Are people deciding to ONLY date outside their race?


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Truety is offline Truety Post #1  July 31,2008, 1:02pm
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I have been encountering the subject where there is this idea that black men and women, in particular, are purposely deciding only to dateoutside oftheir race. Is this a general or growing consensus? If you feel this way, why? If not, why do you think this issue seems to be becoming so prevalent?
 
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Sarah is offline Sarah Post #2  July 31,2008, 9:07pm
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I personally wouldn't decide to date someone based on their race. However I have heard that some people do decide to do this for various reasons that I wouldn't necessarily go into on eharmony's forum.
 
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Sarah,196795 wrote :

I personally wouldn't decide to date someone based on their race. However I have heard that some people do decide to do this for various reasons that I wouldn't necessarily go into on eharmony's forum.
If one of those various reasons is that black men differ from white men if 'certain ways', it's not true. Like white men, they....well, vary! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]
 
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Well, I can only speak for myself; being a black female, In the past I have dated black men as well as white. And what attracted me to each person that I've dated, was a combination of the physical as well their personalities. I agree with d_lightful, in that everyone is different in some ways, no matteer what race they are, however on a deeper level as human beings, we have much more in common then what many people realize.[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-kiss.gif[/img]
 
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Abra,198784 wrote :

Well, I can only speak for myself; being a black female, In the past I have dated black men as well as white. And what attracted me to each person that I've dated, was a combination of the physical as well their personalities. I agree with d_lightful, in that everyone is different in some ways, no matteer what race they are, however on a deeper level as human beings, we have much more in common then what many people realize.[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-kiss.gif[/img]
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I too agree about all of us having more in common than not. While I have never dated seriously outside of my race (I'm a African American female) I've made the decision just today to stop holding back. IfI find myself attracted to someone of another race, I will no longer rule him out based on that alone. Funny thing, I've raised my daughter to always be open minded, and she has. Now I'm giving myself some of my own advice


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You know it's funny....I think there's also a misconception that can happen out there when you DO date outside your race...my last serious relationship was with an African-American man, and now, because of that, people assume that I wouldn't consider anyone else BUT a black man. It's not true, I would consider anyone to whom I'm attracted on a physical AND emotional level...
 
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I'm bi-racial, but because I'm dark skinned and have dark features most of the attention I get is from black men. Black men though do NOT attract me. I have never seen one that physically attracted me, or had personalities that even attracted me. For that reason I choose not to have them sent to me as potential matches.


I don't know if it's just the usual online dating issues at work, that have made successful communications a problem. Or the combined problem that I'm look for specific races that might not commonly be interested in me, giving me a chance.
 
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Kurius_Kitten,203239 wrote :

I'm bi-racial, but because I'm dark skinned and have dark features most of the attention I get is from black men. Black men though do NOT attract me. I have never seen one that physically attracted me, or had personalities that even attracted me. For that reason I choose not to have them sent to me as potential matches.


I don't know if it's just the usual online dating issues at work, that have made successful communications a problem. Or the combined problem that I'm look for specific races that might not commonly be interested in me, giving me a chance.
I think you diagnosed the problem accuratley-you may very well be attracting races that feel similar to you.


My question is to the physical attraction thing. I find it hard to believe you've never met a black man you've found attractive. What do you find attractive? I only ask because black man come in every shade from vanilla to expresso, some you may not even know their ethnicity until they ask. So are you turned off once you find out their ethnicity? I also dont think personalities are unique to a race a people. Its the one thing I love about interracial dating. People are so much more similar than different. Maybe you should try being a little more openminded.
 
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Soulful_Steph,219115 wrote :

Kurius_Kitten,203239 wrote :


I'm bi-racial, but because I'm dark skinned and have dark features most of the attention I get is from black men. Black men though do NOT attract me. I have never seen one that physically attracted me, or had personalities that even attracted me. For that reason I choose not to have them sent to me as potential matches.


I don't know if it's just the usual online dating issues at work, that have made successful communications a problem. Or the combined problem that I'm look for specific races that might not commonly be interested in me, giving me a chance.


I think you diagnosed the problem accuratley-you may very well be attracting races that feel similar to you.


My question is to the physical attraction thing. I find it hard to believe you've never met a black man you've found attractive. What do you find attractive? I only ask because black man come in every shade from vanilla to expresso, some you may not even know their ethnicity until they ask. So are you turned off once you find out their ethnicity? I also dont think personalities are unique to a race a people. Its the one thing I love about interracial dating. People are so much more similar than different. Maybe you should try being a little more openminded.
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Race isn't an issue for me. A beautiful woman is a beautiful woman whether she's black, white, egyptian, filipino, etc, etc!
 
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