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scarlet13 is offline scarlet13 Post #1  October 24,2009, 9:27am

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I know it's generally a given that most women need an emotional connection to have really good sex, and this may not be the case for men (in general) however, a few recent posts made me think that after a while in a relationship the sex goes downhill but the emotional connection is still there. or, in the case of a FWB situation or one night stand, were there is no emotional connection the sex can still be good, because you don't have to concern yourself with the messiness of emotions and trust- you can just be yourself and let go.


my question is, personally, when do you feel the sex is the best? do you need an emotional connectionand /or relationship to have good sex, or is lust enough?
 
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Just between the 2 of us....my partners are either in synch with me, or deserve academy awards for acting. I am all over the place with my fetishes or fantasies, and not really hard wired for anything in particular. Sometimes I need cuddling and a woman who presents or offers herself as a sexual gift....other times she may subtly suggest that she wants to be taken in a straight forward primal desire to breed. I never get or let boredom enter into it. Oh goodness...my palms are sweaty.
 
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Just between the 2 of us....my partners are either in synch with me, or deserve academy awards for acting. I am all over the place with my fetishes or fantasies, and not really hard wired for anything in particular. Sometimes I need cuddling and a woman who presents or offers herself as a sexual gift....other times she may subtly suggest that she wants to be taken in a straight forward primal desire to breed. I never get or let boredom enter into it. Oh goodness...my palms are sweaty.
but do you need an emotional attachment with those women?
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
but do you need an emotional attachment with those women?
Sorry...once the blood rushed from my head, I forgot the question.

I always have some form of relationship before I engage in sex...it's the way I roll baby.
 
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I think it depends on the maturity of the individual, but in this case, women. Most women needs to feel an emotional attachment to have great unbelievable sex. In my experience, when I had a partner, it would be sex, alright I guess, but once I had sex with someone I just met and it was unbelievable, that made me have the BIG O!!! still remember him.
 
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I think the emotional attachment grows with the sex. There can be a strong connection; where we both feel that we were meant to be together... Call it fate, comfort or whatever. I really don't get too emotionally attached if I'm not having sex with her though. Somethings can break the emotional rapport too. People have to be sexually compatible; which, can lead to more of an emotional connection or lack there of.
 
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I can’t state that it’s anything other than random. Sex is occasionally good, occasionally bad, but usually just commonplace. There doesn’t seem to be a pattern to that. If anything, I’d have said job stress is the biggest factor for me.

I do find that experience with a specific partner matters a lot; first few times with a new person are usually awful.
 
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I personally can't go there wo an emotional attachment. I just have no interest without it.
 
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i'm on both ends of the spectrum personally- I find the best sex is when I'm either in love completely or if I've cleared it in my head that it's just sex w/o attachments.

i think it's because i'm a scorpio.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
i'm on both ends of the spectrum personally- I find the best sex is when I'm either in love completely or if I've cleared it in my head that it's just sex w/o attachments.

i think it's because i'm a scorpio.
Could be latex poisoning
 
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