison, but that is just my opinion. However, if you don't even try, how are you going to learn?


A funny thing, one tiny thing that really irritated me about my first ex was in the checkbook register he would write "deposite" or something instead of "deposit" which wouldn't have been so horrible except that right on the checkbook register itself it had the word "deposit" at the top of the column. So even with the word right in front of him he would spell it wrong!


If someone cannot take the time to write a thoughtful, well written, spell-checked profile, what kind of effort will they put in a relationship?


Now, in my age group I also recognize that some men simply are not typists, and that can often be recognized for what it is just by the way it is typed. That is okay. But it would be even better, if a guy would just admit that up front and then those of us "snobs" will give them some leeway.


Some other things that really irritate me are "I need to 'loose' a few pounds...."lose" and "loose" are so often misused. I cannot understand how but it is a frequent problem. "There", "their" and "they're"or "too" and "to" or "them" and "those" are also real issues with me. It is sooooo hard for me to not correct people on these mistakes!


And yes, Taiwriter, I am an avid reader too and if someone says that they "do not like to read" that is a problem forme as well. I understand that some people don't and I respect that but I would prefer someone I am interested in to not only be well read, but also likes to read. Now if they say they "don't have a lot of time to read" that is different.


Okay, yes, I feel a little snobby too and I am sure some people might agree but then maybe we weren't made for each other, right?
 
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For me, it isn't so much the idea of typos or grammatical errors, but the thought that this ismy first impression of him. My first glimpseof the person within. And if he can't takea littletime to put his best foot forward, no matter how brief the profile, then maybe we aren't a match.
 
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Glad to know that I'm not the only person who is bothered by this. :-)

I don't need for the guy to be a Rhodes scholar but I'll admit to being a little particular about this. Anyone can have an occasional misspelling and I know that bad spelling is not a sign of poor intelligence. However, most people who don't spell well already know that... so take the time to make sure you're making a good impression: Use spellcheck or a dictionary!
 
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Artisan wrote :
Glad to know that I'm not the only person who is bothered by this. :-)

I don't need for the guy to be a Rhodes scholar but I'll admit to being a little particular about this. Anyone can have an occasional misspelling and I know that bad spelling is not a sign of poor intelligence. However, most people who don't spell well already know that... so take the time to make sure you're making a good impression: Use spellcheck or a dictionary!
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It is a huge turn off when there are lots of errors. I read one profile where the man said he knows when to use too rather than to. At the end of his profile he used the wrong one. Made me laugh!
 
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