mstrzn is offline mstrzn Post #91  January 2,2010, 4:26pm
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Yes, I've had a very bad experience on Eharmony. I signed up for the 3 month package. The first 2-3 weeks were fine as received almost two dozen matches. After that the matching has seemed to be non existant. In fact after the first month I don't think I got any matches for neary 10 days! One of the reason I joined Eharmony is because they really try to match you compared to other sites. However I find it hard to believe that they can't find me more matches. It's been almost another week since they sent my my last match. My paid subscription is running out in 2 weeks. It makes me angry that I spent the money.
 
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mstrzn wrote :
Yes, I've had a very bad experience on Eharmony. I signed up for the 3 month package. The first 2-3 weeks were fine as received almost two dozen matches. After that the matching has seemed to be non existant. In fact after the first month I don't think I got any matches for neary 10 days! One of the reason I joined Eharmony is because they really try to match you compared to other sites. However I find it hard to believe that they can't find me more matches. It's been almost another week since they sent my my last match. My paid subscription is running out in 2 weeks. It makes me angry that I spent the money.
Dear mstrzn,

I'm really sorry to hear that this has been your experience. When you first join, members often get quite a few matches because we are matching you against our entire member data base of 20+ million registered members. Afterwhich, we search for your matches among the 10,000+ new members registering every day and those current members who may have changed a matching preference so that you are now included in their matching pool.

The value of eHarmony is that we will only send you highly-compatible matches using your Relationship Questionnaire answers. However, we also do another level of filtering using your Matching Preferences.

Of course, we are happy to honor your Matching Preferences, but please keep in mind the narrower they are, the narrower the matching pool we can use to find your matches. So I encourage you to review your Settings to ensure they are set as open as possible for you. If you need assistance, Customer Care is available to help: eHarmony Support Home Page.

All the best,

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teena is offline teena Post #93  January 24,2010, 9:15pm
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The scamers(on all sites) I spot early on and delet them. you need to know the red flags...poor gramer, devout christen, widower, sigle paernt, child dosnt live with them. devout christen....three or more is a scamer!
 
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ratedPG is offline ratedPG Post #94  February 10,2010, 1:44pm
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I don't know if this precisely qualifies, but I was offended by it! Right after I joined eHarmony, one of my matches and I got to OC....then went to phoning. We talked, seemed like we had a lot in common. I was having incredible difficulty uploading pics here (which I STILL am!), but I finally got a full length pic of myself posted...after we'd made arrangements for a date. He called the day of the date and said he wasn't going to be able to make it...and I never heard from him again. Since posting that pciture...not ONE match has clicked on communicate, but a WHOLE lot of them have closed it out. I know I am not a Barbie, but...come ON...how shallow can you be?
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Tiki9160 is offline Tiki9160 Post #95  February 12,2010, 2:59pm
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I had a match start off full throttle the guy was real attentive and sweet and right as I decided to go to visit him he started acting strange few calls, text, and emails! Went to visit and it was full throttle once again until I returned home he stopped once again, I finally gave up and let it go but the emotional roller coaster and game playing is so trying. I don't know how much of that I can tolerate!
 
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I feel for you and know what you mean about people preying on others' emotions. I have been a member of several sites, and on each of them, I have been sweetly contacted by someone for whom English is a second language at best, and who is not even in the country! I play along for a while, waiting for it, then it comes; the request for financial aid. "I will be able to send you a check, just deposit it and send me the money Western Union." There are a lot of scam artists out there, and the only way to protect ourselves from them is to rely on the promptings of the Holy Ghost! So good for you!
 
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dbell1 is offline dbell1 Post #97  March 1,2010, 9:00pm
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About 5 years ago I signed up here and was matched to a guy who seemed too good to be true. Published author, successful lawyer, loved to stroll along the canal with a glass of wine, loved giving back to the community, etc. So, we get to email. He gives me his office number immediately. I checked it online, the name came up, I did what any internet savvy woman does - I googled him. He'd been disbarred due to embezzlement, alcoholic blackouts and other fun stuff. He was self published and in lawsuits over copying other author's work. The giving back to the community? Well, that was court ordered community service and he was also supposed to be in AA. He emailed me a few days later with 'haven't heard from you'. I replied 'go google yourself' and closed the match. I contacted them here, no clue what happened to him after that. I have visions of him reading his books outloud along the canal...

Oh, and I closed the account right after that. Just signed up again last week. This should be interesting...
 
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TheQueenofTofu is offline TheQueenofTofu Post #98  March 4,2010, 2:14pm
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I had an "odd" experience once a couple of years ago but it wasn't "bad" by any means. He was one of the ones that had his yahoo id in his eHarmony profile and we had instant messaged a couple of times. I'm pretty intuitive and was picking up some weird vibes from him but I'm in Oregon and he was in Ohio, so I wasn't really putting much time or effort into the whole thing anyway. I received an email from eHarmony stating that he was no longer a member and basically that they couldn't be held responsible for whatever he'd said or done. Hmmm...

The scammers are everywhere. On one site, in one "browsing" session alone, I found a guy who was using a photo of Gilbert Arenas, one using a candid shot of Alec Baldwin, one using a MediFast ad .jpg, one using Martin Lawrence's photo and there was one other one that I can't remember and doesn't really matter. The fact is, people can be deceptive whether we've met them "organically" or online. You just have to be alert, be careful and listen to your instincts. If you're one of those unfortunate souls who happens to be missing that whole instinct thing, listen to your friends and family.

Have fun and be safe out there kids!

Oh, and as dbell1 did - I google EVERYONE. It's not fail-safe by any means but as with her experience, it's a pretty decent tool to help you weed out some of the unsavory ones.
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muyfifi is offline muyfifi Post #99  March 31,2010, 9:04pm
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Hopefully this link to spam baiters will cheer some folks up

Welcome to the 419 Eater

I wish I could find a much older series from a gentleman who engaged his would be spammers by inquiring if he could hunt a specific type of bird in their region, attached a photo and it was Big Bird.
 
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I haven't been on eHarmony for more than a year and am ready to give up. I know that isn't a lot of time but I have had my share of "scammers" but not necessarily in the way of what is being talked about. So far EH has only had to shut down one of my matches and that was within the first week (it was kinda scary).

The scammers I am talking about is the ones that make it to OC or 1st date and then turn out to be so very different (I may be a little bitter about this as it is a fresh exprience).

First date with a couple of gentlemen - and they were - last year in July. There was something that just didn't click though and I was honest enough to not continue on with the relationships (one was still married *shivers*). Then last fall I met a guy that I really fell hard for. We spent HOURS on the phone (very long distant), texts, snail mail, emails, etc. I got to know his mother and he my sons. He was suppose to come visit in a few days but. . . . . 5 days ago we talked at 7am and all was well and moving aheadl; 8am he sent me some pictures of a "new haircut" and 730pm I got a "dear John" email from him stating that he wasn't coming and we were no longer a "couple". Devastated as I believed in all he told me. This morning I got a email stating that he loved me deeply but he needed to follow a dream of his (he composes music and has been offered to record it too). We had talked since February about this recording option that might happen and thought that we were okay and set with it. . . my mistake.

Am I hurt?? Yeah. . . devastated because I feel so used (okay am venting now); am I leery of any dating sites. . . . you bet. Problem is I live in a small SMALL town with a lack of social activities and I hate the bar scene. I thought this would be a way of meeting people that were interested in finding people - do I dare say - for a long term relationship. Most threads seem to be saying differently.

Are the bad experiences worth the money one pays to join eHarmony or any dating site . . . or do you just take a chance?
 
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