happylynn is offline happylynn Post #1  March 3,2010, 8:43am
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Matched up with a really nice guy. Nice dinner, and then... the texting started. I kid u not, 15+ by mid afternoon the following day. He's fun, interesting, but how do I get him to stop with the texting. Subtle hints are not working, and it's not my style to be called "sexy" in a text (too old fashioned). Advice?
 
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Matched up with a really nice guy. Nice dinner, and then... the texting started. I kid u not, 15+ by mid afternoon the following day. He's fun, interesting, but how do I get him to stop with the texting. Subtle hints are not working, and it's not my style to be called "sexy" in a text (too old fashioned). Advice?
Wish I could give you advice on it. I have told guys I do not really like to text but they continue to do it. I have seen the advice to not respond to it. I fear they will think I am not interested so I respond or call if I want to talk.
 
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Myself, I enjoy texting. But if you are made uncomfortable by it, maybe you can respond via e-mail only? That way, they'll know you're still interested but hopefully get the hint that e-mail is your preferred method of correspondence.
 
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JonBoy is offline JonBoy Post #4  March 31,2010, 9:46pm
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Be grateful I say as they still took the time to stay in touch and share something with you!
 
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Tell him that you don't have unlimited texting with your phone service.
 
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MNlovely is offline MNlovely Post #6  June 27,2010, 9:07am
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Wow - that's a lot of texts - I love to text but not that much -
Do you work during the day - maybe just let him know that you can't text much during the day - but that you will send him a text at lunch or call him in the evening to respond - The other thing is he just might be really excited about your time together and that is how he is showing it. It might settle down after a little bit too.
You may have some other core issues though if he is calling you sexy and you are not comfortable with that.
Give it some time and communicate, communicate, communicate and see what happens.
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LeighAnn is offline LeighAnn Post #7  May 25,2011, 11:43pm
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JonBoy wrote :
Be grateful I say as they still took the time to stay in touch and share something with you!
....I agree. At least you aren't wondering if he's thinking about you.
 
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tmap is offline tmap Post #8  June 25,2011, 8:04am
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What about the men who only text the "emoticons" I went through that for a while, I"m in my forties and that is sweet for a while; however call me odd but I prefer the spoken word!!!
 
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Maybe there's a deeper issue here?

Sounds like he's getting on your nerves. If you've requested that he limit texts, and he doesn't, then set some boundaries for yourself such as not responding to all of them, maybe just one or two.

You'll also learn about his character when you do this. Does he blow a fuse? Does he start asking why you don't respond? Does he start asking where you're at? Does he trust you? Is he head over heels in love with you?

I love to text an SO, and I love getting text from a SO (Significant Other for those that don't do texting). Its just a great way to let the other person know you're thinking of them. I've found when dating younger, you had better be a master at texting.

So is it the number of texts or the guy that's texting? I think when you're in love it doesn't matter unless it's keeping you from doing your job.

In my opinion, the bigger issue is he respecting you and your request? If he can't honor a request about texting, what other boundaries will he have a problem with?

On the other side, evaluate how you really feel about him and whether or not this is a issue for you.
 
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I must say that I am flattered by the attention but any SO knows I cannot always respond. I make that clear.
 
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