Embarrassing Question. When do I tell someone I have multiple orgasms?


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LisaMc is offline LisaMc Post #1  October 2,2009, 11:16pm
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I know it's a loaded question and that some may think I'm trying for attention here. I'm NOT. I want real answers. I tried looking through the e-harmony archives and found 1799 results for the words "Multiple & orgasm". I looked through the first 3 pages before my eyes went crossed.

Please forgive me if I'm asking a question that's been here several times before.

I was with the same man for 19 years. We were 18 when we met.

About 5 years into our marriage, we realized I am capable of multiple (25-30+) orgasms in a good love making session. We've been separated for 5 months now. I met what I thought was a great guy and got close to him. (Not e-harmony...just a regular "Hi...would you like to go out with me?" type relationship.) We were intimate 2 days ago. I tried to restrain myself. I couldn't. Saying I needed that closeness is a massive understatement.

He said it was weird. I was hurt. He said I should have warned him. It's not like we had to wring out the bed or anything. Jeez! It was what I considered normal, enjoyable, good sex.

So here are my questions. At what time do I tell someone I do this? Is it really that big a deal as long as I bring towels? Should I tell anyone at all? Should I try to restrain myself even harder? I always enjoyed it and just smiled before, but now I don't know what the heck to do.

Thank you all so much.
 
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Mokkesofie is offline Mokkesofie Post #2  October 3,2009, 11:03am
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There's nothing wrong with that, you are a lucky girl. I have never met a guy that found it weird being able to do that. I guess your date just hadn't met it before and can't see why it freaked him out. I don't find it necessary to tell about it beforehand.
 
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OverAnalyzer is offline OverAnalyzer Post #3  October 3,2009, 11:29am
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Are you sure it doesn't depend on the guy?

My last bf showed me what m o were all about and boy, talk about towels! The more I had the more I wanted and the more he got turned on. I even learned how to return the delight because I wanted him to experience it as well. He also said it made it better for him because I was so turned on...

I did ask him about it and he said a couple of his buddies are turned off by them but most were into it. My guess is if your current guy isn't into it you will try and with-hold which will lead to frustration on your part. If he continues to be uncomfortable with this you may have a decision to make. I know I could not trade this off; I would have to find someone as compatible.

I'm interested in what the guys will say on this; I hope they speak up.
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Okay.. So he said this was "weird" He is weird! And you should have warned him? Why was he going to prepare himself and put extra water or Gatorade by the bed side?

Like Mokkesofie said you are a lucky girl. I wouldn't want my partner restraining themselves. Vocal expression in the room where all the magic happens is something I am comfortable with, and look for in a partner. I have no issues approaching these type of topics with a partner. I agree with overanalyzer, sexual compatibility is important in a relationship.
 
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The answer is never. Let him figure it out for himself.
 
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It sounds like you are a lucky girl don't apologize for a wonderful gift. It seems as if the guy may be uncomfortable with your sexuality. Some guys are still of the archaic, macho belief that a women should not enjoy sex too much or not at all. It scares some guys.
So I would say go for a guy that is happy that you can enjoy sex as much as you do. Any guy that is confident in his sexuality will think it great that you are an "enthusiastict partner."
 
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If he is uncomfortable, then it is something he might not be used to. If over time he stays like this, then y ou will have an interesting dilemma. You can learn about one another during this time. Personally, I love a woman like this. My ex girlfriend was different when we first met. After we were together, she experienec things she enjoyed a lot. She was very expressive when in the mood. This turned me on more, and it made it that much enjoyable. She now is different, and knows exactly how she is and what she wants. Yes, I hate hearing about it now, but I am happy that can be expressive and let things out. You should talk to your partner, and work together on this situation. If a guy is willing to talk to you and learn and accept, it will tell you a lot about him. These are usually your best LOVERS, and more likely usually your long term partner.
 
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This conversation is more appropriate for the "Let's Talk About Sex" Group so I am moving it there. NOTE: if you want to reply to this topic you'll need to join that Group.

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Some guys are selfish and only want to please themselves. Others are truly into a love making experience and care about your experience as much as their own. Learn to weed out the selfish ones.
 
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DDjr is offline DDjr Post #10  October 3,2009, 6:27pm
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Most guys are going to be thrilled!

For commentary on this, rent the movie "Creator" (w/ Peter O'Toole).
 
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