sophiefierce is offline sophiefierce Post #1  July 16,2009, 2:29pm
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My matches never get beyond the flirt stage except for 2 who sent me the 5 questions which I answered and asked for 5 in return, and I never received their answers. Is this normal? If these men are so anxious to meet someone why don't they follow through. Just curious if anyone else is experiencing this.
 
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Who knows, I get to the stage where they say I'll call you. If I stayed home waiting by the phone I would never go out. Not gonna happen. I will give them my number, but there is no way I will make the first call. Maybe that is old fashioned, but I do want some degree of assertiveness in a match.
 
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Chances are with both of you not even showing your pic, that you have few or no pics on your eh site. If you want follow-through, be upfront! Lay your cards on the table. Post plenty of pics showing what you like to do, family, fashion prefs; give answers to questions in detail; that way the responder has a better idea of who you are and are more likely to follow through!
 
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Not quite, I do have a picture up, and am now chatting by phone with one of the gentlemen. So we will see. It is really hard to get detailed with some of the canned questions and answers.
 
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Diann1950 wrote :
Not quite, I do have a picture up, and am now chatting by phone with one of the gentlemen. So we will see. It is really hard to get detailed with some of the canned questions and answers.
Congrats! Better than I'm doing; but if you want that chat to go to the next level, I know more pics would help; this avoids the issues of the "canned" questions, don't ya think? A pic is worth a thousand....and one words!
 
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I have 2 guys that requested to email me. I have emailed them and answered their questions, they emailed back saying lets get together, I gave 1 my cell number 4 days ago, and the other one I asked when. 6days ago. No responses. Why be on here if you are not going to follow through.? frustrated.
 
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To your question about flirts-no follow up. I have the same thing happen to me. Get about half way throught, zap nothing, it gets old. I don't understand , what's wrong?
 
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None of us live in a relationship "vacuum"... each of us is ending, beginning, struggling with or totally enjoying a relationship.

Rule 1; be patient. Rule 2; If/when you get the responses and follow-up, then you know the other person is ready to go to step 3 and has said goodbye to the ex for the final time, or has hibernated long enough. You don't want to meet a new potential partner that still has ties - so let the steps be part of the process of checking his/her relative freedom to re-start.
 
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