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skeeety is offline skeeety Post #1  March 26,2010, 5:13am
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What is your view about a married man seeking platonic friendship with females and meeting up with them (individually) on business trips?

Let's say it is a truly platonic friendship - no sex, no relationship involved.

Some men are on the roads a lot - business trips. They are often alone and need someone to have meal with, to chat etc. So having platonic friends sounds fine, right?

My questions is - Is this an acceptable thing to do for a married man?
 
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As long as there is no string attach occured in the friendship, I think there is nothing wrong with that. However, both must take heed that temptation is everywhere, no one is exempted from its trap. Although we have a choice and freedom to accept or refuse the temptation of falling into something other than friendshipa by a married guy and a woman, it is important to avoid in contact with a female friend when on business trip even just for dinner, chat or whatever activity that interest by both people. Many times I received emails in some dating website I have joined from married guy who like to meet me in person just solely for friendship while they are on business to my country. I refused to meet them because I'm afraid that one time dinner or chat in person might not be enough for both of us as friendships continue to blossoms in person.
 
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skeeety wrote :
Some men are on the roads a lot - business trips. They are often alone and need someone to have meal with, to chat etc. So having platonic friends sounds fine, right?

My questions is - Is this an acceptable thing to do for a married man?
i'd say it is a very bad idea.
 
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i'd say it is a very bad idea.
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If I knew his wife, as in I was on regular speaking terms with her, I'd be okay with this. If not, no.
 
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meri75 wrote :
If I knew his wife, as in I was on regular speaking terms with her, I'd be okay with this. If not, no.
In general, I would feel it to be technically okay, but practically risky. +1 in agreement for knowing the spouse...
 
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Really really bad idea.....
 
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Kind of like putting explosive dynamite next to a set of matches and feeling secure that there won't be any spark.
 
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danielwalton3019 wrote :
In general, I would feel it to be technically okay, but practically risky. +1 in agreement for knowing the spouse...
Yes, this is where trust comes into it. I travel for work and that does mean I end up having meals with men who are single, engaged or married. In some cases I know of his partner, in others I actually know her and sometimes she comes along too.

When the shoe is on the other foot and they come to visit my work location, we do usually go out for dinner after work. The conversation is usually dominated by his partner/family and work. This happens once, maybe twice a year. I travelled just this week for work and did not catch up with anyone over a meal. Sometimes our schedules work out and sometimes not.

If I couldn't trust either of us, then there would not be a meal happening.

Where I do think this becomes an issue, is when either party is singling out the other for frequent interactions. I think that is more dangerous territory than the occasional meal ...
 
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missthang wrote :
Kind of like putting explosive dynamite next to a set of matches and feeling secure that there won't be any spark.
Love how you describe it :-)

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I travel for work and that does mean I end up having meals with men who are single, engaged or married.
It is quite normal in your case because you are meeting someone you know or with their friends or spouses. But what about a married man who have meals with girls he had met online, or come across in hotel lobby, and they have meals or coffee just to chat or get to know each other as friend. And he continues to meet them (individually, occasionally) on non-sex, non-relationship, non-exclusive basis. Is there a problem? I know many girls don't mind this type of arrangement and the married men think it is okay because they can have some companionship while they are on the road, learning local cultures and in their mind they are not crossing the line. Is anyone seeing anything wrong with this picture? What did the bible say about married men/women having platonic friendship?
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