Cobbler2 is offline Cobbler2 Post #1  February 27,2010, 11:40am
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I'm knew here so I'm sorry if you guys already covered this but I need some input. I was on another site for awhile. A lot of the women complained about the guys just wanting sex. Of the 14 women that I met in person I "dated" 9 more than 1 time. Of those 9, 8 of them wanted to fool around within the first few dates. I love sex. My problem is that when I was younger sex seemed to complicate things or rather over simplify them.. I want to find the lady I can have something permanent with. I want to build emotional intimacy first. Am I crazy?
When I expressed my concern about jumping into bed to soon I think it hurt their feelings or something. I'm definitely not a prude. I'm very opened about my partner expressing her sexuality and my own. How do I get the idea across that I want to build an emotional relationship first with out scaring them away?
 
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Lookingandlooking is offline Lookingandlooking Post #2  March 10,2010, 6:41pm
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Tell them what you posted here.
 
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nightling is offline nightling Post #3  March 10,2010, 10:08pm
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Did they maybe feel you were judging them in some way, ie suggesting to them they are moving too fast could sound like you think they are loose women or something if it's not presented tactfully?

Just a thought.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #4  March 11,2010, 9:21pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Men want sex. That seems to almost be a given at any age. It isn't going to change. Women simply need to know this and be prepared to deal with this in one way or another.
 
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nightling is offline nightling Post #5  March 15,2010, 10:00am
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jayjay wrote :
Men want sex. That seems to almost be a given at any age. It isn't going to change. Women simply need to know this and be prepared to deal with this in one way or another.

Sorta seems you might have only read the first sentence of the post since this is a guy asking if he is crazy to want to wait before having sex and complaining about women wanting to jump in the sack too soon.
 
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Okay - Cobbler I think you are a figment of the imagination, especially after I looked at your profile and there is nothing there. lol
I'm sorry if you met up with the women that you did, don't be discouraged. I have a feeling that they were buying into the quick gratification ideals that are so common in today's society.
JayJay - you sound like you were the prior date for the women that Cobbler2 met up with.
 
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Cobbler I would say just keep looking. I have never pushed sex faster than a guy. I have to be the gatekeeper. I hate that but I agree with what you are saying that sex complicates things. On reflection, I determined that is why I stayed in my last relationship as long as I did. His life was a mess but I kept saying it was okay because I was physically and emotionally involved.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #8  March 19,2010, 4:28pm
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aslidinpsur wrote :
JayJay - you sound like you were the prior date for the women that Cobbler2 met up with.
How did you know? BTW...my middle name is 'Hands'.
 
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Say what you did here, Cobbler2... just make sure you let the woman know you are still interested by showing some affection (hand-holding, nice hugs, an occasional really nice kiss),
 
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pixychic is offline pixychic Post #10  March 22,2010, 1:08pm
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I feel the same way you do but I am on the woman's side of the fence. I want to build a firm relationship before sex also. Tell them what you want because you may be surprised. They may want what you want.
 
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