sacredmezzo is offline sacredmezzo Post #1  January 13,2009, 4:43pm
sacredmezzo's Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Dec 2008

Phoenix AZ

Posts: 23

See profile



I'm dating this guy that is a virgin, and I'm really experienced. He wants to wait until marriage. I'm ok with that, but has anyone else with a lot of experience have sex with a virgin out there?He isconcerned that he wouldn't know what to do when the time comes, and I'm worried that he won't like the same things I like(oral sex). I really care for this person a lot and I'm definately interested in marriage. It sounds like it would be fun to show him the ropes. What do you think out there?
 
  Reply With Quote
kibbie is offline kibbie Post #2  January 13,2009, 9:22pm
kibbie's Avatar

One of my most favorite places on earth!

Power Poster

Joined: Jul 2008

Atlanta GA

Posts: 7,506

See profile



He's a guy, right? He's going to love receiving oral...don't know about giving it though.
 
  Reply With Quote
camper33 is offline camper33 Post #3  January 13,2009, 10:30pm
camper33's Avatar

May God bless DrTonya , as she has blessed us .

Pacesetter

Joined: May 2008

North of MoTown ( Detroit, Michigan, The United States of America.)

Posts: 318

See profile



Dear " sacredmezzo " ,


While I would marry a virgin , I have always refused to " take " someone's virginity " , outside of mariage . ( And YES , it HAS come up before . ) One's first time is something that they will remember FOREVER . ( I remember mine , it was quite probably the worse sex in my life ) . I don't know if you ment giving , or receiving " oral " , but either way , there is no way to know 'till you get there . Sex is no reason to get married . Being IN love is the very best reason to get married . Are you IN love with him ??? Do you want to be with him every day for the rest of your life ? Do you want to have children with him ? I wish you luck in finding your answers .


Sincerely ,


Alec ,


( camper33 ) .
 
  Reply With Quote
dwreese182 is offline dwreese182 Post #4  January 13,2009, 10:43pm
dwreese182's Avatar

Pag-ibig ng isla

Veteran

Joined: Oct 2008

Afghanistan

Posts: 2,215

See profile



I have done it a couple times. I have not enjoyed it. There is just something about the lack of experience that makes it extremely boring.I imagine it would be even worse for a guy, seeing how generally the first time lasts for....ooohhhh.....at most a couple minutes.


You've got more will power than I do. I could not wait for marriage, seeing as how I will not get married again.
 
  Reply With Quote
beohbebewhy is offline beohbebewhy Post #5  January 13,2009, 11:48pm
beohbebewhy's Avatar

Happy New Year

Quick Study

Joined: Oct 2008

Topeka, KS

Posts: 229

See profile

kibbie,430413 wrote :

He's a guy, right? He's going to love receiving oral...don't know about giving it though.
It's better to give than receive.
 
  Reply With Quote
LonelyStarState is offline LonelyStarState Post #6  January 14,2009, 8:16am

H ga hoshii

Unregistered

Joined: Sep 2008

San Antonio, Texas

Posts: 3,438

See profile



(PERK) virgins!?!?
 
  Reply With Quote
ANDR3W is offline ANDR3W Post #7  January 14,2009, 9:09am
ANDR3W's Avatar

Enthusiast

Joined: Dec 2008

South Florida

Posts: 734

See profile



I would'nt buy a car without taking a test drive, or at least kicking the tires.
 
  Reply With Quote
sacredmezzo is offline sacredmezzo Post #8  January 14,2009, 2:21pm
sacredmezzo's Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Dec 2008

Phoenix AZ

Posts: 23

See profile



The reason I ask this is because I waited for my first husband and I to have sex after marriage. We weren't virgins, but I found out during the honeymoon that my husband was terrible in bed. No sex drive either. I suffered through 13 years of that. I am afraid of winding up in the sameboat the second time around.I loved my husband, but that was not going to replace a lousy sex life or lack of one altogether.I really love this guy I'm dating, but I am nervous. Maybe I should just seduce him!
 
  Reply With Quote
mikethebiker is offline mikethebiker Post #9  January 14,2009, 2:40pm
mikethebiker's Avatar

I got me a smitten kitten

Pacesetter

Joined: Apr 2008

Yonkers, New York

Posts: 259

See profile



HHHHHHHHHEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO


You just made my point for me as I was reading down the comments. Are you willing to marry someone who may turn out to be a flop or even worse have no sex drive and is unwilling to learn from an experianced partner. Sorry, I might be a little ummmmmmmmm loose, but there is no reason for not having pre-marital sex in my book. Even if they are a flop the can learn how to be good if they want to. If there is no want for, i.e. waiting a very long time to have it, then you might want to invest in Duracell. Seduce him or what ever it takes but find out what you are getting into first. IMHO.
 
  Reply With Quote
sacredmezzo is offline sacredmezzo Post #10  January 15,2009, 4:39am
sacredmezzo's Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Dec 2008

Phoenix AZ

Posts: 23

See profile



Well, he is a pastor of a baptist church, so I already know he won't sleep with me first before we get married. I don't know. Maybe this isn't such a good match. It is a huge risk to commit sight unseen. No, sex isn't everything, but it is sure as heck important to me.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply
  • Page 1 of 3
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3


« friends | let's talk about sex | Hair or no hair? »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“ Excellent, thank you. I think I will leave out the first part, I think it is unnecessary information to give him. I'm not interested in putting myself out there like that and it might be a little ... ” –  generallyyou

Join the “Ending a friendship” discussion

“Alfred Hitchcock - 18 Steven Spielberg - 62 *notice what?” –  dmi

Join the “War of the Directors” discussion

“ I would be "certain people" :P The issue isn't a deal-breaker, but a very strong factor preference-wise, for me.” –  ThePriestess

Join the “How much does race play in your dating someone?” discussion

“Love Texas Hold'em!.. I'm thinking of trying another tournament this summer...not sure yet though.. Never entered a tournament before, outside of online ones. Personally I prefer to play with ... ” –  Freezepop

Join the “Favorite Card Game” discussion

“Make that 3! I also had a crush on Donny Osmond. I think I still have a record or two of his. Suzie ” –  legend29

Join the “Robin Gibbs Dead at 62...How Deep is Your Love?” discussion

“Oh, my revised profile can be seen in the forum in the section where you can ask for a profile review. Suzanne” –  SuzanneScorpio

Join the “Photo Review” discussion

“Just remember, everything that you are feeling and/or are capable of he is as well. If he wanted to reach you, he could. Right now he knows that you are hurting, and that this is not what you ... ” –  lynntlb78

Join the “Can I wait and move on at the same time?” discussion

“ Yohio. And the shortened form (Anya) is nice too.” –  ThePriestess

Join the “Where is Becky?!?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 7:41am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0