LettingitFlow is offline LettingitFlow Post #31  April 19,2009, 8:47pm
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Ms Jacquiem
I was feeling it for a minute but, I am of the completely unscientific opinion that there isn't a huge segment of the non-Black population that seems to be attracted to Black women. Just my completely unscientific opinion on the issue.
No disrespect.
But that line gave me a headache. I had to read that line a couple of times. I’m on a honesty kick and I’m not sure how long it’s going to last, but I think for tonight at least. Anyway I was married to a white woman, if you would ask some of our former friends they probably would tell you, she was blacker than I was. (Some off you probably have come across that situation once in your life).
I was a military person so…. So…Okay, I replaced blackness for blueness. Air Force Blue; as the saying goes “Air Force Blue runs in my veins”. Are something like that.
Anyway back to your post. I think is’t the complete opposite of what you said. And has been for as long as we’ve been around. Some folks were considered men until they had the pleasure your juicy fruit. And then there are others who don’t feel totally womanish, without some extra added dimension. So from style, dance, music, look, walk, talk you name it, you are often been imitated as well as duplicated. I think sometimes we have to get real quite to hear what is really being said. Look at Michelle Obama they can’t get enough of her arms. Is it really just the arms?
You’re En Vogue Again.
Not just Stateside but Internationally.
 
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Hello all,


This is my first post in this group, but hopefully not the last. Since we're offering up life experiences, I'll give my perspective on being the product of a mixed marriage. My parents, going on strong for twenty+ years now have had a pretty good time from what I've seen. There were some serious difficulties that arose from their cultural differences, but overall my parents have had a beautiful time watching their children grow and being companions in old age.


I can see where there might be concerns about betrayal and dilution of the bloodline or what have you. Still, I have to say that those are questions of the greater black community that at some point might just be trumped by you meeting a great guy and loving him, irrespective of his race.


While my parents might be the exception, I think just having the same stance on marriage, family, and children does a lot for their marriage.You never know until you try.


Oh, and for those of you who are wondering, my dad is Black and my mom is Korean.
 
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LettingitFlow,585997 wrote :
Ms Jacquiem
I was feeling it for a minute but, I am of the completely unscientific opinion that there isn't a huge segment of the non-Black population that seems to be attracted to Black women. Just my completely unscientific opinion on the issue.
No disrespect.
But that line gave me a headache. I had to read that line a couple of times. I’m on a honesty kick and I’m not sure how long it’s going to last, but I think for tonight at least. Anyway I was married to a white woman, if you would ask some of our former friends they probably would tell you, she was blacker than I was. (Some off you probably have come across that situation once in your life).
I was a military person so…. So…Okay, I replaced blackness for blueness. Air Force Blue; as the saying goes “Air Force Blue runs in my veins”. Are something like that.
Anyway back to your post. I think is’t the complete opposite of what you said. And has been for as long as we’ve been around. Some folks were considered men until they had the pleasure your juicy fruit. And then there are others who don’t feel totally womanish, without some extra added dimension. So from style, dance, music, look, walk, talk you name it, you are often been imitated as well as duplicated. I think sometimes we have to get real quite to hear what is really being said. Look at Michelle Obama they can’t get enough of her arms. Is it really just the arms?
You’re En Vogue Again.
Not just Stateside but Internationally.


Thanks for the reply, Flow. Where I live, Washington DC, there just are not a lot of White Male/Black Female interracial couples walking around. Black Male/White Female, yes, but significantly fewer the other way around. Maybe they're all staying at home. But that's just not prevalent here. It may be in other places. Maybe I need to move (heck, I've been wondering if I need to move to find a good Christian Black man).


Perhaps this is just a regional issue here. Perhaps there's more prevalence of White Male/Black Female (or other non-Black Male/Black Female) interracial relationships elsewhere, and I don't doubt that internationally we Black women are more popular. But not in D.C. Not so much. Or Maryland, or Virginia too much, either. And I've been to Detroit - not much of it there. Or New Orleans, not much there. New York- little more, but still not as much as Black men with non-Black women. Chicago, Orlando, Tampa- pretty much the same. Granted, I haven't been to many other places, and I've certainly not been oversees (but plan to the end of this year) but these are, as I said, my unscientific observations.


