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View is offline View Post #21  September 17,2009, 2:11pm
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I Agree with you. I've had two guys in communication for a couple of months. One has not communicated at all or answered my Icebraker: confused: and the other one I call my third basier. two more steps and we will be on our way to communicating via E-Mail "I'm waiting" What's the harm in making a decision

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View is offline View Post #22  September 17,2009, 2:19pm
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You said it
I know I have no picture. I'm working on it

Keeping communications current and honest is best for everyone[/quote]
 
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HawaiianEyes is offline HawaiianEyes Post #23  September 19,2009, 11:10pm
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I really don't think this issue is a gender issue. I regularly get matched with women who do not initiate a contact nor respond to mine. I understand that not everyone would be interested in me (the same can be said in reverse). I just assume they are more interested in someone else and I'm ok with that.

I communicate with several people at a time. Some get to open communication. Some do not. No biggie.
 
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gracecovered is offline gracecovered Post #24  September 20,2009, 12:41pm
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Just found out in reading your posts that everyone on here wasn't a part of the mother-ship Eharmony...I thought eh advice was an option that came with being an eh member. Learn something new every day...
Am still not a true believer that this can actually work...don't think my heart's really in it...I admit that I am like on of those men some of you are referring to...don't put much energy into the process. I think the whole online stuff is totally over-rated...like LIVE (as in standing right in front of me) so much better.
Funny, though, because here I am. I am a bundle of contradictions
 
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Nurz is offline Nurz Post #25  September 24,2009, 8:17am
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Finally being forthright! After spending a month chatting/ dating... Let me remind u that no pic was posted in this profile... This fella told me the other night. .... His real age... And that he is moving to Florida in a month...to live on the beach as a homeless person! Putting his belongings in storage... He will sleep there also, go to his mom's to shower! "Homeless" I think not!!!

How am I too feel?? Lies/deceit what happened to being a Christian?

At one point he mentioned that he was going to buy a van and travel around camping... He wanted to know how I felt about it!! I mentioned it was his choice!

I feel like I am being tested!! Like I'm somekinda gold digger ! I
too old to play games n wish to just have a normal relationship (Whateva) that is!

Enough said.... Still confused
 
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JerryC is offline JerryC Post #26  September 26,2009, 8:08pm
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Joining EHa seemed to be the best option available to me at my age and I've been out of the dating game for many years. I could depend on my married friends to set me up with their unattached friends. A recent blurb in the local newspaper reminded me why I'm not interested in senior citizen clubs. "Stop by the next meeting, have some coffee and doughnuts, play some Bingo." I don't think so.
I try to respond to any requests that I receive for communication and initiate requests for communication if I find a match I'm attracted to. I'm having better luck with the woman who initiated communication. To be honest, I've been overwhelmed by the number of matches I've received. I'm certainly getting my money's worth. I've gone through them once and closed many out. I've got to do it again, if they haven't already closed me out.
I have a couple of pictures up on my profile. I actually have one that's only a couple weeks old that I need to get up. The first one I put up I have a hat on, I put a second one up a couple of weeks later without the hat, and I had a couple of woman who were interested in communicating close me out. Coincidence. Maybe, maybe not.
I'm going to hang in here whether I find friends or "the one".
The picture in my avatar is 50 years old. I just keep wondering if I haven't turned into my father.
 
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nannihe is offline nannihe Post #27  October 30,2009, 5:23am
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I am totally bored with all the questions we have to sift thru to find five suitable. boring! and the answers to five questions are not quite what I had in mind.. sometimes not even close.
 
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nannihe wrote :
I am totally bored with all the questions we have to sift thru to find five suitable. boring! and the answers to five questions are not quite what I had in mind.. sometimes not even close.
Dear nannihe,

While we believe there is value in using the Guided Communication process to get to know your matches, we know that this process is not for every personality type.

If you are someone who doesn't need assistance building a rapport with a match before feeling comfortable going into Open Communication, the FastTrack option is available.

Either before starting communication or at any time during the Guided Communication process, you can invite a match to FastTrack. Pending a favorable response, we will adjust your accounts so you can go right into Open Communication and e-mail each other freely, but anonymously through our site. Then when you are comfortable sharing personal contact information, you can continue your relationship outside of eHarmony.

You may find that some matches may not be comfortable going right into Open Communication. Should a match decline your invitation, you have the option of getting to know your match through Guided Communicaiton or of closing the match.

However, finding the Love of your Life on eHarmony is a process of elimination, and perhaps one of the ways you will know if a match really has potential to be The One is that your FastTrack invitation is accepted!

All the best.

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nannihe is offline nannihe Post #29  October 31,2009, 6:43pm
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ah, Renee, I used to go to the fast track but got no responses and I appreciate your advice. I am trying to sort thru some options and learn to do this. I'm afraid i've been very lazy and lack luster also. ha.
I wasn't aware i didn't have a picture. my goodness i will have to keep up. I have a lot to learn. I am enjoying these forums and the advice. I did hate the questions. I'm not moving is the main point. ha. I love it here.
It took me forever to get to new mexico and i can't give it up. Most seem to halt at that but i do need to get my picture up. hmmmm
thanks.
 
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legend29 is offline legend29 Post #30  November 2,2009, 5:39pm
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Marlo5678 wrote :
Us females are wondering why you join
EH and then don't give it any energy. Why waste everyone's time if you don't respond to matches and act like 16 year olds at the school dance--circling the dance floor but just standing around. There are some really smart, intelligent fun ladies who have a zest for life and you guys are missing out by being so cavalier or lazy . I would have thought you would only join if you were interested in meeting someone and how do you know if you don't go beyond looking at a picture and a few words on the "about me . Most of us are not desperate by any means --some of us just want to add to our friendships, others might want to find a golf partner or a dinner date of the opposite sex who is new and interesting--what are you guys looking for. Explain ---some of us ladies are pretty puzzled and if you read the posts on these sites there is a lot of the behaviour that I am talking about. Too bad because it takes 2 just like in any relationship.
Based on your experiences with EH, I think a much needed break is warranted!
 
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