ter001 is offline ter001 Post #101  June 27,2010, 6:22am
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Sorry to hear of your bad experience, and I hope in the future that you will be one of the ones that gets a positive out of it. For myself, I have already had enough of eH mainly b/c I have gotten a nibble on from anyone. I have sent nudges out there with no response. But anyone good luck. We will meet out match someway.
 
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bonnyp is offline bonnyp Post #102  August 2,2010, 5:19pm
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I haven't had any bad experiences on eharmony, mainly because most of the matches I am getting in my in box are not even remotely similar in interests to mine. Barely get beyond the icebreaker and questions stage when I realize they are just not my type. But I have been scammed and out of lots of money on Match.com. So I believe there are scammers everywhere.

I was communicating with a guy for a several weeks, then I kept asking about when he would like to meet. He told me he was out of state working because he couldn't find local work. But to be patient and could we keep talking, texting and emailing till he got back in town. He claimed he was coming back in town in a few weeks. I really thought things were going great, we talked daily, sent photo's of ourselves to each other, and started to really get to know alot about each other, our kids. Were even planning day trips and things when he got back. This guy seemed like everything I had ever wanted. He was just great.

Well the week before he was "supposedly" coming home, he frantically contacts me that his daughter (who he had custody of) was rushed to the hospital and that he didn't have any credit cards with him and didn't get his paycheck yet. Could I wire him some money to pay the hospital bill because they would not help his daughter till they got money. What a dummy I was, I wired him 2000 dollars, (guess where........... Nigeria). I never heard of scams or were a part of any thing that was a scam so I had no idea that these scams originate in Nigeria. I wired the money. He was grateful, told me he would pay me back when he got in the following weekend. I wasn't worried, I was glad I could help. Never thought I was being scammed. We talked and emailed all the next week, he even sent me the itinary of his flights home. We made arrangements to meet for dinner the night he got in. He gave me a local address to meet him so he could be sure to give me the money back and then we would go out. I went to the address he provided, it was an abandoned building. I got that sick gut feeling then and there I was scammed.
I immediately texted him and no response. For days I emailed and checked back on the Match.com profile it was closed.

So lesson learned. I am very giving, very generous and still would help anyone if I could, but this experience has really made me think twice about people. It is sad that you can't trust people.
 
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1Ayla is offline 1Ayla Post #103  August 9,2010, 3:51pm
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Hi all, i am new here! Just wanted to thank you all for the advice. I have a friend who is very good at digging the dirt on someone and through her am planning on also learning where she looks. I know now that i will only communicate here. I just got done blocking two people who sell jewlery out of their home and make over 100,000 dollars!!! ROTFL!!! OMG to funny. Then one of them sent me pics of himself (one was in a strange uniform and the other looked russian) calling me DEAR and HONEY!? OMG What a turn off.
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You ladies cannot go wrong if you are to careful. Try to find someone who knows how to dig up the dirt and learn from them. There was one man in the service who was coming to my home town. My friend said go for it, encouraged me etc.. (this from another site called Datehookup.com.) anyway she bit her tongue and swallowed what she said when she found a wife at the same address and her work number besides.... DELETE.
The majority of them are scammers on other sites and in orange jump suites.
I thought by coming here with the screening process for sure we are safer? I guess not from what i am reading. I think it is great if people share who the scammers are and what was said so newbies can learn from it.
Thanx so much!
 
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cutbank is offline cutbank Post #104  August 16,2010, 10:16am
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What are the scammers? I have gotten a lot of Russian women who were being fronted by a false email address. They want me to write them at yahoo or gmail. I never go anywhere with that. What is the consequence if you do? What is the scam?
 
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Hi,
Sorry for your bad experience. I agree with reporting him. I have not had a bad experience yet and have met men that make good friends, however, I am a psychiatric nurse who works in jail and has a skepticism antenna a mile long.
Hope for some better experiences for you,
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