opal45 is offline opal45 Post #1  August 28,2008, 7:08pm
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Does the 3 date rule still apply?
 
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rg26 is offline rg26 Post #2  August 29,2008, 7:09am
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From the Urban Dictionary:

The Three Date Rule:


guideline imposed by fabulous wannabe modern single women regarding timeline for having sex with prospective boyfriends/husbands. Akin to the mandatory waiting period required for gun purchases. Allows women an evaluation period to checkout said husbands to evaluate their worthyness and future potential while simultaneously assuaging their own guilt about slutty behavior if they sleep with prospective husbands too quickly





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I have been out of the dating scene for a long time. I didn't know there was a 3 date rule.
 
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Thornlessrose,238843 wrote :

I have been out of the dating scene for a long time. I didn't know there was a 3 date rule.
There's not. Its how some people who have sex with people they barely know set up "boundaries".
 
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For me the 3 date rule has applied exactly 33% of the time with women I've met on eH.
 
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Nicole Miller has a new lingerie line called "Third Date".
 
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There'a a 3 date rule? What is it? Have I missed something? Seriously,my feeling is that if you're dating bysomerumored"rules",you'll find fewer and fewer dates after 3 and lots more sleepovers. So much has to be taken into consideration when a relationship gets more intimate. How comfortable do you feel overall? How much communication have you had aside from the dates? (e.g. phone calls and length of time, emails and length, face to face together and amount of time) If you beieve that the relationship hasreal potential, then let things follow their natural course - you both can agree. If you're unsure and the other is possibly dating others, too, I'd say waiting is the best course. If you're simply lookingfor satisfaction and fulfillment - two adults can do whatever they mutually decide. Once it happens, things can't ever be the same.
 
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Richard954,241922 wrote :

So much has to be taken into consideration when a relationship gets more intimate. How comfortable do you feel overall? How much communication have you had aside from the dates? (e.g. phone calls and length of time, emails and length, face to face together and amount of time) If you beieve that the relationship hasreal potential, then let things follow their natural course - you both can agree. If you're unsure and the other is possibly dating others, too, I'd say waiting is the best course. If you're simply lookingfor satisfaction and fulfillment - two adults can do whatever they mutually decide. Once it happens, things can't ever be the same.
Well said.


Too many individual factors to take into consideration to categorize a "ruling ".
 
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opal45, wrote :

Does the 3 date rule still apply?
No 3 date rule in my life...more like the "You get to know me over1-2'ish years, we fall in love and get married rule." I do not give my soul or body casually these days. I am too precious. The right man will LOVE this about me because he will feel very special and know I won't give him all those lovely STDs, HIV etc.!!!! Besides let me say it, my God says it is not best or good for me or the guy.


That being said. I miss lovemaking. But, I can wait.
 
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Richard954,241922 wrote :

There'a a 3 date rule? What is it? Have I missed something? Seriously,my feeling is that if you're dating bysomerumored"rules",you'll find fewer and fewer dates after 3 and lots more sleepovers. So much has to be taken into consideration when a relationship gets more intimate. How comfortable do you feel overall? How much communication have you had aside from the dates? (e.g. phone calls and length of time, emails and length, face to face together and amount of time) If you beieve that the relationship hasreal potential, then let things follow their natural course - you both can agree. If you're unsure and the other is possibly dating others, too, I'd say waiting is the best course. If you're simply lookingfor satisfaction and fulfillment - two adults can do whatever they mutually decide. Once it happens, things can't ever be the same.
I agree with you completely, especially the part about things never being the same once it happens. I have met few -- well, okay, NO men who get that. Sure wish you lived in Denver! Thanks for your post, though. It gives me hope...


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