Alistair is offline Alistair Post #1  August 31,2009, 7:53am
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I notice many women feature these three things in their profiles, and maybe their lives have this kind of focus because they are single, but really, I am not going to be as endlessly fascinated as you are by your children, grandchildren and pets.
On some profiles these things seem to be almost all the interests shown. I want to know about you and the interests you have in things like music and travel. I want to know if you are into shopping and flea markets, as then I know it does not look good.
I want to spend time with you, not the relatives. My children are gone, so I can pick up and go, and I do not want to worry about looking after pets, so the picture with you holding an animal does not ignite a spark.
I am not suggesting there will be no time with children or grandchildren, but if you are on eHarmony looking for someone presumably you want to show that you have something to offer? That you are an interesting person, with whom communication seems worthwhile. If you do not, maybe you will get fewer responses?
 
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annj49 is offline annj49 Post #2  October 26,2009, 9:26pm
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If you are going to discard all women who have children, grandchildren and pets listed as interests, then I really think you are unfortunately narrowing your field, and you are missing out on some wonderfully interesting and very REAL women. I think cutting off women with these interests is a little like cutting your nose off to spite your face.......but that's just my personal opinion I do not mean to be offensive.....
I do see your point about other interests, and I'm sure they are there, along with the children, grandchildren and pets, hehehehehe....it's something you will want to ask about when you do find someone with whom you want to communicate I guess. Pets can always be relocated if they become less of a priority than having a partner.
I just don't think you should short change yourself ?
 
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Speaking for myself, my grandchildren are in my photos because I have more photos with my grandchildren than of myself solo. Seriously, when we are out in a "picture taking" event do we feel the need to take a solo photo. It is usually about the event or social occasion.
I despise the photos of oneself in the mirror. ....
 
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I don't think it is just women, men are also obsessed with pets and grandchildren are also large parts of their lives. I communicated with one guy whose favorite topic was his new puppy, and actually had a date with one guy who was so depressed over the state of his elderly dog that he had trouble enjoying the lunch. Current guy enjoys my grandchildren and I enjoy his, we dog sit together and enjoy each others cats. So my thought is that this isn't a one way street.
 
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