Friendship: When to advise and when to let go.

for what its worth, i've offered a prayer about it, and i wish you, and her, well.

Alright so hear is the deal. My roommate from school and good friend is engaged and planning on getting married in 6 months. She is a christian and he sadly is not. She knows how I feel about this issue as we have talked about it on MANY MANY MANYoccasions. I just found out yesterday from one of our close friends that her relationship with her fiancee has taken a negative turn. Already within the last two months he has cheated on her and if the woman never came forward my friend would have never known. To add to this he hangs out with his friends all the time and she is never allowed to go out with them because they are his friends. Yet whenever we have gotten together with her he has always been there with us all he is ALWAYS there. To top it all off our mutual friend told me that when she was over to her house our friend told her that she pretty much has to do everything for him and if she doesn't he gets angry and yells at her.


Another part of the story is, when we were roommates she was seeing a guy who was very dominating and verbally abusive. When they broke up I pretty much kept watch over her on a regular bases. I answered all the phone calls to our room, she would walk to breakfast, lunch, dinner, class and chapel with me. I basically saw her through that relationship till the bitter end.


Now hearing about her fiancee'sbehaviorit reminds me so much of her past relationship and it breaks my heart. My question is, as he friend and knowing her history and our history together should I in anyway intervene? Keeping in mind she hasn't told me any of this herself either. Any advice I would appreciate.