Shelby is offline Shelby Post #21  September 18,2008, 10:26pm
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395 closed matches in one year, 9 to OC, 4 to dates (1 lasted 3 months, but was always checking out other dates.)


I think only a small fraction of the the matches on EH and the other dating sites are really serious about seeking a LTR. The other matches are either not active members, too passive, or just window shopping for the perfect mate. Just like real life![img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-undecided.gif[/img]
 
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propanekid is offline propanekid Post #23  September 19,2008, 8:07am
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noseyparker,262996 wrote :

Being on EH (especially as its image is one of serving people who want to get married) can take a toll on your self esteem. Rejection is more like the norm, than are meaningful connections. As one poster put it, you only need one.


A healthy love of self and appreciation of what we have to offer is critical as we navigate the perilous waters of online dating.


Oh, and a sense of humor is an absolute MUST HAVE [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]
Agreed nosey. If you have low self esteem then internet dating isn't going to work.


We all need to remember that this is a numbers game. Need to do a lot of looking before you find the one. And I think people lose site of the fact that usually when we find the ONE most people stop looking.


The statistic I wonder about that would be almost impossible to obtain without eh propa getting involved is what percentage the people here at EHA are dissatisfied with EH as opposed to the ones that are on EH and not here at EHA. I am guessing that The members of EHA that are dissatisfied are much higher than on EH but would be interested in some objective numbers.


now back to your original programing and I would like to see the results of the OP's survey.


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offthebeatenpath, wrote :

It was mentioned on one of the threads that there were no statics on Eharmony on the dating statics of people on the site. It would clearly be not exactly scinetific, but could be fun. For my stats class I need to collect a 50 data Module to manipulate in multiple ways. If 50 were interested ane willing to contribute this is what I was thinking.................


I need 50 people to tell how many dates they went on in the last 12 months(?). As many of you are more familar and experienced at Eharmony, I am more then open to opinions of the parameters of the study. If it should be longer or shorter duration. Or in fact if there is some other topic that is more fun to measure. I will have to come up with something in the next 10 days or so if this isn't something anyone wants to do, that's fine too. Just might be interesting. I would post the results as I generate them for all to see.


Anyway, any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks!
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I closed about 3/4's of the 33 because communication on her end simply shut down without explanation.
 
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amaz is offline amaz Post #25  September 20,2008, 12:22pm
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I have been on eh since March. I average 5 matches a day. I have had 1000+/- matches, currently showing 833 closed (either I have closed or they have closed me). Have 106 matches since end of july that I have not sorted through other than location to me. 20 in my hold page - totally useless feature. I have had 3 face to face dates. One, dated a month we are now closed. The second, we had one date and then he dropped off the face of the earth - I closed him. The third...been dating since the beginning. I am in oc with 5, and 5 others if various stages. Only one of these 10 are close enough for me to actually date, and he has commitment issues.


IDK...what does this say? I think the stats stink, but, where else are we (the 40 somethings) suppose to meet people? I don't do the bar scene, I'm not dead, I want to find love....so I stick with it b/c I am Little Mary Sunshine and I keep telling myself it will happen. It's got too, sooner or later!!!! Right????
 
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amaz,265666 wrote :




"I think the stats stink, but, where else are we (the 40 somethings) suppose to meet people? I don't do the bar scene, I'm not dead, I want to find love....so I stick with it b/c I am Little Mary Sunshine and I keep telling myself it will happen. It's got too, sooner or later!!!! Right????"

It is tough to meet like-minded, single people when the bar scene is not where you want to be. Don't lose faith amaz- It will happen when you least expect it. Until then...keep basking in the sunshine![img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif[/img]


I know I don't NEED to find someone, but it sure would be wonderful to have that person to share life's adventures with.





As for my stats....I've only been a member for about 2 weeks ...have 60 closed matches (some like 500 miles away when I want to date locally...) and 1 person in OC.
 
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zana is offline zana Post #27  September 22,2008, 10:35pm
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37 matches in 3 days - closed 18, 5 in communication, but all live far far away from me (other countries)... so the odds on getting a date are a big fat ZERO!! lol


EHarmony is an experiment - one of a few avenues I am trying to meet someone new for a serious relationship....


You wanted to know... lol
 
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To date:


About 7 matches per day (many far away)


530 closed


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15 stage 1


1 stage 2


1 stage 4


2 in OC (both matched 2 months ago, and one of those may have poofed after almost 2 months of OC and no phone)


spoken to = 1


actually met = 0


Too many scammers to count.


I try to open communications with most that have pics and are reasonably close (within 90 minutes to 2 hours), and a few outstanding ones further away or with no pics. Still, I close most after 2 weeks of no response.
 
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John348 is offline John348 Post #29  March 16,2009, 5:27am
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amaz,265666 wrote :

I have been on eh since March. I average 5 matches a day. I have had 1000+/- matches, currently showing 833 closed (either I have closed or they have closed me). Have 106 matches since end of july that I have not sorted through other than location to me. 20 in my hold page - totally useless feature. I have had 3 face to face dates. One, dated a month we are now closed. The second, we had one date and then he dropped off the face of the earth - I closed him. The third...been dating since the beginning. I am in oc with 5, and 5 others if various stages. Only one of these 10 are close enough for me to actually date, and he has commitment issues.


IDK...what does this say? I think the stats stink, but, where else are we (the 40 somethings) suppose to meet people? I don't do the bar scene, I'm not dead, I want to find love....so I stick with it b/c I am Little Mary Sunshine and I keep telling myself it will happen. It's got too, sooner or later!!!! Right????

Never ever give up on the hope of finding the love of your life...just make sure you can identify Mr. Right when presented.
 
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offthebeatenpath, wrote :

It was mentioned on one of the threads that there were no statics on Eharmony on the dating statics of people on the site. It would clearly be not exactly scinetific, but could be fun. For my stats class I need to collect a 50 data Module to manipulate in multiple ways. If 50 were interested ane willing to contribute this is what I was thinking.................


I need 50 people to tell how many dates they went on in the last 12 months(?). As many of you are more familar and experienced at Eharmony, I am more then open to opinions of the parameters of the study. If it should be longer or shorter duration. Or in fact if there is some other topic that is more fun to measure. I will have to come up with something in the next 10 days or so if this isn't something anyone wants to do, that's fine too. Just might be interesting. I would post the results as I generate them for all to see.


Anyway, any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks!
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