notyet is offline notyet Post #11  November 1,2009, 9:31pm
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it went well- she is a gem...
 
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lindseyk is offline lindseyk Post #12  November 1,2009, 9:58pm

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[quote=notyet;784469]it went well- she is a gem...
 
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meri75 is offline meri75 Post #13  November 1,2009, 10:49pm
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[quote=notyet;784469]it went well- she is a gem...
 
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I'm so glad!
 
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coeuri is offline coeuri Post #15  November 2,2009, 3:52am
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Bravo! You are wise to take it slow. Really take the time to get to know each other in the process and to begin to relax together in new levels. I am happy for you.
 
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Sit back and enjoy every step of the way. Make each of those steps fun for both of you. If it is right, you will have the time to savor every minute.
 
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winn is offline winn Post #17  November 4,2009, 5:20pm

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Good news, Notyet. You are many steps ahead of me. I've been on eHarmony for 4 months now, have cxommunicated with four men but have yet to get to the point of a date. I was supposed to have a coffee date with a fellow who lives in my area and we both ended up with the swine flu. We haven't rescheduled yet and I'm not sure if it's going to happen so i wish you all the best.
 
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notyet is offline notyet Post #18  November 4,2009, 9:40pm
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well, you all caution slow and i want slow for a few reasons- including there are at least three other women i still want to meet. i have no commitment to the lady and want to do right by her, myself, my children and any children that may result from a future union. but we are going to see each other tomorrow for dinner after work.

she is traveling to a conference this coming week and i am back to dc the following week for training. so if i do not see her tomorrow, i will not see her for about three weeks.

but the pace is right. i had not spoken to her since lunch sunday. we have both spoken about former, clingy, needy people and neither of us want that or encourage that.

i have another date planned for the second week of december! with another woman. she is in california. her, i've met for coffee twice and talk to about once a week.

i know several of you have expressed reservation about occasionally seeing multiple people at the same time. but honestly, as long as everyone knows you are not in an exclusive relationship, i see nothing wrong with it- especially since these are people i have never met before. you have to get to know people somehow. and seeing them occasionally and talking and emailing some would be about the only way i can see to do that.

and i see know reason to commit to someone you barely know. i want to meet as many as possible so that i am confident i have found a good match and have no later regrets.

but keep praying. leave comments of encouragement or correction as you see fit. and i will keep you all up to speed as best i can.

now, get out there and date!
 
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rix is offline rix Post #19  November 5,2009, 12:24am
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notyet wrote :
well, you all caution slow and i want slow for a few reasons- including there are at least three other women i still want to meet.
Runnin' down the road tryin' to loosen my load. I've got seven women on my mind ... four that wanna own me ... two that wanna stone me ... one she is a friend of mine ...

Wait a minute, wrong song. Way to go stud! What's a "real date," and what's it like?
 
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coeuri is offline coeuri Post #20  November 5,2009, 3:28am
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notyet, When You are talking a life commitment, there is a need to know you are with someone who has the same values as you but you also need to know that this is THE ONE you will be satisfied to spend your life with. I know the hardest thing for me is when I meet someone and, in the getting to know each other stage, there is already that feeling that they "own" me in some exclusive way that makes it more difficult to be honest with them when and if irreconcilable differences begin to raise red flags in the relationship.
As my pastor has said to me though, my faith is integral to who I am so I need to be careful to not get locked into a relationship someone who can not accept that so, I have to be honest about it even if it ends up costing a friendship which was what I first hope to have in any relationship.

It is important to be upfront about whether you are getting to know others but I don't feel you are on a wrong track. I only hope I can be as wise and thoughtful about it if I choose to date again.
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