offthebeatenpath is offline offthebeatenpath Post #11  September 12,2008, 1:27pm
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Hachimitsu,255038 wrote :

I was on eH from mid Feb 08 and had two dates out of 150 matches, 2 closed me out. And I am still dating one of the 2 dates and I actually think he is the one!!!


I am 45, married once, got engaged a few times, and ended a 4 years relationship with a man 15 years to my junor. I have always been actively dating, but eHaromony works for me thus far. I was getting 5 matches a day on average and got at least 80% of the matches contacting me.


However, I think the stats varies based on the person. Some will contact anyone, some may contact based on some specifics, so, I think the stats collection need to be in different categories such as how long the user has been on eHarmony, if a first timer or not...just my opinion.
Good for you and I do hope he's the one. And I agree. Obviously, it's not scientific. It also depends on domographics. I live in the foothills of N.CA. and there are 4 or more major metropolis areas within 45 miles, so in this area there are more people, so more matches. However, I often wonder if there were less people would they be more willing to try. I donna know.


TY for the info. And I'm glad you had sucess. Gives the rest of us hope.
 
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Closed 328, OC 4, Dates 3. Joined about a year ago. So far not too impressed with EH.
And I look at you and think the men are nuts. No to be creepy, but your obviously attractive. I don't get it either. No matter what man they match me with it's nothing. And they look, but don't close me out and don't respond. I don't get it. It can't be if your not attractive enough they won't contact you, but if your too attractive they won't either. Makes no sense. Actually have had more luck on match then here. And that's a meat market. I have had over 30% response and2dates in like 5 weeks. And haven't even really been trying lately at match. Oh, well. Go figure.
 
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31 matches 13 in communication all closed no responses. they must really hate me.
 
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chicaS is offline chicaS Post #14  September 12,2008, 3:51pm
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Closed 433, OC 5, terminated matches that were at OC point 4 (terminated by eH), waiting for .... currently 53. Dates - 0 Joined Mar 08


My perception - lots of profiles but not too many are active.
 
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jujubee,255656 wrote :

31 matches 13 in communication all closed no responses. they must really hate me.
Nope can't be you. Don't even pretend to not know the feeling. It's the lament from all over the site. I think I was happier unhappy being single, then discouraged and single and feeeling horrible about myself. At least you found the advice boards. These people are really neat people. And like the rest of us we hang in there, you only need one. And in no way are you alone in how you feel. Sometimes I think the men are waiting for the 21 year old contortionist who has a twin sister to come along!
 
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offthebeatenpath,256180 wrote :

jujubee,255656 wrote :


31 matches 13 in communication all closed no responses. they must really hate me.


Nope can't be you. Don't even pretend to not know the feeling. It's the lament from all over the site. I think I was happier unhappy being single, then discouraged and single and feeeling horrible about myself. At least you found the advice boards. These people are really neat people. And like the rest of us we hang in there, you only need one. And in no way are you alone in how you feel. Sometimes I think the men are waiting for the 21 year old contortionist who has a twin sister to come along!
After 3 months on EH, I ditto your feelings about it feeling better happier being single/not looking for someone. Happy to me is being content, making the most out of the situation and grateful for how things are. Since I joined EH I too have been discouraged, rejected, strung along, not to mention "put on hold" until they respond to questions. I guess unhappy because I want to stuff to be different that what it is. Reading the discussion boards today, I now am concerned about scammers. Some good stuff is going on too, inthat I am learning more about myself, using the computer more at home, andunderstanding that I am not the only person to gothrough these things.Thanks for the great input and for sharing.
 
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469 closed matches, 22 in communication, 4 made it to OC, 2 since closed, 1 meet.


Seems a lot of people creating profiles but not paying for membership.
 
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LonelyStarState is offline LonelyStarState Post #18  September 17,2008, 1:31am

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372 matches, 5 OC, 2 dates (none more then once) been on eH for7 months and am not impressed with it. Most of my matches live over 500 miles away and almost all of them are not my type.


2OC were local - 1 was closed, other1 date then closed


1 OC about 3 hrs drive away - closed ,


1 OC + date5 hrs away (had to go there for business anyway),


1 OC LD - closed.





Just curious... why are there so many folks on here from California?
 
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scgal294 is offline scgal294 Post #19  September 17,2008, 11:01pm
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Ok, I'll play along.


353 closed


5 in communication, they have been stuck there for awhile, I need to go ahead and close those.


2 in OC


one of which just stopped writing (5 hour drive away)


the other, we email, thats about it, (3 hour drive away)


Nothing local????And 0 dates


I've been on here since Jan 08
 
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Being on EH (especially as its image is one of serving people who want to get married) can take a toll on your self esteem. Rejection is more like the norm, than are meaningful connections. As one poster put it, you only need one.


A healthy love of self and appreciation of what we have to offer is critical as we navigate the perilous waters of online dating.


Oh, and a sense of humor is an absolute MUST HAVE [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]
 
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