Lilly77 is offline Lilly77 Post #1  September 9,2008, 6:54pm
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Hi everyone, just wondering if anyone has had a bad experience on eharmony.


I had one this past weekend. I was in open communication with a match, thinking that the guy was honest but he ended up making up the entire story. After few hours of IM and phone conversation the inconsistencies began to appear. The final thing was when I asked him to pray with me. We did and I really felt something deadly wrong. I hang up the phone and prayed some more. My gut reaction was proven right when the next day one of my dear friends checked the address this guy gave me and the address what of a public library... I am happy I ended all communications with him that day before my friend called me... oh I was devastated! not because I was emotionally really involved but because someone can be so cruel and play with someone elses emotions... then I got another match - so similar to the first one... even the English mistakes were the same...I believe it was the same person.


I have emailed eharmony but no response from them. I just want to know if someone else has gone through the same thing.


Thanks for your imput!


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I'm sorry that you have been through this, Lilly. Please do one more thing and contact eHarmony customer service with your experience. It may save someone else some heartache. Good luck to you.
 
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Lilly77, wrote :

Hi everyone, just wondering if anyone has had a bad experience on eharmony.


I had one this past weekend. I was in open communication with a match, thinking that the guy was honest but he ended up making up the entire story. After few hours of IM and phone conversation the inconsistencies began to appear. The final thing was when I asked him to pray with me. We did and I really felt something deadly wrong. I hang up the phone and prayed some more. My gut reaction was proven right when the next day one of my dear friends checked the address this guy gave me and the address what of a public library... I am happy I ended all communications with him that day before my friend called me... oh I was devastated! not because I was emotionally really involved but because someone can be so cruel and play with someone elses emotions... then I got another match - so similar to the first one... even the English mistakes were the same...I believe it was the same person.


I have emailed eharmony but no response from them. I just want to know if someone else has gone through the same thing.


Thanks for your imput!


Lilly!
I'd say 2/3 of my initial matches were scammers. It makes you really cynical about the rest of your matches. I've called EH on most of the men I thought were scammers. If you google the guy's name and romance scam, the more notorious ones come up. EH really should put a filter on for Nigerian and Russian IP addresses. It would save everyone heartache and make their service more attractive.
 
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Wow I must be one of the lucky ones on EH. I have been a member since late June and I have only had one suspicious match. If I remember right she had her e-mail addy in her about me info with the usual (contact me directly since I don't check in very often).This is out of about 140 matches.


Now Match is another story. When I was active there I was getting about one a week and no real matches or responses either.


Just be careful and I am sorry that you had a bad experience. I would suggest that you call EH proper and report the violater. I wonder if he was homeless and using the Libraries computer and address.


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I haven't encountered a scam match on eH to date, however even the real members can have problems. In 2005 one of my matches and I made it through OC and we arranged a first meeting. The date was going OK, no instant click but not a horrible date by any means, when in the middle of a lively conversation, the guy raised his arm to backhand me across the restaurant table. He said he was only joking, however it smelled to memore like a reflex. That ended the evening.
 
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marthak,252655 wrote :

I haven't encountered a scam match on eH to date, however even the real members can have problems. In 2005 one of my matches and I made it through OC and we arranged a first meeting. The date was going OK, no instant click but not a horrible date by any means, when in the middle of a lively conversation, the guy raised his arm to backhand me across the restaurant table. He said he was only joking, however it smelled to me more like a reflex. That ended the evening.







Oh, my word! I hope you reported *him*, that is just scary. One of my big bugaboos are people who are verbally or physically violent or have short tempers they can't control.


I haven't been on EH long enough to have a bad experience, and I hope I don't, but everywhere else I've been there have been many scammers. I didn't even know about dating scammers until I started doing this stuff because back when I was dating before (I'm a widow) the Internet was younger and I don't think the grifters had caught up with the technology yet.


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Lilly, MarthaK,


Sorry the both of you have had such bad experiences on EH. I can telll you that there are a lot of nice guys out there looking (myself included [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif[/img]) so just keep at it and you'll find the right one. Don't let a few bad apples spoil the bunch as the saying goes.
 
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marthak is offline marthak Post #8  September 10,2008, 8:36am
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DoinNada, Thanks. That was just one match over the past 5 years. With that exception, all of the men I have met on eH have been wonderful guys -- not MY wonderful guy -- but wonderful nonetheless.
 
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lada is offline lada Post #9  September 10,2008, 9:03am

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I met a man on eHarmony. I spoke with him on the phone for weeks, or months. I met him once. What happened next I am not allowed to discuss...as eHarmony puts it, out of respect for his family. i
 
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lada,252903 wrote :

I met a man on eHarmony. I spoke with him on the phone for weeks, or months. I met him once. What happened next I am not allowed to discuss...as eHarmony puts it, out of respect for his family. i
What?You What? Don't just leave us hanging like that! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-yell.gif[/img]
 
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