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bookworm1963 is offline bookworm1963 Post #51  September 28,2009, 8:34pm
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Because they are scammers! I had a friend two years ago lost her heart and several thousand dollars to a "Computer Engineer" from Seattle Wa. When she was matched with this guy I tried to tell her it did not add up. I placed his name in a data base and it did not come up. He told her the church he attended and when I called that church they did not know anything about him. When I ran his name on the computer with google there was lots of hits of other women who had been scammed by him. Just always remember if they have one American parent, are out of the country just for a short period of time, to finish up a job. Have one child usely a boy and they are never divorce but widow THEY ARE A SCAMMER!
 
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There are so many areas an Engineer can fall into. I personally work with broadcast engineers, and have dated one. These men are definitely a different bred. But I mean that in a good way. They are extremely, let me repeat extremely intelligent. Not only book smart but all that I have encountered also have common sense...I know ladies, it is hard to believe.
Many are a little geeky, but I tend to like geeky men because I am way into the intellect instead of the looks. It is all in the eyes of the beholder.
Again, the guys I work with are wonderful men. They are definitely into the needs and concerns of their girlfriends/wives. I say take a chance, isn't that why we are all on e-harmony?
 
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I had a bad experience...I spoke to this guy, who I do believe to be an engineer, he loved his profession and said his whole life it was what he wanted to do etc, anyway spoke to him for about 4 weeks by email before we met. We subsequently then went on 2 dates where we met in a public place both times. Long story short, by date 3 he wanted to pick me up at my home and have me ride in his car with him somewhere. I told him I was still uncomfortable with this, as I felt it was pretty soon in the relationship and wanted to meet him somewhere public again. To him it was enough to break it off. He was very upset with me saying I didnt trust him, we had been together for a long time, he had been totally honest with me, spoke for weeks, etc even told me I had a protective shell that I needed to get over, etc. and was quite upset with me even saying something about how I should have let him know my expectations up front. I was really surprised by his reaction, to this day, I still feel it wasnt unreasonable of me to not want to get in his car after just 2 dates, even after talking for several weeks, he felt I was being really unreasonable about it too. I dont know if it was his engineer mentality or anything but just thought I would include my comment here. He had said he hadnt dated in many years but all of his friends and family were waiting to meet me too, is this normal after 2 dates and about 6 weeks or so of talking online, even only had 1 phone call, all the rest email.
 
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cmw1212 wrote :
To him it was enough to break it off.
It would be enough for me to break it off too. There's cautious, which means the first meeting in a public place. But you were totally paranoid.

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I dont know if it was his engineer mentality
Yes, engineers roam the countryside, looking for people to offer a ride to. Yikes.

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is this normal after 2 dates and about 6 weeks or so of talking online
6 weeks "talking online" is way beyond normal.

You have some issues to deal with. But I just don't know what they are. Exactly what were you afraid of? Being driven across state lines for a shotgun wedding? Being forced to listen to the wrong radio station?
 
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BTW, I have seen a fake profile using the occupation 'attorney', based in GA. In that case it seemed to me that the person was copying and pasting information from a credit card database into the EH personal description, without fully understanding what he/she was doing.
What's so odd about being an attorney in Georgia???
 
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Online dating is also easier for me since I sit in front of a computer all day.

All Day Every Day??
 
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Why are so many engineers listed? cause their crazy. I had 2 contact me, send me questions, one closed me out after I sent him the second questions. They were eh questions and I didn't pick any of the wierd ones. The second emailed all day made weird refrences and left me a message that said "I tried....". Still have no clue. So, my limited experience is they are nuts. I'll tell you what if for some odd reason the last one contacts me and I get to meet him. I'll go and report back as to how nuts he is. Sound good?
Two contacted you, one made references you didn't understand, left you a message that starts out with admitting he tried..., you have limited experience by own own admission, and you conclude they're nuts.

Quite a conclusion.
 
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southern_girl wrote :
Not only book smart but all that I have encountered also have common sense...I know ladies, it is hard to believe.
Many are a little geeky, but I tend to like geeky men because I am way into the intellect instead of the looks. It is all in the eyes of the beholder.
This is a great post.. both sexes should challenge their thinking about what is an acceptable partner...more thinking about the size of values and less about the size of other things.
 
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cmw1212 wrote :
I told him I was still uncomfortable with this, as I felt it was pretty soon in the relationship and wanted to meet him somewhere public again. To him it was enough to break it off.
Wow! I wouldn't get in someone's car on the third date. If he was willing to break it off due to your caution, you are probably better off. If he cannot understand a woman needs to be careful, then he is an insensitive person, assuming he isn't worse. I didn't let my bf at my house until well after 10 dates. I have daughters to also protect. I did meet him at his house and go in his car on about the 5th date.
 
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btw...I'd like to thank everyone for the scammer warning. I had no idea, although I'm pretty cautious with anything that goes overseas. I have almost exclusively dated engineers in my life (I'm a former one myself) so I would likely be interested in one. I'm glad you warned us.
 
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