ozegirl is offline ozegirl Post #1  September 16,2009, 8:36pm
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hello im married to a realyy lovely man but im asking is maturdation is a normal thing for a man? the thing is we have sex at night and the next morning he masturbates by himself. and when i get home from work i saw his top with cum and hide it in the washing i ask him about it and he always denies it and makes excuses. but i know ive been living with him for 3 yrs. one time he thinks i was asleep but im not, and he was doing it again and i said to him what are you doing? and he said nothing and i am so angry cause he still denies it? y? y cant he just tell me the truth? and sometimesi ask to make love and he said his tired but he next morning he does it again. and its hurts. and i dont wanna talk to him about it cause everytime i say something he gets annoyed or just make up excuses. what will i do? is it norman? is it just me being stupid or what? please help!!
 
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pds857 is offline pds857 Post #2  September 17,2009, 11:17am
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Its the most normal thing ever.

If he's not wantin to have sex with you then there might be a problem.

Your married? Are you using BC? Maybe he jus dont wanna chance you gettin pregnant or somethin like that?

It could be somethin entirely different, like is he bi-sexual, or gay?

What's the age difference between the 2 of you?

There are many different reasons for this to be taking place.

But that he gets angry with you for bringin it up is weird to me.
How do you start the convo? Are you accusing right off the start? You could try somethin like, I wanna watch sometime, or let me do it for you or somethin like that. See what type of reaction he gives you then.
 
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86CJ7 is offline 86CJ7 Post #3  September 19,2009, 8:35pm

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I masturbation normal? Only if you are breathing!

Seriously, you say you have sex. Is you sex life satisfactory? If it is, then this is not a problem. A lot of guys have to masturbate VERY OFTEN especially when young. But it is nothing we like to talk about. It is kind of private. Like your period.

Would you like to talk about that?

So, unless it is effecting your sex life, I'd leave the subject alone. Give the guy some privacy.

Unless you want him to ask you about the spotting on your panties.
 
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I masturbation normal? Only if you are breathing!

Seriously, you say you have sex. Is you sex life satisfactory? If it is, then this is not a problem. A lot of guys have to masturbate VERY OFTEN especially when young. But it is nothing we like to talk about. It is kind of private. Like your period.

Would you like to talk about that?

So, unless it is effecting your sex life, I'd leave the subject alone. Give the guy some privacy.

Unless you want him to ask you about the spotting on your panties.
Ya know, I never looked at it like that before. I guess that some guys would find it privite, but I dont understand why it would be off limits if your in a relationship.
If I was doin it, an my SO asked me why or wanted to join in, I'd explain and or let him join in.
Why be uptight bout it? Its jus your body an sexual release.
 
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jesus_said_iam is offline jesus_said_iam Post #5  September 28,2009, 9:00am
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I would ask him if you are married what would be the reason for doing that . Or is he thinking of someone else at the time?
 
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Yes, it's perfectly normal. Guys just need some alone time at times. Perhaps he's denying this because he feels that you are prying. Why do you keep asking him? Maybe he feels slightly embarrassed.

Does he tell you "no" consistently? I have noticed a double standard in the "no" department. It's perfectly normal for a woman to say "no" to a guy; however, women seem to be much more sensitive if a guy doesn't want sex.
 
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Perhaps he's a sex addict. You mention that you saw his top with cum and it's hidden in the laundry... umm, is his top his toupee? What exactly is his "top"? Never mind, I don't want to know.
 
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Absolutely!
Masterbation-Masterbation Masterbation....
MAN
If you never did it your lying or you'd BLOW-UP!
The TALIBAN could use this as a new IED (improvised explosive device)!
Picture it! All these people on the side of the road masterbating waiting to blow up ARMY TRUCKS!
There would'nt be any ARMIES anymore would there? You got it.
Ask your partner to show you. Ask "can I do that for you" Next thing you know you're on a rollercoaster you can't stop! And what did you find? You got closer to each other and turned another page deeper into LOVE and EMOTIONS.
It also is relieving to dump off some INHIBITIONS! DIG IT?

NOW DO IT
 
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LisaMc is offline LisaMc Post #9  October 10,2009, 7:32am
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Yes it's normal. No it doesn't mean he isn't attracted to you.

As long as your sex life together is satisfying, it doesn't matter if he mastrubates like a monkey with 2 peckers. If you are ready willing & waiting, and he immediately turns his back on you, so he can mastrubate, then it is a problem.

Lying about things...well...that's not the best thing...but in this case, I would over-look it.

Men do it because they can.
 
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BobinFla is offline BobinFla Post #10  October 10,2009, 7:54pm
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He may feel that you are acting like his mother catching him. In my opinion, it is normal when you aren't getting any, but not so much if you are getting it all the time.
 
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