Bad experiences on eharmony

Hi everyone, just wondering if anyone has had a bad experience on eharmony.


I had one this past weekend. I was in open communication with a match, thinking that the guy was honest but he ended up making up the entire story. After few hours of IM and phone conversation the inconsistencies began to appear. The final thing was when I asked him to pray with me. We did and I really felt something deadly wrong. I hang up the phone and prayed some more. My gut reaction was proven right when the next day one of my dear friends checked the address this guy gave me and the address what of a public library... I am happy I ended all communications with him that day before my friend called me... oh I was devastated! not because I was emotionally really involved but because someone can be so cruel and play with someone elses emotions... then I got another match - so similar to the first one... even the English mistakes were the same...I believe it was the same person.


I have emailed eharmony but no response from them. I just want to know if someone else has gone through the same thing.


Thanks for your imput!


Lilly!

Sorry about what happened. It's fairly common on dating sites. The wackjobs are at their best in the online world.


Frankly it never gets that far with me. I spot the liars really fast, due to my Gestapo like questioning tactics-all done in a sweet way, that they never realize what's afoot. I keep my photo up, while engaging them, so they forget themselves, and the truth comes out. Here's where it helps to be reasonably attractive.


Never, never be embarassed to google a man or use pipl (dot) com to check him out. No need to pay for info to check his assets. You can determine if he is divorced from the names that come up on the basic Intelius information profile. I do this early to avoid wasting my time. If I can't find him or someone of his age, in the neighborhood where he lives, then it's curtains... regardless of his protestations of love, or how gorgeous he looks.


But then, I'm known to play hardball. Many women are more tolerant. My attitude is that, if a man is really interested in me, then he will not lie to me. There's other fish in the sea. My persona reeks of truth (except on EHA where I refuse to post my true age), so I expect the truth. There.. I've shared a few of my low down dirty methods. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]

I'd say 2/3 of my initial matches were scammers. It makes you really cynical about the rest of your matches. I've called EH on most of the men I thought were scammers. If you google the guy's name and romance scam, the more notorious ones come up. EH really should put a filter on for Nigerian and Russian IP addresses. It would save everyone heartache and make their service more attractive.

Lilly, sorry you had this happen to you. If you were hiring someone for a position of trust, you would do a background investigation. A little investigation of your matches before you become emotionally invested or trust them like closes friends met through people you know is not a bad idea.


Lada, your tale sent chills up & down my spine. I'm so sorry you had to deal with this.


JohannaBear, I don't think there is a way to tell who has paid, but you can't put a pic up until you pay (but if you quit paying the pic stays), and you can only use icebreakers, no other communication, if you aren't paid up ... unless it's a free communication weekend.


Engineers are ok; I got matched with and 'Enginineer' on another site and he was a scammer. I googled his name and city/state and found that he had been 'turned in' as a scammer on a site devoted to helping people detect known scammers. If he's a little too good looking, be wary. If he lost his wife in a tragic accident, leaving him with a child, be wary (too bad scammers use that because a lot of good actual people are widowed). If all written communications are full of spelling errors, akward English, and weird Capitalizations, be wary. If they respond really fast and give out their private email and IM right away, be wary. If their communications are so generic that they call you 'Angel' or other pet names and don't ask anything that shows they read your profile, answers, or OC, be wary.


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Hi everyone, just wondering if anyone has had a bad experience on eharmony.


I had one this past weekend. I was in open communication with a match, thinking that the guy was honest but he ended up making up the entire story. After few hours of IM and phone conversation the inconsistencies began to appear. The final thing was when I asked him to pray with me. We did and I really felt something deadly wrong. I hang up the phone and prayed some more. My gut reaction was proven right when the next day one of my dear friends checked the address this guy gave me and the address what of a public library... I am happy I ended all communications with him that day before my friend called me... oh I was devastated! not because I was emotionally really involved but because someone can be so cruel and play with someone elses emotions... then I got another match - so similar to the first one... even the English mistakes were the same...I believe it was the same person.


I have emailed eharmony but no response from them. I just want to know if someone else has gone through the same thing.


Thanks for your imput!


Lilly!

I have read and read and read.....I cannot believe that anywoman would fall for some of the things that I have been reading. What I want to know is....There are other types of scammers out there. Let’s just refer to them as "idiots"right now. I have readthrough several discussion boards today and still have not figured out how to tell the difference between the paying customers and the "just hanging out"messing with your mind guys.I have beenon this site for a month now. I am not new to the internet dating scene. I am having real trouble with this site in trying to identify these guys.I realize there isnot a 1-2-3-4 listof things to lookfor but ladies (and gentlemen if any care)how can you tell?How can you tell if they are paying EH customers? Is there something that I ammissing here? Why are the non paying customers afforded the same opportunities that the paying customers are. Is there a point in the communication process where they are no longer able to communicate or is it before any questions and answer sessions begin? Why are there so many "Engineers", looking for love?Is this a sign? Maybe this is the wrong section to post this in butthose of you whose posts I have read seem to have some working knowledge of EH. Help! I do not want to waste my time and be scammed by an idiot.