BigWillieStyle is offline BigWillieStyle Post #71  August 25,2008, 12:46pm
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Livin It Up ,216483 wrote :

I'm interestd in interracial dating, I'm a black female, what advice can you give me?
Just do it!! Remember, everyone has their own problems, even those of other races! Also, if there is a problem and you need guidance or help, he may or may not be able to understand...its already hard for some men to comfort women, let aloneone from another race. Other than that you should be ok, have fun!![img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]
 
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thegeekmom,226345 wrote :

BigWillieStyle,214453 wrote :


kindamad,198093 wrote :


It seems that most foreign men prefer white women over black women. Is there some reason for this?


Same reason most foreign women prefer White men; for the status quo...the belief there is status and power in dating and ultimately marrying White women. In the end its about maintaining "class" and even in today standards, it is still a valuable asset to many cultures. Many cultures still believe Black men and women are "ignorant and stupid" people walking the Earth, who are not civilized, and who do not possess any "power or status" in society. Also, there aren't many Black people in other countries, so exposure is far and few as opposed to here in the States, so the aforementioned mindset cannot be dispelled. Also thanks to media, images of Black people are always negative, to include music videos, especially rap. There are many positives in the media, but those are rarely shown. Which leads to if I was a foreign man, I wouldn't date a Black woman either.


Greetings and Aloha Big Willie,


As a woman of color who is multi lingual and multi cultural people are constantly curious as to my race. What many take as iconic is actually status quo for people of color who happen to be educated. I was blessed to have the education and experiences that have enhanced my life. I have a face and personality that entrances men of all colors and everyone wants to put a label on my selfness, I must be other than black because...... I read, speak articulately, enjoy the pleasures and vicissitudes of life, I am a lover of beauty and poetry, love has come to me from several continents, however there is a little bit of an annoyance when people ask, are you part indian, you have such lovely hair and skin, oh are you French, you speak it so eloquently, I must be other, because being black means being relegated to a sub human species. A DNA test would show that 90% of the blacks in this country are mixed. When I went to Africa 2 years ago I was immediately tagged as a creole (In New Orleans where my family is from this is a good thing, and we can cook too, but I digress) African Americans are a polyglot of many races, the most superficial being that of African, so we are rather distinctive. Our beauty is that of articulated night, and all the dreams and passions that arise from that.


Black girl black girl


lips as ripe as cherries


full as grape bunches


sweet as blackberries


black girl black girl when you laugh you are


magick as a rising sun


or a falling star


Black girl black girl why is it you make


the heart that beats inside my breast


jump, stop , shake





We are the essence,life, raw and unrefined, single malt men and woman, distilled to perfection, cultural Anthro shows it started with US, all those Pharoahs with Nubian DNA and Egypt Kemet was the BlacK Land. We had our season and once ruled the world and set the standards for civilization. Even today , our effect on the planet is global, the raw energy comes out in our music, our dance, our poetry, we set the trends for what is hip all over the world. Cedric the Entertainers soliloquy in Be Cool is so apropos.


We are people phenomenally , phenomenal people, that's we


and some folks just can't handle it.


But for those who can.................
Aloha to you thegeekmom!!


Glad to hear you have so many talents, yet, I believe you may have it harder than me. From what you are saying, people see you and have to ask what race you are. You should tell them, "Beautiful" is your race, that will shut them up!! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-tongue-out.gif[/img]Myself, a person can already make their stereotypical assumption as soon as they look at me...wait a minute, what am I doing? I'm typing like I have some education or something!! Anywho, I know the OP was about interracial dating, but I believe at least this would give people a chance to look at someone's personality rather than the color of their skin, and making assumptions. Many people perceive Black people are bad and White people are good, (which from my experience, I can say is definitely the contrary!) People are people, regardless of skin color, and there aregood, bad, and in-between people. Its just trying to find the good person is the challenge....
 
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Aranelle, wrote :

I have a question for everyone. How is interracial dating viewed in general in the area where you live? I am in middle Tennessee and I seem to see a LOT more interracial couples out in public than I used to, mostly young, mostly black/white couples, and often with biracial children. Though on the surface interracial dating seems more accepted than it used to be, I have to wonder whether most people really accept it, just pretend to, or are merely choosing not to comment about their opinions in public.


Also it seems that Barack Obama's victory in the Democratic primary has brought out hidden racism in many people who would not normally express their racism out loud.


