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Ok, figured I would stard a thread where people can pose a situation they are in or a decishion to be made and open it to discussion here for the group to give there thoughts on.
 
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Ok here is my deal. The questions all the way from the start even to the first starting open conversation on eHarmony are somewhat scripted. I have made a database of answers to all possible questions on the list, so that I can find it and not retype it every time. Sure, if it's called for I edit them to the person to personalize it. Is this ok, or am I a bit impersonal here or compulsive, you decide!
 
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You are funny my tender poet. I think it is a little compulsive and doesn't allow you to have any spontaneity with your answers. Don't be into your head so much and try to go with your feelings a little. You have lots of feelings if you call yourself a tender poet so don't be afraid to allow them a little freedom. :-)
 
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Don't even get me started on my fellings. If my emotional state were a ride, my life would be a combination of he most, fun, exciteing, thrillings, and scarry roller costers lol.
 
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well then dear tender poet...don't be afraid to use those emotions when you answer your questions, be real. But remember to be balanced and keep your head on. Girls like it when you are able to be intimately connected with them...just don't forget to not make it all about you. Girls want to know that you are interested in them and their feelings and what they think. :-)
 
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If you only could see my profile ansers and the questions I ask, I tend to try to make it all about them and answer the questions they ask me in turn lol. Just for every question, it's about the same anser, i take it and then edit it to the indivijual, what's wrong with that? can I get a ladies oppinion as well here lol?
 
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well tender poet I am a lady... and not trying to put you on the defense...I just was trying to encourage you in your search.
 
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Fair enough, I had ony 4 hrs sleep last night, i apoligise if i was snarky.
 
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Doing a "copy and paste" can help make it so you don't say something lame and then smack yourself on the forehead later. In and of itself, it's not a bad idea.

But there is a down side if you're not careful.

When I was on Match, I would keep all of the emails I got from Match in a separate folder in Outlook. Just how I am, but also not that unusual. One day I got a message from a man who looked very familiar. I couldn't remember where I had seen him before, so I looked in my email folder. Sure enough, there was the email he had sent me 5 months before, telling me how beautiful and sweet and very different I was. It was exactly the same email I had just received, so obviously the same email he had been sending to every woman he liked over the last 5 months (or more). Didn't exactly make me feel special and "very different", so I declined.

Lesson learned? Either give individual responses or keep good records.
 
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chawks64 wrote :
Doing a "copy and paste" can help make it so you don't say something lame and then smack yourself on the forehead later. In and of itself, it's not a bad idea.

But there is a down side if you're not careful.

When I was on Match, I would keep all of the emails I got from Match in a separate folder in Outlook. Just how I am, but also not that unusual. One day I got a message from a man who looked very familiar. I couldn't remember where I had seen him before, so I looked in my email folder. Sure enough, there was the email he had sent me 5 months before, telling me how beautiful and sweet and very different I was. It was exactly the same email I had just received, so obviously the same email he had been sending to every woman he liked over the last 5 months (or more). Didn't exactly make me feel special and "very different", so I declined.

Lesson learned? Either give individual responses or keep good records.
Oh I agree there, but thease are all my answers to questions they pose pre open communication. Now the first letter I send, if I initiate it is about the same, how ever I change a bit here and there to personlize it to the person. After that it's all me and I don't referance any thing buy my immidiate thoughts then, now, what do you think?
 
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