notyet is offline notyet Post #21  November 7,2009, 7:15pm
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well, actually...

i don't know why matches could not be talked about here- in very general terms. i've seen it before. i think it can be done.

of course, if your match is also here on eHa, well...
 
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That's just it, I don't know lol. I want to protect myself and prospective members.... either way if no one wants to take a stab at helping I have real friends I can ask advice tomarow from...
 
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notyet wrote :
i don't know why you want to talk about your matches in PMs- but that is your prerogative.

but about your first question, i admit to doing something very similar to what you are doing for the first round of questions.

those questions are so canned and boring. and i have written my own answers- so really they are not canned. i at least am not picking on of the multiple choice answers- which i think of as very lame.

and in the second round, i always come up with my own questions based on what i have learned about that person up to that point.

and it goes a long way with me if my match does the same and writes her own question.
That's a great idea ... I had trouble with those standard answers too. I was answering with my own words for the most part.
 
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Tender Poet- I do the same thing! I think it keeps me MORE honest and truthful. Sometimes, after reading a profile...and seeing pics of a great looking guy...I might be tempted to "spin" my answers to sound more appealing to a particular match. If I stick with my "pre-scripted" answers, I am held accountable to the truth. After all, we are both (the match and I) looking for someone we are truly compatible with...I would rather be rejected online, than have to pretend to be someone I'm not!!
 
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eviegirl wrote :
Tender Poet- I do the same thing! I think it keeps me MORE honest and truthful. Sometimes, after reading a profile...and seeing pics of a great looking guy...I might be tempted to "spin" my answers to sound more appealing to a particular match. If I stick with my "pre-scripted" answers, I am held accountable to the truth. After all, we are both (the match and I) looking for someone we are truly compatible with...I would rather be rejected online, than have to pretend to be someone I'm not!!
Thank God a Lady agrees with me, now I don't feel so bad, you should check out poet's corner and my other posts, you might like what you discover there posted, oh and don't miss my kissing booth post.... he he he
 
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...oh and don't miss my kissing booth post.... he he he
in my kissing booth...
 
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[quote=notyet;790574]in my kissing booth...
 
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I'ts just a very decieving world out there isn't it, I had a cloudy picture experiance, not kidding, met the person and then understood the cloudy pics, alot older than he said, unhealthy individual, chalked up to should have went with my gut on that,
 
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I had been on dating sites for about 4 years and at first had canned answers. I decided to change that as I began to grow and change through the process. The sites are a good resource for personal development and growth.

What is going to happen when you have spent all that time with canned answers and begin to interact with a real woman? Why not use this time to develop your communication skills better.

I personally never met a compatible match until I came in here. I have been getting to know a woman who exceeds my wildest dreams with her personality, spirituality,intelligence, values, beauty and lovelyness. Keep encouraged in finding the special gem for your life.
 
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