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I did not take that as him suggesting you can't learn from people you agree with. But, I think what he meant, and I'm certainly not putting words into his mouth, is when you close the rest of the world out you are limiting yourself to only your way of life and being completely left in the dark about other cultures, beliefs and life styles, of which there is plenty to learn from. If you close these people out, you cannot do anything but speculate and make assumptions about why people act the way they do and will be left, sadly, a closed minded person. You can only learn so much from books and from other people. To talk to people from different walks of life, and even better to experience it, is true knowledge. I am not that knowledgeable about Christianity as a whole but I would guess that Jesus said somewhere to be open and loving to all people of every walk of life.

I mean no insult whatsoever by these next couple comments. You seem to be only interested in talking to a very select group of people and push away anything that might be out of your "comfort zone". I have no idea how old you are, what your life experiences have been or what your actual personality is, you could have been around the world and back a couple times for all I know, but it seems to me you need to open up a bit. Christianity is only the majority if you group all the sects together, there are about 4 billion other people out there with different beliefs than you and many of them are very fascinating.