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I have lived my life on the fringes of black and white... being able to equally circulate, survive, and thrive in both worlds. I have obviously dated in both worlds... but I have to say - and I guess you could call it my "throw back" soul... my heart will always belong to "the brethren".


I dislike the fact that here on eHarmony, that for my own ethnicity I am forced to choose between Caucasian or African-American - or the choice of "other". No one knows what "other" is... most assume I am Hispanic - and "something else" - here in the South most are afraid to allow their minds to go to what that something else might be.


I remember the last time I dated a white man... his mother (now this is hilarious) belonged to the Daughters of the Confederacy. She remarked one night at dinner that I looked "very exotic"... he had told me once before that she would drop dead if she knew of my heritage - I did not like this at all, but I decided I wasn't dating her I was dating him... but I suppose in that moment, my resentment at being asked to omit the truth behind my "exotic" looks took control and I blurted out right there as the peach pie was being passed about the table, "Well Missus, I guess I look dis way 'cuz Massa done made one too many trips out t'da qwaters". The pie never made it to me that night... the old lady survived the shock... and I of course ended that relationship soon after.


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I don't blame you for ending that relationship. As a black man that is attracted to women(not just women of a certain ethnic background), I would find being asked to hide any part of me appauling and straight up cowardice on whoever I was dating's part.





On a sidenote, given the McPherson controversy accusing some members of this group and the Sons of Confederate Veterans group of being neo-Confederates and having white supremacy as a hidden agenda, I'd like to hear your take on it!
 
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JasonX43,584734 wrote :

I don't blame you for ending that relationship. As a black man that is attracted to women(not just women of a certain ethnic background), I would find being asked to hide any part of me appauling and straight up cowardice on whoever I was dating's part.





On a sidenote , given the McPherson controversy accusing some members of this group and the Sons of Confederate Veterans group of being neo -Confederates and having white supremacy as a hidden agenda, I'd like to hear your take on it!
Wow Jason... and this is 2009 - not 1869 (even then post emancipation proclamation). Supply me a link to some of those posts and I will definitely give you my opinion.


Thanks for your response to my post... I think for the most part I am simply not attracted to the southern white male... that accent makes my skin crawl... again I attribute that to my "throw back" gene. Ever read Carl Jung?
 
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grammar_gal,584754 wrote :


JasonX43,584734 wrote :


I don't blame you for ending that relationship. As a black man that is attracted to women(not just women of a certain ethnic background), I would find being asked to hide any part of me appauling and straight up cowardice on whoever I was dating's part.





On a sidenote , given the McPherson controversy accusing some members of this group and the Sons of Confederate Veterans group of being neo -Confederates and having white supremacy as a hidden agenda, I'd like to hear your take on it!


Wow Jason... and this is 2009 - not 1869 (even then post emancipation proclamation). Supply me a link to some of those posts and I will definitely give you my opinion.


Thanks for your response to my post... I think for the most part I am simply not attracted to the southern white male... that accent makes my skin crawl... again I attribute that to my "throw back" gene. Ever read Carl Jung?





Grammargal, If you don't take to southern accents, you had better stay away from Creole men. Have you ever listened toJamesCarville speak?
 
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grammar_gal,584754 wrote :

JasonX43,584734 wrote :


I don't blame you for ending that relationship. As a black man that is attracted to women(not just women of a certain ethnic background), I would find being asked to hide any part of me appauling and straight up cowardice on whoever I was dating's part.





On a sidenote , given the McPherson controversy accusing some members of this group and the Sons of Confederate Veterans group of being neo -Confederates and having white supremacy as a hidden agenda, I'd like to hear your take on it!


Wow Jason... and this is 2009 - not 1869 (even then post emancipation proclamation). Supply me a link to some of those posts and I will definitely give you my opinion.


Thanks for your response to my post... I think for the most part I am simply not attracted to the southern white male... that accent makes my skin crawl... again I attribute that to my "throw back" gene. Ever read Carl Jung?

To be honest, I Googled Daughters of the Confederacy and read the Wikipedia file. And no, I've never read Carl Jung... enlighten me.





Oh, and as far as accents go with me, I don't mind them. What I do mind though is when a person's voice is tainted with a mixture of ignorance and arrogance.
 
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rocchio,585135 wrote :

grammar_gal,584754 wrote :


JasonX43,584734 wrote :


I don't blame you for ending that relationship. As a black man that is attracted to women(not just women of a certain ethnic background), I would find being asked to hide any part of me appauling and straight up cowardice on whoever I was dating's part.





On a sidenote , given the McPherson controversy accusing some members of this group and the Sons of Confederate Veterans group of being neo -Confederates and having white supremacy as a hidden agenda, I'd like to hear your take on it!


Wow Jason... and this is 2009 - not 1869 (even then post emancipation proclamation). Supply me a link to some of those posts and I will definitely give you my opinion.


