Sisters, please read this book!

Having a good amount of self-confidence and common sense I don't need a book to tell me these things.

Sometimes we really dont have time. With work and the other aspects of a social life, sometimes there isnttime to talk to someone for more then a few minutes, even if you care.


It might be true for some cases, but not for all. People do get busy.

My main book is of course the Bible.* Then books by Christian authors, especially Joyce Meyers.* But this one secular book changed my whole perspective on the waiting game.* It's called "He's just not that into you."*


One recurring theme on this site from men and women is "why did they stop communicating?"* "Should I keep calling?" "Should I as a woman make the first move?"* This book gives a frank, sometimes uncomfortable, but wholly truthful answer.*


IF HE'S NOT COMMUNICATING, IT'S BECAUSE HE DOESN'T WANT TO!* I don't care if he's halfway around the world, works 60+ hours a week, is deaf in one ear and can't hear out the other.* If he's interested he WILL let you know and not take the risk of losing you.* It doesn't matter why he doesn't. He just*doesn't and no amount of us trying to figure it out, or worse, trying to change his mind is going to make a diffirence.*They pursue us, not the other way around.**If your lucky,*you just*waste time, at worst you look like a desperate stalker.The only men who*CAN'T communicate with you on this site are those who aren't paid subscibers.* And if they were serious about finding someone, they'd pony up the $.


I dated a guy for a little while who actually took time to keep in touch with me while arranging his mother's funeral in another state!* If there was anyone who had an excuse not to call, it was him.* But he said he felt better when he spoke to me. We eventually*went of seperate ways, but it goes to show what can be done when there is the WILL to do it.*


The Bible (proverbs)*says "A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord."* Pretty good deal! A good wife and heavenly perks.* You have to start realizing that YOU are the good thing!* YOU are the path that leads him to obtain favor! We are the princesses, but we keep acting like the pea.


Once we can accept this small truth, it will not only*change your entire attitude toward the whole dating process,but also help you to handle rejection better.* It takes time.* I recently had to re-read this book.* We're so programed to please, find solutions, give one more chance, be undersatnding and patient.* But there is a limit and Christian women need not feel guilty about saying so.*

The book really isn't about people without self-confidence or common sense. It's greared towards those who give too much leeway and get very little in return under the heading of being "understanding." They practice humility, patience and kindness as we as Christians are taught to do, but end up at times being doormats.


This issue of "Why did they break communication?" has come up numerous times in this group from men and women. None of these people strike me as having low self-esteem or being fools. But even very astute people need a wake-up call every now and again. Especially when our emotions get involved.

The book really isn't about people without*self-confidence* or common sense.* It's greared towards those who give too much leeway and get very little in return*under the heading of being "understanding."* They*practice humility, patience and kindness*as we as Christians are taught to do, but end up at times being doormats.*


This issue of "Why did they break communication?" has come up numerous times in this group from men and women.* None of these people strike me as having low self-esteem or being fools.* But even very astute people need a wake-up call every now and again.* Especially when our emotions get involved.


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I think you're reading toooooo much into this! This has nothing to do with "common sense..." By stating so; you're implying those that read this and books similar don't have common sense? Come on now! I could say those who read books on mountain climbing should have the "common sense" of NOT doing so due to accidents. That's called faulty logic and you used that in your comment. Have a great day!!