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ROFL..that could be an entire thread of it's own! "Why are so many engineers looking for love?"


OK then....I agree, and am going to do it. I feel very sorry for those engineers that are out there for the right reasons so let's just see if we can get some of those to respond. Or maybe someone can explain what qualifies as an Engineer. Perhaps I am missing something. Maybe thereare different interpretations of what qualifies as an Engineer. I don't think so, but let's see what someone else thinks.


Most times the engineer profiles are fairly transparent, especially if you know something about the differences between the British and American industries.


To that I agree but what about all of those American Engineers? I have seventeen, (yes I went back and counted them), in my matches right now. So here it goes with it's own thread...
 
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JohannaBear,254002 wrote :

ROFL..that could be an entire thread of it's own! "Why are so many engineers looking for love?"


OK then....I agree, and am going to do it. I feel very sorry for those engineers that are out there for the right reasons so let's just see if we can get some of those to respond. Or maybe someone can explain what qualifies as an Engineer. Perhaps I am missing something. Maybe thereare different interpretations of what qualifies as an Engineer. I don't think so, but let's see what someone else thinks.


Most times the engineer profiles are fairly transparent, especially if you know something about the differences between the British and American industries.


To that I agree but what about all of those American Engineers? I have seventeen, (yes I went back and counted them), in my matches right now. So here it goes with it's own thread...
They pretend to be American engineers, but sometimes the use the British rather than the American terms. That's when I turn them in. So far, I've always been right.
 
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lada is offline lada Post #23  September 11,2008, 11:05am
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snickers...yeah, like they boast of their endowment in millimeters....wowl! 10!!
 
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Baker9,253439 wrote :

Lilly, sorry you had this happen to you. If you were hiring someone for a position of trust, you would do a background investigation. A little investigation of your matches before you become emotionally invested or trust them like closes friends met through people you know is not a bad idea.


Lada, your tale sent chills up & down my spine. I'm so sorry you had to deal with this.


JohannaBear, I don't think there is a way to tell who has paid, but you can't put a pic up until you pay (but if you quit paying the pic stays), and you can only use icebreakers, no other communication, if you aren't paid up ... unless it's a free communication weekend.


Engineers are ok; I got matched with and 'Enginineer' on another site and he was a scammer. I googled his name and city/state and found that he had been 'turned in' as a scammer on a site devoted to helping people detect known scammers. If he's a little too good looking, be wary. If he lost his wife in a tragic accident, leaving him with a child, be wary (too bad scammers use that because a lot of good actual people are widowed). If all written communications are full of spelling errors, akward English, and weird Capitalizations, be wary. If they respond really fast and give out their private email and IM right away, be wary. If their communications are so generic that they call you 'Angel' or other pet names and don't ask anything that shows they read your profile, answers, or OC, be wary.


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noseyparker,253448 wrote :

corky44,252311 wrote :


Lilly77, wrote :


Hi everyone, just wondering if anyone has had a bad experience on eharmony.


I had one this past weekend. I was in open communication with a match, thinking that the guy was honest but he ended up making up the entire story. After few hours of IM and phone conversation the inconsistencies began to appear. The final thing was when I asked him to pray with me. We did and I really felt something deadly wrong. I hang up the phone and prayed some more. My gut reaction was proven right when the next day one of my dear friends checked the address this guy gave me and the address what of a public library... I am happy I ended all communications with him that day before my friend called me... oh I was devastated! not because I was emotionally really involved but because someone can be so cruel and play with someone elses emotions... then I got another match - so similar to the first one... even the English mistakes were the same...I believe it was the same person.


I have emailed eharmony but no response from them. I just want to know if someone else has gone through the same thing.


Thanks for your imput!


Lilly!


I'd say 2/3 of my initial matches were scammers. It makes you really cynical about the rest of your matches. I've called EH on most of the men I thought were scammers. If you google the guy's name and romance scam, the more notorious ones come up. EH really should put a filter on for Nigerian and Russian IP addresses. It would save everyone heartache and make their service more attractive.


I asked them about that. They say that they have legitimate clients in Nigeria, and it would not be fair to block them from the service.
Of course their clients are legit. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-undecided.gif[/img] However, a quick check for clients who list the US as their residence and have a Nigerian IP would eliminate 90% of the scammers. If they're from Nigeria, they should list that as their address.
 
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snickers...yeah, like they boast of their endowment in millimeters....wowl! 10!!
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Man, I am hearing you all about the scammers - so far I have had around 75% of my matches that I communicating with that are totally scammers.


Architect - who designs landscapes and buildings and tells me he is so in love with me


Contractor - who has on his profile Australia, but he in fact lives in Netherlands, but is from the USA, but is intending to move to Australia. He is an oil rigger - fancy that, I never knew there were oil rigs inside Amsterdam... and asks me if I own my own home... hmmm wonder what he wants from me?


Geologist - who has been given "information" that he is to spend Christmas in Niger, as he has "complex" work there and says all sorts of other stuff about how he is so lucky to have found the angel of his life... blah blah blah


Business owner - who does the weird capitalisations and calls me the pet names and has soppy-syrupy email addresses


Self-Employed - who tells me how he found his wife in bed with his best friend, without any prompting from me as I never even knew he was married


All do not understand past/present tense and use odd words to express themselves in sentences - quite obvious that English isnt their first language.


None of these guys is actually where their profile says they are from -- ahhhhh!!


I am like Noseyparker - play with them for a bit to work out if I am right and as soon as I know, its ciao baby!


Just thought I would mention them, in case other women get matched with them... scammers!


But still, it is totally disheartening to see how so many of them are on eharmony and it's very bad of eHamony to not care about anything other than the money they are getting.
 
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I think if EH got rid of all the scammers, the ratio of men to women would go down to a point that they would have difficulty sending matches to their female clients. EH allows scammers and non-members to be on their roles to artificially boost membership numbers and keep the ratio of men to women nearly equal (it's already 2 women for every guuy according to their login page for men).
 
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corky44,275718 wrote :

I think if EH got rid of all the scammers, the ratio of men to women would go down to a point that they would have difficulty sending matches to their female clients. EH allows scammers and non-members to be on their roles to artificially boost membership numbers and keep the ratio of men to women nearly equal (it's already 2 women for every guuy according to their login page for men).
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noseyparker,275879 wrote :

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I think if EH got rid of all the scammers, the ratio of men to women would go down to a point that they would have difficulty sending matches to their female clients. EH allows scammers and non-members to be on their roles to artificially boost membership numbers and keep the ratio of men to women nearly equal (it's already 2 women for every guuy according to their login page for men).


Do you realize they've discontinued the separate login pages for men and women? [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]
They have ?! Wonder if that means that the ratio's improved?
 
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