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Lilly77, wrote :

Hi everyone, just wondering if anyone has had a bad experience on eharmony.


I had one this past weekend. I was in open communication with a match, thinking that the guy was honest but he ended up making up the entire story. After few hours of IM and phone conversation the inconsistencies began to appear. The final thing was when I asked him to pray with me. We did and I really felt something deadly wrong. I hang up the phone and prayed some more. My gut reaction was proven right when the next day one of my dear friends checked the address this guy gave me and the address what of a public library... I am happy I ended all communications with him that day before my friend called me... oh I was devastated! not because I was emotionally really involved but because someone can be so cruel and play with someone elses emotions... then I got another match - so similar to the first one... even the English mistakes were the same...I believe it was the same person.


I have emailed eharmony but no response from them. I just want to know if someone else has gone through the same thing.


Thanks for your imput!


Lilly!
I had a really bad experience with Eh when a guy I was talking to asked me to talk to him on his personal e-mail and then he wanted me to call him on the phone and he was really nice at first and he had a killer voice...he was an attorney in New Hampshire and he was a real looker too but when we started talking about personal stuff he began asking me stuff like go to the window and take your clothes off? I was totally floored!!! He called me when I was shopping at the grocery store and wanted me to find a man in the store and tell him I was talking to him and that I was going to give him a blow job when I saw him later that day and see what his reaction was? I was really scared and not sure what to do then he asked me if I would swing with him if I was to get with him because he was a swinger and that is what he did!!! I was totally scared because I am not into that kind of stuff and I told him that I did not want to talk to him any more and then he called me a party pooper and then we have not talked since...He also closed his site on Eh because he said he only got old laides on his site but he did get me so he was tired of wasting his money but he was really scary...but he was the only one so far that has been like that, I guess you have to be careful because he was a sex fene and I am not in any way shape a sex fene I like to have fun but it stops there...
 
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Hi Everyone,


I regret to hear that some of you have had negative experiences on our site. Making your eHarmony experience safe and successful is very important to us. Not only do we provide our members with Safety Tips upon entering Open Communication with a match, but, in our Terms and Conditions of Service, we discuss the "Risk Assumption and Precautions" associated with online sites, including eHarmony. You are welcome to review this information by clicking on the following links, or through the links available at the bottom of all our Singles site pages:


http://www.eharmony.com/safety/tips


http://www.eharmony.com/about/terms#2


As section #7 of our Safety Tips shares:


"eHarmony works hard to close individuals who misrepresent who they are on our site, and we take member complaints seriously. If you have concerns about a particular match on eHarmony, please do not hesitate to contact us so that appropriate steps can be taken to keep eHarmony the safest and best place to start a relationship on the web. Email your concerns to: matchconcerns@eharmony.com."


Therefore, please contact our Risk Management team immediately whenever you have a match concern.


I wish you all the best,


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Vanetta,277040 wrote :

Thats okay that just shows you are only human. Hope you don't give out your yahoo, cause this is how mine all started and using the eharmony site is better albeit a little slower. I have learned my lesson well.
What is wrong with giving out your yahoo address? It is a fake name, is that OK?
 
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What was the name of the website to check people out?
 
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Hi all!! Hows it going? I am new to this eharmony crap! I am not really liking it much, are any others having the same experience? I cant beleive its come down to a dating site, what ever happened to meeting someone outside in the world LOL LOL!! I am not much into the dating sites, so a little insight will be great. I am finding out most men are shallow, which is sad, but thats today society for ya!! But I am hopeful I will find Mister Right oneday LOL LOL!!!
 
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I have been on EH for two months and have had one bad experience. We were in open communication and I started having a bad feeling about this man. I believe he was attracted to me because I teach young children and he seemed very curious about them. I closed all communication with him but now I am very leery about any matches.
 
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wvTom is offline wvTom Post #77  November 24,2008, 8:11am
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SarahW,339227 wrote :

Hi, people. I'm new to EH - a week or so -and just plan to try it for a few months. If it doesn't work out, so be it.


I set my geographical restrictions pretty tight, so hopefully I don't have to worry too much about foreign scammers, though I guess they can list themselves as being from my area. Thanks to all for sharing your stories and advice here.


I have 25 matches, but only one communication going right now, initiated by the match. I haven't initiated any communication because so many of the matches don't even have a picture, and also, reading the profile, no one has really stood out. I wonder though, why only two of the matcheseven show as having "viewed" me? I have clicked on each one to view.


Do a lot of people stay on the site, even though they quit using it? Or they don't check it very often maybe?


Any general advice for a newbie who doesn't want to waste her time?
SarahW,


I don't have any answers for you, but I certainly would like to know too. I've been on eH for a week now, and have been getting between 6 to 10 matches per day, so I have about 50 matches so far, but only 12 views and 8 of those are anonymous (by the way, I think it's pretty lame to view only as anonymous). The first day on eH, I got this one woman as a match. I viewed her photos and profile, she seemed interesting enough to communicate with, but I didn't do anything right away. The next day, she viewed me... and since she didn't close the match right away, I assumed she may be interested, soI sent her an icebreaker.That's been 5 days ago. I just don't get it.
 
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Oh! after reading these postings I now understand why my matches closes me after I tell them in OC that I am Nigerian.What is a girl to do now?.I know that there are lots of scammers from Nigeria( some have tried it on me)how do I make people understand that we all are not scammers?
 
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naijagirl,379419 wrote :

Oh! after reading these postings I now understand why my matches closes me after I tell them in OC that I am Nigerian.What is a girl to do now?.I know that there are lots of scammers from Nigeria( some have tried it on me)how do I make people understand that we all are not scammers?
Just be open and honest. I was reading on another tread asking if people goggle their matches before dating them. so if you trust the match that you are interested in you could share some imformation with them and they will see that you are real. just goggle your name some time and see what comes up you would be surprised at least I was when I first goggled mine.


The other thing that comes to mind is to post a picture of yourself in front ofa land mark for example theGolden gate bridge if you are nearthe bay area.


Maybe I am a very trusting guy but honestly I have not had any bad experances here at eharmony.
 
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zenmerlin,379482 wrote :

naijagirl,379419 wrote :


Oh! after reading these postings I now understand why my matches closes me after I tell them in OC that I am Nigerian.What is a girl to do now?.I know that there are lots of scammers from Nigeria( some have tried it on me)how do I make people understand that we all are not scammers?


Just be open and honest. I was reading on another tread asking if people goggle their matches before dating them. so if you trust the match that you are interested in you could share some imformation with them and they will see that you are real. just goggle your name some time and see what comes up you would be surprised at least I was when I first goggled mine.


The other thing that comes to mind is to post a picture of yourself in front ofa land mark for example theGolden gate bridge if you are nearthe bay area.


Maybe I am a very trusting guy but honestly I have not had any bad experances here at eharmony.
Thanks for your ideas.
 
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