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Hi;


I'm from the Caribbean (Guyana and Barbados specifically) and here interracial dating and mixing is the norm and pretty much has been for decades. Here European (i.e. Dutch, French, Spanish, Portuguese etc.), British, East Indian, Middle Eastern, Chinese and Black have been dating, marrying and producing children of mixed origin for years. I myself am mixed with Portuguese, Black, Dutch and British, and have cousins who have East Indian or Chinese in them also.


There is still however, those who hold on to some of the old prejudices (circa late 1800’s early 1900’s) and prefer to not mix or have their children in interracial relationships, but they are the minority. What is more seen here is classism in terms of dating where those of the upper economic class would probably not date those of the lower economic class, no matter if they were of the same race.


The issue of interracial dating in my opinion is not that of an issue at all and personally I think that in America people place too much emphasis and make a big deal out of race and racial mixing. Besides living in the Caribbean I have also spent half my life in Canada, and there again, specifically in the big cities like Toronto, Montreal, Vancouver, etc., I have not observed of this being an issue and it is quite common to see interracial couples (although no as prevalent as here in the Caribbean). Though I must admit this has been a trend that has increased over the years (to my delight).


To conclude, interracial dating is definitely accepted here in the Caribbean and to a certain extent in the majority of the big cities in Canada. My take on this is that we are all human beings and what really separates us is not colour or culture, but ignorance and the lack of acceptance for each other and ability to go beyond these barriers.


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Not seen to often here in Winston-Salem. I moved here about 4yrs ago from San Diego, Ca and its the norm. My ex husband is white and I'm black and American Indian. I have two boys and I had people come up to me and ask who's kids are they are or better yet what are they. All I do is laugh.[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-tongue-out.gif[/img]





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I am married to an African American male and I am a white Australian, it is pretty easy going here in Australia and no one seems to care but we do get the occassional look from elderly people, some are very racist. My husband has only had racist comments said to him a few times over the last 11 years, the funny thing is that African men and women seem to gives us very mean looks more than the white Australians do.
 
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Interracial dating is very common here in Vancouver. In the schools you will find biracial children are becoming more and more common. The three largest ethnic groups are caucasian, asian, and southeast asian (Indo-Canadian). Unfortunately for me, I am interested in dating black men and that's a bit harder. I think this city is, for the most part, very accepting. In the West End, same-sex couples comfortably walk around holding hands and no one thinks anything of it. Since I live in the downtown core, I'm not sure if people living in the suburbs are quite as accepting. I still think that people belonging to the more traditional cultures (Chinese and especially Indo-Canadian) are less likely to marry outside of their cultural backgrounds. Times are continuing to change though and it really depends on what generation you are. Personally I would be more inclined to notice the stares of others if the person I was with had bad manners or was just loud and obnoxious. If someone stares at me because of the ethnicity of the person I'm with, I really couldn't care less.
 
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Daisyduck,247393 wrote :

I am married to an African American male and I am a white Australian, it is pretty easy going here in Australia and no one seems to care but we do get the occassional look from elderly people, some are very racist. My husband has only had racist comments said to him a few times over the last 11 years, the funny thing is that African men and women seem to gives us very mean looks more than the white Australians do.
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In my city there is many interrelationships and is widely acceptable. You can learn alot from someone elses culture. Foods and festivals are interesting and fun to take part in. You might find someone realy hot in an interracial relationship. Keep your heart and eyes open for a special someone.





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I do not see a lot of black-caucasian couples in Washington D.C. Lots of mean stares and ugly attitudes when we go out, especially from the brothers and sometimes older caucasian women. The subways are the worst for this type of thing.


And it has only been 2 months..


My BF is very supportive through, knowing this is my 1st interracial relationship, so I believe we'll get through it.
 
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DE_MO_75,138013 wrote :

In pittsburgh there seems to be alot more men dating interracially then women...sounds strange I know cause then you think well who are the men dating? So, let me explain...more black men in pgh seem to be dating women of another race. I think it is beautiful, love is love, so fella...let me say there is someone out there for everyone, no matter the race. If he treats you well...love him hard ladies....
Very Good Advice..My whole thing as far as "interracial dating" does it really matter what someone else thinks about you or the person you are with..hmmm to me NOT at all because if you are not a part of my life then your thoughtsdon't matter to me. I'm a woman bottomline and it don't matter what color of skin I have, same for a man. Does love have a color? No
 
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