FaithNGod is offline FaithNGod Post #1  July 16,2009, 3:43pm
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We hear about love all over the place. We use the word so much that it seems to lost meaning. I love that pizza. I love those new shoes. I love you. I love God.

8But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.


21He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.
16For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

How has the love of God affected your heart and what is our response to such love?

Let me put that another way. God has evidenced His love toward us, what is the evidence of our love toward Him and to the world around us?
 
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FaithNGod is offline FaithNGod Post #2  July 16,2009, 3:56pm
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As well as our response to the love of God in our lives. I would like to know what does love look like in a dating relationship. As brothers and sisters in God, is it a loving act to take sex from our dating partner? What boundries should we take to show how we love our dating partner? If you have questions I would appreciate them as well and your input.

Your brother in Christ,Craig
 
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I think 1 Cor 13 is the best description of love I have ever read. Nothing else comes remotely close.

I'm not sure. I have mostly found Christians get so caught up in doctrinal discussions, we often forget about the core, simple stuff Jesus/God taught us. I think the church I'm attending now, the people there try very hard to show love to others. They do things such as foster children, help others in the community etc; but they do it quietly. There is no boasting or sense of self/ego when they do discuss their experiences. There is a lot of looking for opportunities to help others and just do it. And no expecting any thanks or reciprocation for their help. It is a good witness, I feel.

With regard to dating, I think communication and respect of each other are biggies. Ultimately, people are going to have their own opinions, regardless of whether or not they wish to follow biblical principles. For example, if a couple had decided to wait until marriage and one was using opportunity to try and change the other person's mind, I don't classify that as love or respect.
 
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notyet is offline notyet Post #4  July 20,2009, 8:22pm
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there was a great thread started on love, http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/gr...what-love.html

compiled from my posts there:

...this is a perennial question and has been answered multiple times in various places on this site. my favorite definition of love comes from don francisco, "love is not a feeling- it's an act of the will."

love is something you decide to do. it is not "chemistry". it is not "butterflies". it is a commitment to put the other first all of the time. it is work. it is hard. it is rewarding. it is like raising my children. (NOT calling a SO a child.) it is fulfilling and challenging and rewarding. and it is something i choose to do- this loving. of course- you are not given choice as to who your children are or which parents you have. but you love them anyway. always. through EVERYTHING.

the trick to romance is to find someone you will be able to tolerate (yes that is the word i want) for the long haul. because the sex will not always be hot and the banter will not always be witty. find someone that you can abide with. and someone that can abide with you.

to briefly expand- we are COMMANDED to love each other (john 13:34). there is a stong implication there that volition is involved. you can love anyone you choose to. just be wise in picking someone that you want to spend your life with.

and i would argue that if it is not unconditional- it is not love. it may be infatuation. it may be lust. it may be the bad chili you ate. love- real true love- never fades. because it is not dependent on feelings. trust me. i do not always "feel" like loving my children. but i am committed to them- unconditionally. i told my seventeen-soon-to-be-eighteen-year-old daughter that her up-coming birthday may be her eviction day. she most definitely did not think that the most loving thing her father could have told her. maybe it was and maybe it wasn't. it may have been just what she needed to hear. i did not "feel" love for her when i said it. but i do love her. these last few days with most of us being sick around here, no one has felt like loving anyone. but we are committed to each other. by genetics- yes. but even deeper- by choice.
Last edited by notyet; July 21,2009 at 3:28am. Reason: we are not sick and anna has not been thrown out of the house- this is a copy of an old post, thank you!
 
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Although the topic has been reinterated mucho times, what the cowboy says is still good stuff.
And the reason why is because this definition of love is Bible based.
 
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I agree with most of what you said. Love is an action after the newness wares off. I would however disagree with "find someone you can tolerate." That attitude would make for a miserable long term relationship. "Chemistry" or physical attraction must be present, otherwise why bother. James Dobson said once that instead of looking for the things we can live with, look for the things we can not live without. All of those things, you think you can live with, then become bones of contention 10 years down the road.
We can love many people, but we can not, nor do we want to, live with them all. I love my husband, soon to be ex, but his personality is too volatile for me. Someone else may be better suied and able to live with and handle him.
 
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What is love ? Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more. Oh, I don't know why you're not there . I give you my love, but you don't care So what is right and what is wrong
Gimme a sign ..... I couldn't resist!
 
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followmesky wrote :
What is love ? Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more. Oh, I don't know why you're not there . I give you my love, but you don't care So what is right and what is wrong
Gimme a sign ..... I couldn't resist!
Gotta admit - my head was bobbing the whole time I was reading your post...
 
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mclark wrote :
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I agree with most of what you said... I would however disagree with "find someone you can tolerate."
i understand your dislike of my chosen word. i'll try to think of a better way to put it
 
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followmesky wrote :
What is love ? Oh baby, don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more. Oh, I don't know why you're not there . I give you my love, but you don't care So what is right and what is wrong
Gimme a sign ..... I couldn't resist!
Haha, I was going to post that, but I see you beat me to it.
 
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