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GardenGal is offline GardenGal Post #21  November 21,2008, 7:08pm
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BikerBeagle,254205 wrote :

I've had a lot of matches from RNs, same kind of situation ...well educated, higher than average income profession. My guess is, both engineers and nurses workalot of hours or odd hours, making it difficult to find and sustain an LTR ...so they use online sites for the 'convenience'.
I am finding out that if you are looking for someone to do things with on the weekend don't date someone in retail. The work a lot and odd hours applies to this profession as well. Seems so logical but when the manager chooses to schedule himself on weekends and take days off during the week how in the hell are you supposed to spend quality time developing a relationship? Thanks for confirming my feelings that odd hours and working a lot does make it difficult to sustain or develop a LTR.
 
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You seem to draw the conclusion that they must be lying.


Perhaps engineers as a group are just more likely to participate in online dating?


Perhaps you are for some reason being matched up with the personality type who becomes an engineer?


BTW_ An engineer would have thought of these possibilties.
 
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I know 2 real life engineers. Both Happily married, and far from geeky. They are - I must admit - the most amazing homework helpers (in math) that I have ever come across. Wow - If I had my own to keep instead of borrow....droool.......


My son would have straight A's lol!





As for scammers - I haven't been yet...knock on wood...on this site.


Match is a whole different ball game...I'm pretty cozy with google now - and I've only been trying this whole online dating thing for 10 days... rofl!
 
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I'm not an engineer, my dad was. Engineers are great folks, definitely have their style but if you think them as all geeky I suggest a read of "The Existential Pleasures of Engineering by Samuel C Florman.....it might shift your perception of the breed.


As for scammers...how dissapointing it is to hear of its propensity. It seems hard enough to try presenting oneself to find your soul mate and then to realize they might just be trying to figure out it if your for real. Although there probably aren't too many scammers that would but down Pilates teacher as their occupation.


Best of luck to all those real engineers in finding love and finding some of those existential pleasures beyond engineering.
 
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JohannaBear, wrote :

Let it be said that I have personal knowledge of what an Engineer is. I have a problem believing that there are so many Engineers that are single. The occupation itselfis (or can be) quite lucrative and is a very respectable profession, given the many years of college and internship required. That statement leads me to believe thatmost Engineers are happily married and raising their children with wonderful spouses. I will agree that things happen but I cannot see where of the 37 matches I have received, 17 of them are Engineers. For all of the Engineers that are single and looking for someone special, you are being over shadowed by those who qualify themselves as being Engineers. That is a shame in my opinion because the occupation contains a very elite and respectable group of men and women. So my question, Please enlighten me on what qualification you must have to qualify yourself as an Engineer on EH.
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Glacierbear here.. therear many type of engineers,cival, marine,airinotics,construction,ect. you see where im going/ Most engineers work a schedule that takes them away for peiods of time.I happen to be a Marine engineer and we work on ships and Plants. because my work schedule is one month on and one month off I dont get to date like everyone else does so i set them up here. everyone ive met here I was compatible with but most cant handle the time away part. so im still looking the good news is i will retire in 3 years. at 52.. ihope this helps. Dave
 
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Well then, as with all sterotypes, there are always many exceptions. I'm a MS level engineer by education (and part of my professional life) but am currently into non-engineering related (generally) business ventures. I'm very social and host parties three or 4 times a year in my home, have a sailboat, a motorcycle, a mountain bike, and love to walk the beach/trails, etc (and really enjoy all of them). Perhaps engineers have higher standards thus have to look harder and in more places to find Ms Right4me. Most engineers I know want a lot more than a warm blooded hottie to sleep with...I for one want a smart confident educated woman with a brain and some common sense annnnd a woman that cares about her health and personal appearance enough to take good care of herself. That apparently is a tall order but I'm patient.
 
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DebnSophie,352394 wrote :

I was actually relieved in reading the posts regarding Engineers looking for love - relieved in finding out it wasn't just me having a bad experience. I can count on both hands how many "engineers" i've been matched with who have turned out to be scammers. It is appalling to me that people think this is an OK thing to do. Their modus operandi is always very similar: either divorced or widowed, 1-2 children, travel alot, and it seems that they've all ended up traveling to Africa frequently. And being a Christian, I'm especially disappointed that they would try to use my faith to pull a scam on me. I almost completely fell for it the first time, but after that, I got wise to the signs. It's important that these guys are reported to eHarmony so they can be investigated further. Be careful and be wise when/if you decide to meet with someone.
The bottom line is that scammers are crooks. They don't care about your feelings or anything else. They just want your money and will do whatever it takes to get it. I think they tend to prefer women of faith because most faiths teach you to be compassionate. They also probably seek out educators, nurses and other people-oriented professionals because people in these professions are trained to be caring. It's a sad thing that they probably never see the ruin/difficulties they bring to their victims so the only hope is to be vigilant.
 
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BikerBeagle,254205 wrote :

I've had a lot of matches from RNs, same kind of situation ...well educated, higher than average income profession. My guess is, both engineers and nurses workalot of hours or odd hours, making it difficult to find and sustain an LTR ...so they use online sites for the 'convenience'.
I am a nurse and would love to be matched with an engineer. Actually, I almost chose engineering over nursing but thought it would be difficult to compete in a man's world. I would welcome the thoughtful, reasonable, practical nature of a stereotypical engineer. I welcome logical arguments over emotional arguments. And, I don't think all engineers or nurses work long or odd hours.


My dad was an engineer (retired now)and worked 8 to 5 most days, traveled a fair amount, at times. My mom was a nurse (also retired). They've been married over 50 years successfully. It seems a winning combination.
 
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JohannaBear, wrote :


...So my question, Please enlighten me on what qualification you must have to qualify yourself as an Engineer on EH.

Next time you’re strapped into your seat on a turbulent flight, look out the window and watch as the wings and engines bounce around. Then remember that someone has to do the calculations to make sure the structure is strong enough not to break apart in flight. That’s what I do (be afraid), and it’s the qualification I use to list myself as an engineer on eH. Fortunately, some of my airplanes are equipped with ejection seats, and in case of emergency the occupants can take pleasure in a nylon letdown.




The “poor social skills” stereotype is silly. All of my coworkers are highly competent people. I’ll admit though, in my experience we are generally conservative in demeanor. We’re not all super-busy and heavy travelers. I’ve got a plush job right now: every other weekend is three days. “Why are so many engineers looking for love?” In my experience we tend to work for very large firms, and we’re highly concentrated (literally armies of us) in certain areas. You apparently live where the engineers are.
 
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I am in my late 40's (turned 50 recently) and I can't beleive Engineer is being used as a fake profession!! Iam an Engineer and fear of being sterotyped as cheap and a nerd. I am niether. No pocket protectors here LOL. I have noticed many nurse matches and wonder they are looking!!
 
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