Thanks for your response to my post... I think for the most part I am simply not attracted to the southern white male... that accent makes my skin crawl... again I attribute that to my "throw back" gene. Ever read Carl Jung?





Grammargal, If you don't take to southern accents, you had better stay away from Creole men. Have you ever listened toJamesCarville speak?
Hey Ro...


Carville is a Cajun - big, big difference, and he sounds no different from the hicks who live in the hills of Georgia.


With both it is more of a dialect than actual accent - I being 2 generations removed (from my family's origin) have no trace of either a dialect or an accent.
 
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JasonX43,586155 wrote :

grammar_gal,584754 wrote :


JasonX43 ,584734 wrote :


I don't blame you for ending that relationship. As a black man that is attracted to women(not just women of a certain ethnic background), I would find being asked to hide any part of me appauling and straight up cowardice on whoever I was dating's part.





On a sidenote , given the McPherson controversy accusing some members of this group and the Sons of Confederate Veterans group of being neo -Confederates and having white supremacy as a hidden agenda, I'd like to hear your take on it!


Wow Jason... and this is 2009 - not 1869 (even then post emancipation proclamation). Supply me a link to some of those posts and I will definitely give you my opinion.


Thanks for your response to my post... I think for the most part I am simply not attracted to the southern white male... that accent makes my skin crawl... again I attribute that to my "throw back" gene. Ever read Carl Jung?





To be honest, I Googled Daughters of the Confederacy and read the Wikipedia file. And no, I've never read Carl Jung... enlighten me.





Oh, and as far as accents go with me, I don't mind them. What I do mind though is when a person's voice is tainted with a mixture of ignorance and arrogance.
Ah yes, the unfounded arrogance - yes, I have had discussions with persons who misuse words (big words) trying to prove their point - and they just end up sounding like idiots.


Carl Jung - neo Freudian - Believed that past memories/instincts are inherited in our DNA just like eye color and personality traits. He says this accounts for many deja vu accounts where you feel you have been to a place you have never been - also when we meet people we instinctively like or dislike. Interesting stuff... nothing supernatural about it as some might wish to interpose.
 
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JasonX43,586155 wrote :

grammar_gal,584754 wrote :


JasonX43,584734 wrote :


I don't blame you for ending that relationship. As a black man that is attracted to women(not just women of a certain ethnic background), I would find being asked to hide any part of me appauling and straight up cowardice on whoever I was dating's part.





On a sidenote , given the McPherson controversy accusing some members of this group and the Sons of Confederate Veterans group of being neo -Confederates and having white supremacy as a hidden agenda, I'd like to hear your take on it!


Wow Jason... and this is 2009 - not 1869 (even then post emancipation proclamation). Supply me a link to some of those posts and I will definitely give you my opinion.


Thanks for your response to my post... I think for the most part I am simply not attracted to the southern white male... that accent makes my skin crawl... again I attribute that to my "throw back" gene. Ever read Carl Jung?





To be honest, I Googled Daughters of the Confederacy and read the Wikipedia file. And no, I've never read Carl Jung... enlighten me.





Oh, and as far as accents go with me, I don't mind them. What I do mind though is when a person's voice is tainted with a mixture of ignorance and arrogance.
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grammar_gal, wrote :

I have lived my life on the fringes of black and white... being able to equally circulate, survive, and thrive in both worlds. I have obviously dated in both worlds... but I have to say - and I guess you could call it my "throw back" soul... my heart will always belong to "the brethren".


I dislike the fact that here on eHarmony, that for my own ethnicity I am forced to choose between Caucasian or African-American - or the choice of "other". No one knows what "other" is... most assume I am Hispanic - and "something else" - here in the South most are afraid to allow their minds to go to what that something else might be.


I remember the last time I dated a white man... his mother (now this is hilarious) belonged to the Daughters of the Confederacy. She remarked one night at dinner that I looked "very exotic"... he had told me once before that she would drop dead if she knew of my heritage - I did not like this at all, but I decided I wasn't dating her I was dating him... but I suppose in that moment, my resentment at being asked to omit the truth behind my "exotic" looks took control and I blurted out right there as the peach pie was being passed about the table, "Well Missus, I guess I look dis way 'cuz Massa done made one too many trips out t'da qwaters". The pie never made it to me that night... the old lady survived the shock... and I of course ended that relationship soon after.


Hello - from Georgia.

hi gramma-gal i like you, you are are just what that family needed to take the stick out there ass they still believe that black people is still their kids pet who they use to send out to play with when they have no time for them, anyway what you should have done is slap the white of the guy face then rub the pie all over it the fact that he would sit there and have his mother insult you and dont do anything about is not a man to be dating it shows that he still in pampers that is mother still change for him , which means that he is no man at all ,so honey you did the right thing , it makes you think that what the bible said is true stick to your ownkind. from TRINIDAD.
 
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"Well Missus, I guess I look dis way 'cuz Massa done made one too many trips out t'da qwaters". The pie never made it to me that night...
That's so funny!
 
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