And just because we're imitated, it doesn't mean we're necessarily accepted. Accepting and embracing the culture of a people is a far cry from accepting and embracing the people as individuals.
 
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I have dated two races so far and i think that the reasons the relationships never worked out for me so far was because there was no real love to begin with. Love conquers all and if you met a man/woman of a different race whom you totally loved then you wouldn't think about the race. This is a bit like the age thing; until you grow older and definately wiser you might never venture out of your comfort zone, when doing so would be the best thing that happened in your life.
 
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angeniece, wrote :

Okay, so after almosta month on eharmony and not even one open communication I got weak. I changed my settings to include men who represent the other colors of the rainbow. Immediately I changed my mind, I went back in and changed it back. I know many who date men of all colors, but it just isnt for me. (Steph, I Know ur feelings on this one). I begin to wonder if I was limiting myself and my chances of finding a committed relationship and maybe some good friendships by limiting my preference to black men only. Then I thought of the family I envisioned, little brown babies with hair like mine, as soon as I finished that thoughtthe next thought wasno man no baby, brown or other. I thenthought of the countless brothers and sisters who have chose to date and marry outside of the race. Interracial relationships are on the rise. So I ask you, does interracial dating offer more chances at finding love, or is it an obstacle to Black Love?
Limiting your criteria makes perfect sense and totally understandable. BUT....


I've missed out on a few things in my life like everyone else. Your topic reminded me of one experience of my own. As a younger man I worked with a sweet, kind and genuine black women that I really adored, but never bothered to pursue since my own overriding thought was that she would not be interested because I'm white.To this day I think about her and wish I could see her and know that she's doing OK and is at leasthappy.


What I take from that experienceis....just don't let your decisions be weighed by self doubt.


But for the purposes of finding that right guy for you - only you can answer if that's important and then just stick to it. It'll work out.
 
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idocare is offline idocare Post #36  August 22,2009, 11:08pm
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Limiting yourself to only one nationality is like limiting yourself @ finding that true love. For me, I'll date any race as long as I'm getting the type of treatment that's pleasing in my eyes.
 
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Hi! I was TFR5GIRL1 -- until I forgot my password. I am a black woman who has been happily dating a White man (my first) for over a year now, and things are going well. I must admit it was TOUGH at first.

I grew up in a White neighborhood in which we were the only black family for blocks and blocks in any direction. My siblings and I were routinely called racial epithets in school (until high school) and our home was repeatedly vandalized. So, I never thought in a million years that I'd EVER date a White man.

But here I am, a year later...
 
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Reminds me of A Poem I read once

A perfect stranger stopped me
on the street, he said
he sniffed my aroma around the corner
tasted my dark, dark amber in his pores

Eased the tall svelte body as I walked
Rubbed the ripples on my head
Then he spoke
PUBLICLY
and whispered....

I dreamed of you
before we met,

Later,
my sisters asked me
Was he black or white?
I smiled,
Look at me, black as Africa
Nappy as Night
I shimmered

100% juicy,
the last blackberry on the vine
Sweet
 
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Black girl Black Girl
Lips as ripe as cherries
full as grape bunches
sweet as black berries

Black girl, Black girl
When you laugh you are
Magick as a rising sun
Or a falling star

Black girl Black girl
why is it you make
The heart that beats inside my breast
Jump, stop, shake

Langston Hughes (I Think)
 
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Etheridge Knight on Loving A Black Woman

A Love Poem

I do not expect the spirit of Penelope
to enter your breast for I am not mighty
or fearless (only our love is brave,
A rock against the wind.) I cry and cringe
when the cyclops peers into my cave

I do not expect your letters to be lengthy
and of love, flowery and philosophic, for
words are not our bond
I only need the hard fact
of your existence for my substance.
Our love is a rock against the wind.
Not soft like silk and lace.

Etheridge Knight
 
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