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The following list comes from an online magazine article entitled why its hard to date a black women, what are your thoughts?

1. Black women make black men feel under appreciated, unwarranted and irresponsible and regressive.
2. Black women are too aggressive and no longer patient in waiting on the pursuit of a man.
3. Black women are strong headed, too independent which presents great challenges in relationships.
4. Black women are masculine in that they are controlling and like to run the relationship.
5. Black women expect too much. They are gold diggers who will not look twice at a blue collar black man.
6. Black women are hot headed and have bad attitudes.
7. Black women stop caring about their appearance after a certain age.
8. Black women are not as sexually open as other races, especially in regards to oral sex.
9. Black women's tolerance is far too low; they are no longer empathetic to the black man's struggle in white America.
10. Black women do not cater to their men.
 
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i dont think we can. these stereotypes are widely accepted and not true. black women are very caring, giving and feminine. its sad.
 
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I'll be the author of that article is a Black man who caught his wife cheating on him, got a divorce and has to pay spousal and child support, but I digress. I saw a documentary on a company in Russia hook up their usually younger women 18-29 with older White American Men 40-60. One of the men stated that they perfer foreign women,with their traditional values to American women (White) because they are too demanding, too loud, take their freedom too seriously don't take pride in their when they get older and most of the Russian women are a "8" to "10"
 
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I'll bet the author of that article is a Black man who caught his wife cheating on him, got a divorce and has to pay spousal and child support, but I digress. I saw a documentary on a company in Russia that hooks up their usually younger women 18-29 with older White American Men 40-60 for a fee. One of the men stated that they perfer foreign women,with their traditional values to American women (White) because they are too demanding, too loud, take their freedom too seriously don't take pride in their appearance when they get older and most of the Russian women are a "8" to "10"
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angeniece wrote :
The following list comes from an online magazine article entitled why its hard to date a black women, what are your thoughts?

1. Black women make black men feel under appreciated, unwarranted and irresponsible and regressive.
2. Black women are too aggressive and no longer patient in waiting on the pursuit of a man.
3. Black women are strong headed, too independent which presents great challenges in relationships.
4. Black women are masculine in that they are controlling and like to run the relationship.
5. Black women expect too much. They are gold diggers who will not look twice at a blue collar black man.
6. Black women are hot headed and have bad attitudes.
7. Black women stop caring about their appearance after a certain age.
8. Black women are not as sexually open as other races, especially in regards to oral sex.
9. Black women's tolerance is far too low; they are no longer empathetic to the black man's struggle in white America.
10. Black women do not cater to their men.
Interesting top ten reasons. I don't necessarily agree with them because they suggest that black men need mothering, are weak-willed with deficient egos. My reasons would be the following:
  1. Black women are most definitely more argumentative than other women; mistakenly equated such a trait as being "challenging."
  2. Black women tend to expect (based on unjustifiable sense of entitlement) far more than what they bring to the table.
  3. Black men will push a black man's buttons in such a way as to repeated tempt fate with respect to our anger; then crawl to police when they've crossed the line.
  4. Black women most certainly stop caring about their looks after the first child, or upon feeling secure in a relationship, regardless of age.
  5. Not since the Civil Rights era have black women cared about the struggles of black men. Many curse black men as bad as the KKK curses the entire black race (notice I did not say community for which black women use to be the foundation).
Now keep in mind that my comments are limited to a specific class of black women, i.e. single, attractive, fit, childless, degreed, professionals, 35+ y.o. in the northeast. I have met black women in the southwest, westcoast, and Europe who do not exhibit such negative traits. As I mentioned in another post, I believe negative black women here self-socialize each other into such negative mindsets. Black women who do not exhibit such stupidity never have a problem maintaining a relationship.They never ask for chivalry, which is the first sign that you may not be worth it in the eyes of the men you're dating.
 
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I would think that others who have relationships with some black women see and find that all people are individuals. there are generalizations made about every one and every race. the only way that one can get ride of these kinds of generalizations is to be your self and though knowledge and by being open one can see that these statements are false for the whole of the black female race. not every one is like another, and if whom ever is an intelligent breed they will know and see that all black women are not the same and no one should live and feel burdened by the lively hood of these misconceptions. for if one did believe in all the negative verbiage out there in the world, there would have never been the creation of some outstanding black people in the land and in the world at large. only an ignorant and uneducated or one who provokes insane behavior will feel this way.
if one talks in generalizations that one should not matter to you as a individual, and should be avoid are not worth the time and afford of time and your space. for they do not know you as a person. and as a person one should not get mad or get bad with the person stating these things because you must consider the source and be wiser than they. I wish we would grow up as a nation. and stop the bad mouthing of others. be open and learn. I am who I am and I do not dwell in and of generalization nor misconceptions. those who truly know me would not and could not say that I am of or part of the negative. smile peace
 
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