fudgesmom is offline fudgesmom Post #1  August 27,2009, 8:42am
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I am back after a year off EH. I changed the distance meter to read "300 miles", because I was getting next to nothing 'close to home', in possible matches. Now, I can attest, the 'matches' are coming from far and wide. Forget the 300 miles!

I've met a couple of people who dated long distance, and eventually married. I am not opposed to it, but I am shaking my head as to how 2 people can develop a significant relationship 300-700 miles apart.

I'd love to hear from those who have successfully (several months or a year+) dated long distance. I would think it would be expensive to begin with: airfare, or gas, hotel room, etc.
 
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Seneca is offline Seneca Post #2  August 27,2009, 4:36pm
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In general I have found them quite difficult and since I am the make, expensive. That isn't to say they can't be rewarding or successful - a lot depends on what each person is looking for in a relationship anyway.
 
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I've been seeing some one just a few months who lives 100 miles away. It's about a 2-hour drive, depending on traffic. But I have family living in that city, so I don't deal with hotel expenses. And we're nowhere near being serious about each other. But I was somewhat selective about focusing on guys that lived in that area, because if I were to relocate, it would be in that direction.
 
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LDR won't work for me. ...But then, I live on an island in the middle of the Pacific Ocean. The commute to the nearest state is a bit strenuous.
 
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I recently had a LDR for more than 2 years. We met on the Internet, he lives in the USA, I live in the UK. As I no longer work, I could jump on a plane whenever and we saw each other every month and talked about moving in together. So yes, it can be done.
 
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I honestly don't know. While I live just inside another state (by about 3 miles), the majority of women on eH only look at the "my state" versus "your state" mentatlity and Close Match me on the distance excuse. When in reality, we're sometimes 10-20 miles apart.

I honestly wish that some would learn to use the free mapping URLs and compare the distance between my town and your town. I honestly wonder why some people are on eH to find someone within 5-10 minutes from where they live.

I have my radius set for 100 miles, once both my kids are in college, I'll expand that to as far as possible. Mileage be damned, if two people really want to be with each other. They will find a way.

Good luck to all.
 
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I have decided to look at EH as an opportunity to communicate with people and not just meet the "right one." I have changed my settings to long distance and have met some interesting people. Who knows what the future brings. If I'm going to do this thing, why not communicate, communicate, communicate?
 
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