lindseyk is offline lindseyk Post #1  July 13,2009, 9:35pm

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I read the following by Charles Spurgeon and felt led to post it here:

“God said to Jonah, Doest thou well to be angry?”
Jonah 4:9

Anger is not always or necessarily sinful, but it has such a tendency to run wild that whenever it displays itself, we should be quick to question its character, with this enquiry, “Doest thou well to be angry?” It may be that we can answer, “YES.” Very frequently anger is the madman’s firebrand, but sometimes it is Elijah’s fire from heaven. We do well when we are angry with sin, because of the wrong which it commits against our good and gracious God; or with ourselves because we remain so foolish after so much divine instruction; or with others when the sole cause of anger is the evil which they do. He who is not angry at transgression becomes a partaker in it. Sin is a loathsome and hateful thing, and no renewed heart can patiently endure it. God himself is angry with the wicked every day, and it is written in His Word, “Ye that love the Lord, hate evil.” Far more frequently it is to be feared that our anger is not commendable or even justifiable, and then we must answer, “NO.” Why should we be fretful with children, passionate with servants, and wrathful with companions? Is such anger honorable to our Christian profession, or glorifying to God? Is it not the old evil heart seeking to gain dominion, and should we not resist it with all the might of our newborn nature? Many professors give way to temper as though it were useless to attempt resistance; but let the believer remember that he must be a conqueror in every point, or else he cannot be crowned. If we cannot control our tempers, what has grace done for us? Some one told Mr. Jay that grace was often grafted on a crab-stump. “Yes,” said he, “but the fruit will not be crabs.” We must not make natural infirmity an excuse for sin, but we must fly to the cross and pray the Lord to crucify our tempers, and renew us in gentleness and meekness after His own image.

I think that is so profound. Not all anger is wrong, but it is always important to be aware of what the root cause of the anger is and how it is manifesting outwardly. I'm still learning, but I love the lesson here and hope to apply it to my own life with greater diligence than I have in the past.

That's all I really wanted to say.
 
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chawks64 is offline chawks64 Post #2  July 14,2009, 3:24pm
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I think it's not a matter of whether we are angry or not, but why.

Most of us (me!) get angry when we are slighted, and that's not the right attitude. When we see injustice, though, I think it's wrong not to be angry. And that anger should stir us to action, to do all we can to correct it.
 
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A couple of years ago, I led an anger management workshop with some boys in my school who had difficulty dealing with feelings in positive ways. The emphasis was not on stopping feelings but learning about our choices in dealing with them.

I used the example of a black crayon. I coloured two pictures for the boys as we talked about feelings. The boys hadn't realized I could draw so were impressed, especially with one of the pics. As I used each colour in my drawing from my box of 8, I gave the colour a corresponding feeling - happiness, excitement, peace, anticipation ... I not exactly sure what they were, just that they were ones we call "acceptable".

I left the black for last and called it "anger". I shocked the boys by using the black crayon to scribble out my design ruining the one drawing. Then using the same black crayon, I outlined and shaded sections enhancing the picture of the second.

As your posts highlight, there are times that anger is necessary and there are times that anger is simply a response. Anger is a feeling. What we do with our anger is what moves it into sin or into justice.
 
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I dont know about anyone else. But I used to be a very angry young man. As I grew in the grace of God I had realised my anger came out of fear. My fear caused a response of anger for the need to be in controll. It was also a defense to not allow anyone to get to close to me. I thought If someone got to close they would find out what a bad person I was. I was trying to live in a illusion.

After coming to the love of God and seeing Him accepting me just as I was started the process of freeing me. Today, due to the love of God in my life I still feel anger at times but an not a angry man. When someone hurts my feelings usually is when I feel angry. Rather than acting out my anger I can talk about it. Tell them, you hurt my feelings for such and such. When I can honestly express my hurt and recieve validation It makes it easy to forgive and move foward.

The difficult thing is when we are honest and don't recieve the validation we needed. Then I am just left to forgive anyway and release the offender. This doesn't mean that I should put myself back into the same situation to be hurt again. If someone is a consistant offender I have the freedom to set proper boundries with them. But setting proper boundries is my responsibility. If I don't do this then I could be setting myself up for another hurt.

This is easier said than done especially when it comes to the issue of marriage.
That is why Jesus tells to forgive 70 times 7. That we should keep on forgiving just as we have been forgiven. Often this is a supernatural act that happens in our lives toward another who has hurt us so deeply.
 
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